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Has a Ghost Been Trying to Contact You?
Has a Ghost Been Trying to Tell You Something?
A lot of people seem to think (especially skeptics) that simply because they personally have not seen a ghost, that the concept of ghosts is just silly. But a lot of these people don't understand that a ghost may have tried to connect with them in the past, but because the individual didn't understand the communication, it was ignored or shrugged off as a "strange" event.
I have always considered myself fortunate that I am usually (say 90% of the time) aware of a ghostly presence from the moment it comes near me, but even I have been surprised by apparitions on a couple of occasions, as you would know if you had read my other Hubs. My husband, though, is totally different and although now he will make reference to our ghostly boarders on occasion, he does not admit to any interaction with ghosts himself. That was fine with both of us until the day his mother died.
When Someone You Love Dies
One of the reasons I am thrilled that I do have interaction with ghosts is because it gives me some comfort about what will happen when I die. My husband had been a staunch "nothing happens, you are dead" type person for years before he met me, and although he had relaxed his standpoint a bit over the years (he did fix the attic cover for me when I told him our ghostly boarder, Alice, was complaining about it) he was still sitting on the fence about the whole concept of ghosts and the afterlife.
But he was devastated when his mother died. He didn't realize it would hit him so hard. All of a sudden, he was hoping he would see her again in some form. To date, he hasn't. But that doesn't mean she hasn't been visiting, because she has. Which brings me to the question in this hub: has someone been trying to get in touch with you? If they are, how will you know?
The Subtle Way Ghosts Attract our Attention
The first awareness I had that my mother-in-law was around after her death was at her funeral. It was a typically somber affair, but I kept hearing somebody laughing while we were all sitting in the funeral home. I was keeping my head down, like you do when you are sad, but this laughing kept on. Eventually, I looked up and saw my mother-in-law sitting up on a shelf above her coffin. She was having so much fun. I was trying not to laugh with her, so I quickly put my head back down but my husband noticed what I was doing and asked me what I saw. I just whispered, "Your mum is having a lot more fun than we are," and we left it at that.
But there have been other things that my husband has noticed since her death. Light bulbs blowing for no reason; strange sounds like someone walking down the hallway or someone knocking on the door; laughter and familiar smells. I can always tell the difference between my mother and my mother-in-law when they visit because they both used different perfumes and liked different flowers.
Problems with anything electrical are a big indicator that someone is trying to attract your attention. I had been talking to hubby about my father and his new ladyfriend one night and as I got into bed the light on my side of the room went out; then the one next to my side of the bed and then when I went to find some new bulbs the television cut off and back on again and the hall light blew. I could tell there was no problem with the electricity circuits, because the only things that blew were what I had touched or was using. Finally I just called out, "It's not my fault, Mum, he wasn't going to stay on his own forever," and I heard a sigh. Then things went back to normal, just like that.
Ghostly Interactions: Have These Things Happened to You?
So if you are despairing the fact that you have not actually seen a ghost, or worried that you might have, ask yourself the following questions:
- Have you had sporadic problems with electrical equipment?
- Have you noticed a cold draft on a warm day?
- Do you suddenly smell something familiar to you when there is no apparent source of the smell?
- As you are drifting off to sleep, do you sometimes hear muted conversations even though you know nobody is around?
- Do you notice other sounds when you're sure no one is there, like a door closing or footsteps in the hall?
- Do you catch movement out of the corner of your eye, but when you turn to look there is nothing there?
These are just a few possible indicators of a ghostly presence. If you do experience them don't freak out about it; it's probably just someone popping in to say hello. If you want to learn more about interacting with ghosts or getting rid of them then please consider the resources in my book Can Ghosts Hurt You, which is available online.