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Forgiving Others Through Christ

Updated on January 16, 2014

Amen to this Video, The Holy Spirit was definetely flowing through the crowd!

Like many other people, I am sure we have people in our lives that have caused us pain, frustration, anger, and complete aggravation. It even so happens that we come to a point in our lives we just don’t want to deal with these people and avoid them at all costs. In thinking about this I find myself asking, is that how Jesus would feel towards another human being? How would he react to these kinds of people? I find it ultimately frustrating when the person is family and even as far as going to say a parent. A difficult person who has caused complete pain and suffering upon you beyond forgiveness from a worldly perspective. How is it right to be so vengeful against someone because you are trying to reflect the pain back onto them because of what they have done to you? I find that as I grow in my spiritual walk on the path of life with Christ that I can no longer be this way towards anyone, as Jesus would not have done this “Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection.And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.” Colossians 3:12-17

"Christ is With Us"
"Christ is With Us"

God Works Within Us

 A few months ago at a women’s group that was established in our church we were partnered up with an accountability partner.  Our mission was to work with one another and find what it was that we needed to work on pertaining to the fruits of the spirit.  These fruits are in Galatians 5:22-26 “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.  If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.”  I found myself thinking maybe I needed to work on self-control, however I feel that God did not have that plan for me.  I believe that God places difficult people in our lives for a reason, maybe because the people that we want most to be out of our lives are the ones that we most need in our lives…I have prayed to God and have asked him to help me grow in my areas of weakness, being humble always, and to have more patience, longsuffering for people, I think that the difficult person in my life has been placed there for this answer to my prayer…maybe also because God knows that in placing this person in my life He is ultimately helping me to become stronger in myself and helping me to become the person I need to be by working on my weak areas that I thought were strong.  It is by God’s will that he places people in our lives so that He is able to work in you and through you making things happen inside your soul.

"Do You Doubt?"
"Do You Doubt?"

Forgiveness

At a recent women’s group we focused on forgiveness. I am sure that the direction of the meeting went the way that God had intended as I feel everyone was able to get the answers they were seeking and being able to talk about things in any sense helps, especially when you are with kind hearted people that you trust and love as sisters in Christ. It is because of these women that I am able to write this tonight. I had issues with myself concerning honoring people, as it states in the Ten Commandments that you are to honor your mother and father. This had been hanging over my head for quite some time because I felt that if I did not honor one of my parents then I was not right with God, this however makes you fall under the law and when you are under the law you are in condemnation. God does not condemn anyone because if you are truly saved through Christ you are already right with God. This doesn’t mean that you can go out and do whatever you want, break rules, break laws, and endlessly get in trouble…what is meant by this is that you don’t need to fall back under the law as Christ died for us so that we could repent and be forgiven of our sins. We cannot in any way lead a completely sinless life, it is not possible, that is why Christ died for us so that through Him we are forgiven and can go to the Father even in our times of need. God knows everything about us and is forgiving of our wrongful doing even when we don’t really mean to do wrong.

What is forgiveness? Forgiving is to release the difficult people from your internal desire to pay them back for all of the frustration, difficulties, pain and wounds that they have placed on you, to look at them through God’s eyes. Forgive others as the Lord has forgiven you. To forgive is to loose, to lack forgiveness is vengeance. “Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. Be of the same mind toward one another. Do not set your mind on high things, but associate with the humble. Do not be wise in your own opinion. Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. Therefore if your enemy is hungry, feed him; If he is thirsty, give him a drink; For in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good” Romans 12:14-21

 

"Promise of Forgiveness"
"Promise of Forgiveness"

What is Acceptable to the Lord

Why be angry every day or every time you see a difficult person that is in your life?  We need to choose to be compassionate and patient.  To honor is to recognize, release the expectations that you have of the difficult person and ask God to help you.  To love is to love someone even when you don’t feel like it, Jesus loved everyone even the sinners, as we should.  Longsuffering (patience) is to have that long fuse so that it takes you a long time before you blow up, we are no better than anyone.  It is important that we refuse to allow irritation, frustration, or anger to erupt into negative thoughts, actions or words.  Words can be a blessing or a curse, to speak positively of someone is to bless them, even you, to speak negatively of someone is to curse them, again even you.  If you come to a point when you are around a difficult person and you feel that what you might say will be negative it is best to remove yourself from the situation before you curse them.  This cannot be changed overnight but it can be practiced.  Patience can be practiced by choosing the longest line in a checkout and not getting agitated, taking the long way to work without getting agitated by drivers, bringing a book or something to the doctor so that when you are in the waiting room and are longer than expected you do not become agitated, we are no better than anyone else.  In practicing these things we can help ourselves be more patient and over time it will become easy for us and our fuses will take a lot to reach the point of blowing up.  Humility is the beauty of holiness, it is not about me, me, me, as other people are in your life for a reason.  Learn from these people, there is a reason they are in your life.

Where is God working in your life?  What are your issues?  What have you prayed for that God may be using certain people to answer your prayer?  It is never a coincident that these things pop up in our lives when it is the work of God.  I recently answered a question that was asked on here about why prayers are not answered.  The funny thing is I told the person in the end of my response that God doesn’t always answer us in ways that we expect Him too, sometimes the answers are right in front of us and we don’t know it…and it has been in front of me all this time and I didn’t know it.  Love your enemies and do good for them, then your reward will be great, Jesus was kind to the wicked.  Be merciful as our Father is merciful to us.  “Finding out what is acceptable to the Lord” Ephesians 5:10

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    • Jokarenk profile imageAUTHOR

      Karen Wade 

      4 years ago from Addison, NY

      Thank You :)

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      manatita44 

      5 years ago from london

      Extremely loving thoughts. Forgiveness is so powerful!! Thanks for sharing.

    • Jokarenk profile imageAUTHOR

      Karen Wade 

      7 years ago from Addison, NY

      bettybarnesb, thank you I wish you a blessed New Year as well! I love reading the hubs in here as everyone has something to share with others that help in one way or another :)

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      bettybarnesb 

      7 years ago from Bartlett, TN

      Hey Jokarenk: Very inspiring hub. Although we know to forgive, sometimes we need reminding. This is why the christian community on hub pages is so imporant to me. Jesus forgives us every time we asked him with a sincere heart. Wishing you and your family health, peace and prosperity for 2011. Happy New Year!

    • Jokarenk profile imageAUTHOR

      Karen Wade 

      7 years ago from Addison, NY

      Thanks Michael, I appreciate it, I really like Chris Tomlin too, I would love to go to one of his concerts, It looked like a really great place to be especially worshipping with fellow believers.

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      Isaiah Michael 

      7 years ago from Wherever God leads us.

      Great hub very well put. Plus Chris Tomlin is my favorite Gospel singer. Great song

    • Jokarenk profile imageAUTHOR

      Karen Wade 

      7 years ago from Addison, NY

      lifegate, I am glad that this was helpful for you, I felt the need to share it on here, I think that many people go through this at one time or another and it gave me peace to understand it more clearly as I too needed to know this.

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      William Kovacic 

      7 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Jokarenk

      Thanks for a very timely and practical teaching.

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