Pain Is the Result of Misunderstanding with Yourself
I am inspired to write this article as I watched the interview of Mrs. Seema Dewan with the journalist Ted Henry, where she beautifully shares her divine insights. She talks about what truly is hurt or pain?
She says, “All hurts are only the result of misunderstanding with yourself. You get hurt not because something wrong has happened to you but because you have not understood your ‘Self’. Because you have not understood who you really are, you are misunderstanding yourself to be the desireful 'I' within you, to be the real you.
As long as you confuse yourself with the desireful 'I', pain is inevitable.
Whatever you think yourself to be, you are not that, you are not that ever! Because you think yourself to be separate from that real ‘I’, you see ‘something’ as ‘different’ from you and so you get hurt, you feel pain and you then start looking outside for your protection and well being.
Self awareness of ‘thoughts’ therefore creates fear while awareness of ‘heart’ is a state of fearlessness”.
That means when we identify ourselves with our thoughts, we feel insecure and fearful. On the other hand, when we are focused on the indweller within our heart, we are fearless. You have to kill the delusion of being the wishful 'I' and start operating from the standpoint of your core i.e. Love.
Love is your inherent nature
Love knows no pain. Let the Love operate through you. Be the pure love that you essentially are. Develop confidence in your loving ‘Self.’ It is never about the other person. It is all about you. It is your thoughts that hurt you. Do not follow the thoughts. Let the Love take care of others ego!
Forgiveness must follow Pain
What should we do with the pain that we have accumulated within us as a result of misunderstandings?
Can holding on to past misunderstandings free you from pain? You can never be free until you have learnt to forgive any misunderstanding. And once you have forgiven you must never remember both the pain that you suffered and the forgiveness that you already gave.
Remember always whenever you are hurt within, that you have two options…either you impulsively take the pain and transfer its needles to another’s heart and suffer while watching the suffering of another…or …you make the pain numb by injecting into your fear the potent nectar of truth.
(Excerpt from the book ‘Inspiring thoughts’ by Seema Dewan)
Be forgiving of pain. Be free of resentments. Be immersed in peace. Be simple and forget the prick. Be brave to remember the truth!