How To Pray
What is Prayer
First we need to look at what is prayer?
Prayer is not just asking for things from God and expecting an answer right away, prayer is supposed to be our communication line to God the Father. We are supposed to communicate with the father in heaven like we communicate with one another here on earth. Many people do not know how to pray or they are intimidated to pray. Again praying to the father is supposed to be like talking to your best friend. In Colossians chapter4 verse 2 in the NKV version it says, Continue earnestly in prayer, be vigilant in it with thanksgiving.
The problem I see with a lot of people is that they don’t know how to pray, or are afraid they will make a mistake, or don’t know how to start to pray. Prayer is not supposed to be hard, and you should not have to feel stupid when praying in front of others. Prayer is supposed to be expressing our love to the father for being with us at all times, sharing our excitement with him, expressing our concerns and asking him for his help, giving thanks for helping us with a need, and venting to him about an issue that we are dealing with. Prayer does not have to be a bunch of preset words out of a book, of showing off quoting bible scripture, or sounding like some television preacher, we just need to be ourselves when we communicate to God our Father.God is more interested in the content of our hearts than the eloquence of our words.
The one thing you should ask yourself is, do you really have a true relationship with your father? Here is an example of this statement. Let’s say that you have not spoken to your earthly father for many years and all of a sudden you have a need of $10,000 dollars, do you really think he is going to answer that need after you have never even tried to communicate with him for many years. Now look at a daughter that has good communication and a loving relationship with her father, she comes to him with everything. Now she has a desperate need of this same $10,000 dollars and he understands her needs because she is open and communicates with him on a daily basis. He is more than generous to give her what she needs and maybe even more. Having a one on one relationship does matter and having this deep relationship will make it easier to communicate with the father.
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
16 Be joyful always, 17 pray at all times, 18 be thankful in all circumstances. This is what God wants from you in your life in union with Christ Jesus.
Then Jesus called for the children and said to the disciples, "Let the children come to me. Don't stop them! For the Kingdom of God belongs to those who are like these children.
Relationship with the Father
Many places in the bible it states that God our Father wants to have a loving relationship with us. To have a personal relationship with God is to include him in our daily lives in everything we do. God loves each of us unconditionally, what that means is that no matter how many times we have sinned or done wrong by him our Father in Heaven loves us unconditionally. God loves us even if we haven’t loved him. “In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us.” (1 John 4:10)
God has many plans for us while we are on this earth. For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart. (Jeremiah 29:11-13 ESV) God is here for us all the time just waiting for us to come to him and invite him to be part of our lives. This is what having a relationship with Jesus means.
Communication with the Heavenly Father
Praying is not science, it is just talking like you do to any earthly person. A good way to start is by first addressing God our Father with saying something like “Dear Lord Jesus, or Our Heavenly Father” anything like this is good After you have asked him to join you just share with him what is on your mind and heart. Then ask God for his forgiveness of our sins, it is best to confess these sins to him, some sin may be so small that you may not remember the sin itself. As things come to your mind that you feel you need to confess, do it right then and there. Also ask the father to bring to your knowledge of any hidden sin, and sins that you may have forgotten about.
Sin does keep us from bonding with the father or having a close relationship with him so it is best to ask for forgiveness in the beginning and then thank God for sending his son Jesus down to earth to die on the cross and freeing us of our sins. After we thanked God for freeing us of these sins it is now time to be yourself with God and communicate with him in your own words, not some ritual saying that you have been brought up with. God wants to hear your words and thoughts.
Pray without being anxious.
To many times I go to someone’s home for dinner and right before eating the host will say “ok, it is now time to pray” and then comes the same old ritual prayer “God bless these bounty’s that have been given to us, amen”. Way to often prayer is looked upon as a magical phrase or some sort of formula. A lot of people think that you have to stand or kneel in a certain way, the wording has to be just perfect. This is not biblical at all. God hears our prayers no matter how we look or how we say things. God say in 1 John 5:14-15 14 And we are confident that he hears us whenever we ask for anything that pleases him. 15 And since we know he hears us when we make our requests, we also know that he will give us what we ask for.
People also ask “what is the proper way to pray”? Philippians 4:6-7 tells us to pray without being anxious, to pray about everything, and to pray with thankful hearts. God will answer all such prayers with the gift of His peace in our hearts.” Always be honest with God, he knows our heart and our minds. We are always supposed to go to God for everything, but keep in mind God knows what is best for us and will not give us something that is not in his will for us at that time. Later on in life on his timetable he may grant us what we were asking for after he knows the time is right.
Then he said, "I tell you the truth, unless you turn from your sins and become like little children, you will never get into the Kingdom of Heaven.