How to Deal With Loneliness When Living Alone
Living alone definitely has its benefits. Some love it, others despise it. Just because you live alone doesn't mean you have to be lonely. However, many people who do live alone, are dealing with loneliness and hopelessness. Finding a way to overcome loneliness can be challenging.
I believe that your self-worth plays a major role in how you deal with loneliness. Are you whole and complete within yourself? God created Eve for Adam and said it was not good for man to be alone. That still holds true. But until you are introduced to your life mate, I believe God wants us to realize who we are as a complete being. I haven’t bought into the “you complete me” statement. I believe we should be complete (whole) within ourselves first. When we connect with someone who is also complete (whole), we have two wholes uniting as opposed to two halves uniting. That is a more powerful union.
People who have low or no self-worth often times find it hard to be alone. It’s difficult for them to enjoy an evening alone because they need someone with them who will help validate who they are. I’ve often heard people say that you can be in a room full of people and still be lonely. That is a true statement. That statement further proves that loneliness is an internal problem- not an external situation.
Know That You're Not Alone
Remember the Michael Jackson song “You are not alone, I am here with you, though we’re far apart, you’re always in my heart.” (or something like that). Those words are also being spoken to the lonely at heart by Jesus. When the lonely realize that they are never alone with Jesus, there is comfort. When you develop a relationship with Him, you understand it when he says “lo I am with you always”. When you have someone to help you deal with loneliness, it makes life a lot easier.
Jesus would be followed by crowds and crowds of people. He had his inner circle of the disciples around him as well. Every now and then, Jesus would go off to be alone. He found strength, communion and peace when he was alone with His Father. What does that tell us? We can find the same peace and strength when we are alone.
- Hubs to Read When You're Lonely
Here are ten sample articles on different views of loneliness -- one published in each month between September 2011-August 2012. You'll want to bookmark at least one just in case you need it.
It is hard to be lonely when you’re busy. If your church has a singles ministry, join it. Beware of singles ministries that are solely about hooking up with someone. A good singles ministry will also provide bible study as it relates to being single. It will help you deal with singleness, loneliness and hopelessness. A good singles ministry should also provide some type of community service so you can focus on helping others and not yourself.
If you are dealing with loneliness, know that God is with you, know there is help… just reach out for it. Don't let lonelines overcome you. Be proactive, keep busy... focus on someone else in need. When we do that, we will realize how blessed we really are.