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How to Develop Fearlessness

Updated on March 27, 2010

This is such a funny video. Please listen it while reading the hub.

 I remember having to spank my only child one day when he was really little. I was crying on the inside while I was doing it but it needed to be done. It was for his own good.

I had to write a quite painful letter the other day. It was to cut off communications with someone I was, and still am, quite fond of. A beloved friend. I did not want to do it but it was necessary.

I had to examine why it was painful. It was because I had to confront my own emotions, the ones that I consider improper and not worthy of me. Not only am I vain, I am also spiritually materialistic. The paradox is that as one becomes spiritually materialistic, it is the same time that one becomes spiritually bankrupt.

There are feelings that we categorize as "not belonging" to a spiritually mature individual: jealousy, rage, envy, thoughts of veangeance, possessivenes. These are considered "bad" feelings.

To develop fearlessness is to confront that which we fear face to face.

This is what is painful. When one decides that it is time to sever one's relationship to rejecting these feelings as bad, a radical severance is required. It is painful to cut through frivolity because we want to hang on to it. It is our nature to want to do so.

Frivolity comes in many forms, not necessarily as simple as vanity paying so much attention to how one looks physically. It could take the form of greed in the sense of spiritual progress. This is even more dangerous than simple vanity.

Just like an umbilical cord that needs to be cut, one has to have ruthless compassion towards oneself when using the Sword of Manjusri. Above all else, it requires absolute honesty with oneself, to accept rather than shove under the rug, to be able to say yes they are there, these feelings and that they do not necessarily diminish oneself.

These feelings are thoughts, fueled with emotions, but when we relate to them fully we find that just like everything else, they pass. To reject them is to empower them and to empower them is to not recognize the fact that like everything else, they are an avenue to freedom.

On the one hand, while it is painful to acknowledge these emotions, facing them with the Sword of Manjusri allows one to do the right thing for oneself- to realize that to progress on the path to freedom, one has to cut through frivolities, not of ones relationship with others but with oneself, and to transmute the fiery nature of emotions.

To become fearless is to reclaim authentic power and to know that everything, every event, every person that we meet, we created in order to usher us to absolute freedom. We invited them there at the deepest level because in the more encompassing view, our objective is to realize that only our thoughts separate us from others.

So we acknowledge that the other person or event was not the cause of anger, it is rather oneself rejecting feelings as they come and questioning why they arise when one is supposed to be above them. We accept that we have them, we do not hang on to them, we do not act on them, rather we observe them. This is discriminating awareness.

And we give thanks for all that there was and hope that in some way we have enriched someone else's life if only for a short time, and that to let them grow, we have to respect their free wills and honor their paths.

*Manjusri is the god of discriminating awareness. In the Buddhist literature, his flaming sword is the symbol of wisdom and ruthless compassion, the one that cuts through all duality, arrogance and frivolity.


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      msorensson 7 years ago

      Thank you Katie :-)

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      katiem2 7 years ago from I'm outta here

      Many if not all of us need to develop fearlessness especially in these times. We need to adapt to the changes going on in our society and change ourselves with such change many are stopped dead in their tracts by fear which prevents them from succeeding. How to develop Fearlessness is vital and a must share. Thank you for a clear plan of action. Peace :)

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      msorensson 7 years ago

      Thank you, Tony :-)

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      Tony McGregor 7 years ago from South Africa

      I love the Sword of Manjusri! Had never heard of it before but now I've read up about it a bit. Thanks for leading me there!

      Love and peace


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      msorensson 7 years ago

      Hey Holle, we all have those. We call them inner dragons :-). We acknowledge them and befriend them.

      Thanks for dropping by.

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      Holle Abee 7 years ago from Georgia

      I'm fearless in some areas, but fearful in others. I'm very afraid of tonadoes and heights! lol

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      msorensson 7 years ago

      Very apt, Peggy, thank you. Thanks.

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      Peggy Woods 7 years ago from Houston, Texas

      Sometimes doing the right thing (especially when it comes to dissolving relationships!) can be painful at first...but it gets easier as time passes.

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      msorensson 7 years ago

      Thank you Suny!!

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      suny51 7 years ago

      Hi msorensson

      Every word is true feelings of a person with sweet and lovely sentiments,the one who shall feel pain even when has to sever relations with 'some one' no more found worthy of friendship.I wouldn't like to be that 'some one' for any one.

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      msorensson 7 years ago

      Indeed, Billy. Thanks for dropping by.

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      billyaustindillon 7 years ago

      Melinda thanks for sharing - the only thing to fear is fear itself :)

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      msorensson 7 years ago

      Thank you, DeBorrah :-)

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 7 years ago

      Msorensson, Very thought provoking! "To develop fearlessness is to confront that which we fear face to face"

      This is point on! It is importatnt that we regularly take self inventory! Thank you for candidly sharing! In His love & Blessings!

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      msorensson 7 years ago

      Thank you, Property-Invest for reading the hub and leaving a comment. Much appreciated.

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      Property-Invest 7 years ago from London

      What a courageous and straightforward hub! thanks for the great writing.