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I Walk a mile with Sorrow

Updated on September 10, 2012

Once upon a Time

There are many times during life's journey that we went through one changes after another in attitude and behavior then found ourselves lost and confused about who we really are. Some experiences in our past transforms us into either a better version of ourselves or a bitter person. I have gone through many changes that I had not noticed at first, nor do my friends realized it. I thought I was always the same person but for a tiny change of reaction in handling matters but basically the same attitude. In fact, I had changed. It all started within and then my behavior gradually took a turn for the worst.

I was opinionated but refuse to judge. Strong principled yet extremely emotional, thus my actions are spontaneous and childish at times. I thought I was humble and knew humility. I also thought I was a tough girl who is not easily influenced by the toxic environment I've been living with since an early age. I hadn't fall into temptation even when those around me started to change their ways long ago. I read the book "Man In the Mirror" once, and understand about the other type of pride. Perhaps this inner pride got too big, and I had my share of falling. It had inspire the beginning of a short story, titled 'Fallen Grace' a couple of years back, which still sits in a box somewhere.

A fellow hubber, asked "What is the most difficult phase in your life?" Her question made me think of a time that I still find hard to forget. It could be the most difficult phase that truly transform me to the person I am today. I am not where I am heading yet, but I am going there.

My answer to Mkrandhawa's question:

When I had to give up the rights to the love of my life, learn the REAL meaning of humility, being accused and insulted, battling severe depression without support and understanding,in the brink of losing my mind and in denial over it all, seek substance abuse to drown images that seems to replay all day, ending in myself sabotaging any happiness that showed up and unconsciously provoke abuse from others as a way to punish myself. The circle went on and on until I became a person I do not know anymore. Friends deserted me, others snicker when I am present. It has gotten so bad, that I learnt to numb myself from any feelings, but I would weep under the shower in self loathing unable to forgive myself the most and not understanding how a decent girl came this far from her true nature. When I am alone in bed, I would start to bawl in self pity.

I know what I am sharing here is not even a scoop of the ordeal I went through. Not as much physical pain as it is an 'emotional trauma' and a weakness of my part that was tested. I have no regrets for what had happened but I am thankful for the experience that has managed to change my attitude and mature me.

Heck, it wasn't very long ago, but for all it's worth, I am now able to let go and well on my way back to the girl i used to be. I can never be the same person I was but hoping that I am now a bit more wiser.


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    • ginjill ashberry profile imageAUTHOR

      Ashley TKL 

      7 years ago

      Hi Scarface..I believe the compliment suits you best. You are a brilliant writer..Thank you for the motivation!

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      Scarface1300 

      7 years ago

      For such a talent to stop writing is indeed a sin. Keep with it girl...Great Work

    • ginjill ashberry profile imageAUTHOR

      Ashley TKL 

      7 years ago

      Thank you,Richard. It's people like you that encourages others to be the best that they can be :)

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      Richard Craig 

      7 years ago from England

      A very touching read. I can't believe you gave up on writing, you obviously have talent. Keep expressing through your words, support will always be here on HP.

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      SusieQ42 

      7 years ago

      You're very welcome! I do understand. I've known the Lord for 30 years and learned that being understanding (not judging) is a blessing to people. Too many people think Christians are self righteous. I got rid of that too...

    • ginjill ashberry profile imageAUTHOR

      Ashley TKL 

      7 years ago

      God Bless You, Susie! I love you already. Thank you for understanding.

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      SusieQ42 

      7 years ago

      I'm praying for you. Your story has left me hoping that all is well. Now I see your need for peace. I'll ask the Lord to help you grow in wisdom and give you that peace that surpasses all understanding. Just keep talking to Him! I love your hub and I love you! Voted up and awesome.

    • ginjill ashberry profile imageAUTHOR

      Ashley TKL 

      7 years ago

      Thank you for dropping by Ken. Just sharing some..Glad you like it.

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      kenneth3watson 

      7 years ago from Washington, USA

      Nice and beautiful thought about life.. I am really amazed.

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