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Friends: Our Chosen Family

Updated on July 22, 2020
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Rev. Margaret Minnicks is an ordained Bible teacher. She writes many articles that are Bible lessons.

Friend: Definition

According to most dictionaries, a friend is a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection. True friendship is not one-sided. Each person respects and looks out for the well being of the other. The relationship is stronger than just knowing someone or being acquainted with a person. The relationship goes much deeper than that. In order to be a true friend, three components must always exist.

  1. association
  2. loyalty
  3. affection

We don't have a choice who our relatives are. However, our friends are our chosen family. We chose them and they chose us according to similar likes, dislikes and things in common. Unfortunately, sometimes we have nothing in common with our own relatives.

Friends are our chosen family who knows all about us and loves us anyway. They are the people who stand by us through the good times and the bad times. Friends love us unconditionally.

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A friend is someone who knows all about you and loves you anyway!

Biblical Friends

There are at least 93 verses in the Bible with the word "friend" in them. For example, Jesus called His disciples "friends" (John 15:14-15).

Other friends in the Bible include:

  • God and Abraham
  • Ruth and Naomi
  • David and Jonathan
  • Job and his three friends
  • Daniel and his three friends
  • Lazarus, Mary, Martha and Jesus

Some of the friendships in the Bible stand out more than others.

Jonathan and David
No one can deny that Jonathan, the son of King Saul, and David were friends. It is ironic because David was an enemy of Saul. Jonathan and David's friendship is described like no other relationship in the entire Bible. According to 1 Samuel 18:1. "The soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul." The two men loved each other. They became one in spirit and loved each other as their own selves.

Before Jonathan died, he and David made an agreement that if anything happened to either one of them, the other would take care of their family. After Jonathan's death, David did not forget that promise. According to 2 Samuel 4:4, Jonathan's son, Mephibosheth was crippled in both feet. He was five years old when the news came that Saul and Jonathan had been killed. His nurse picked him up and fled, but as she hurried to leave, the boy fell and became disabled from that time.

When Mephibosheth was older, King David invited him to sit at the king's table. The crippled man was happy because while sitting at the table with others, no one could see that he was lame in both feet. He continually sat at David's table and fit into the crowd like everyone else (2 Samuel 9).

Lazarus, Mary, Martha, and Jesus
Jesus was a close friend to siblings Lazarus, Mary, and Martha of Bethany. Jesus visited them often and they spent a lot of time together. Jesus loved the family so much that it is stated three times in just one chapter John 11. It is repeated in verses 3, 5, and 36.

Gayle King and Oprah Winfrey
Gayle King and Oprah Winfrey | Source

Modern Day Friends

Today, people refer to their best friends as BFF that means "best friends forever." The friendship can exist between two women, two men, or a man and a woman. When people think of celebrity best friends, Oprah Winfrey and Gayle King come to mind. Usually, when people talk about one, the other is almost always mentioned in the same conversation.

The two well-known women have been best friends for over forty-four years. They first met at WJZ-TV in Baltimore, Maryland in 1976 where Oprah was an anchor and Gayle was a production assistant. They formed an instant bond. Today, the two women enhance each other lives. They chat almost every day, go on trips and other outings together as well as give each other honest advice. Oprah is the godmother to Gayle's two adult children.

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Family and Friends

We should continually thank God for the family we were born into. Those are the people who love us because they HAVE to.

We should also thank God for the family He allowed us to choose. Those are the people who love us because they WANT to.

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Your Best Friend Quote

Feel free to share your definition of friends or friendship in the comments section below. Also, share a favorite quote about friendship.

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    • Coffeequeeen profile image

      Louise Powles 

      2 years ago from Norfolk, England

      Yes, friends are very important. I only have a few friends, but they are all very special to me.

    • Lorna Lamon profile image

      Lorna Lamon 

      2 years ago

      Hi Margaret, I really enjoyed this piece - I still have friends from Primary School and they are just as important to me as family. The quote I relate to the most is "Keep your friendships in constant repair." Thank you for sharing.

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      Miebakagh Fiberesima 

      2 years ago from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, NIGERIA.

      Hey, Margaret, friends go deeper than that. Can he or she be there for the other person? When a friend can not, then loyalty can be called in question. That is a challenge. I think very few meet the criteria. Thanks for sharing.

    • revmjm profile imageAUTHOR

      Margaret Minnicks 

      2 years ago from Richmond, VA

      Thanks, Jason, for reading, commenting and sharing your definition of a "friend."

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      Jason Behm 

      2 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      It is a lovely article. I want to quote a saying in defining a friend, " A friend is someone you can be 101% yourself." And not only that, a true friend does not only accept who you are but also guides you to the right path. So choose your friends wisely.

    • revmjm profile imageAUTHOR

      Margaret Minnicks 

      2 years ago from Richmond, VA

      Pam, thanks so much for reading and commenting. I have over 800 other articles written in a similar format on various topics. When you get a chance, check them out by going to my profile.

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      Pam Morris 

      2 years ago from Atlanta Georgia

      Margaret, you write a lot of informative and thought-provoking articles. This is my first time replying to share with you I enjoy reading them and look forward to the next. Thank you for sharing this article on friends, I love how you start with the definition, spoke on Biblical Friends, best to modern, all well described.

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