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How to Deal With Loneliness When Living Alone

Updated on February 20, 2014

Living alone definitely has its benefits. Some love it, others despise it. Just because you live alone doesn't mean you have to be lonely. However, many people who do live alone, are dealing with loneliness and hopelessness. Finding a way to overcome loneliness can be challenging.

Self Worth

I believe that your self-worth plays a major role in how you deal with loneliness. Are you whole and complete within yourself? God created Eve for Adam and said it was not good for man to be alone. That still holds true. But until you are introduced to your life mate, I believe God wants us to realize who we are as a complete being. I haven’t bought into the “you complete me” statement. I believe we should be complete (whole) within ourselves first. When we connect with someone who is also complete (whole), we have two wholes uniting as opposed to two halves uniting. That is a more powerful union.

People who have low or no self-worth often times find it hard to be alone. It’s difficult for them to enjoy an evening alone because they need someone with them who will help validate who they are. I’ve often heard people say that you can be in a room full of people and still be lonely. That is a true statement. That statement further proves that loneliness is an internal problem- not an external situation.

Know That You're Not Alone

Remember the Michael Jackson song “You are not alone, I am here with you, though we’re far apart, you’re always in my heart.” (or something like that). Those words are also being spoken to the lonely at heart by Jesus. When the lonely realize that they are never alone with Jesus, there is comfort. When you develop a relationship with Him, you understand it when he says “lo I am with you always”. When you have someone to help you deal with loneliness, it makes life a lot easier.

Jesus would be followed by crowds and crowds of people. He had his inner circle of the disciples around him as well. Every now and then, Jesus would go off to be alone. He found strength, communion and peace when he was alone with His Father. What does that tell us? We can find the same peace and strength when we are alone.

Get Busy

It is hard to be lonely when you’re busy. If your church has a singles ministry, join it. Beware of singles ministries that are solely about hooking up with someone. A good singles ministry will also provide bible study as it relates to being single. It will help you deal with singleness, loneliness and hopelessness. A good singles ministry should also provide some type of community service so you can focus on helping others and not yourself.

If you are dealing with loneliness, know that God is with you, know there is help… just reach out for it. Don't let lonelines overcome you. Be proactive, keep busy... focus on someone else in need. When we do that, we will realize how blessed we really are.

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    • Evans4life profile imageAUTHOR

      Evans4life 

      3 years ago

      Whatever- I'm so glad you have it all together and are socially adept and never are lonely. Believe or not this article has helped someone. Thanks for you opinion.

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      whatever 

      3 years ago

      "This has got to be one of the largest pieces of bull shit I have ever read." That is a quote, and not my own words. But let me continue on what I hear of this article.. " I guess I did not correctly understand the premonition associated with the few words that I google'd, but apparently they were closely associated with the idea of GOD and his/her (that is silly, god does not have a sex) beliefs about the human race. You feel alone because that is what animals feel when you are literally "left alone", you deserve it because you do not know how to surround yourself with others in society that are meant to fulfill your desire for companionship. It is about time that you, and I quote, "sucked it up" and made a few friends. You might as well risk being a little crazy in front of others before you kill yourself. There is literally nothing to lose."

    • Evans4life profile imageAUTHOR

      Evans4life 

      4 years ago

      If either of you are still legally married, God is not pleased. Empty your hands, heal and then move on. Thanks for stopping by.

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      Chrissy 

      4 years ago

      Hi, am a young lady and am dating a divorced guy with kids. I was nt the course of the divorce and i met him 12 yrs after his divorce. He is a good guy and he really want to start a family with me, get married, ve more kids n we are both God fearing. Is it right to be in such a relationship? Please advise me coz am so inlove with him but i don't know if God is happy with us.

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      Janae 

      4 years ago

      Her advice definitely on point !!! Thank you !

    • Evans4life profile imageAUTHOR

      Evans4life 

      5 years ago

      Good point Grant and I have experienced those feelings as well. I still feel that those feelings stem from some inadequacies of self and not being whole within. It's a hard feeling to overcome but it can be done with Christ. Thanks for your comment.

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      Grant 

      5 years ago

      I'm afraid being busy or amongst people doesn't always help, from personal experience that is when I often have felt the most alienated from everyone. It's when your among a crowd or trying to socialise but just not able to make that connection with people that you can how isolated you really are can come and slap you in the face.

    • Evans4life profile imageAUTHOR

      Evans4life 

      6 years ago

      That is a very good point... Use the time to do you!

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      Derrick Bennett 

      6 years ago

      That's why its best to work on yourself especially after a breakup

    • Evans4life profile imageAUTHOR

      Evans4life 

      6 years ago

      So true and the desperation causes us to make bad life decision.

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      Derrick Bennett 

      6 years ago

      What a beautiful article. A lot of people may not know where they are going so the are desparatly look for someone

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