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I Was Disowned

Updated on March 21, 2016

Mary Kay made a fortune because she understood the essential need for all humans, to be the center of attention, to be noticed, to be loved. This fundamental element of mankind extends to relationships too. Yet, as humans we build walls, we don't build connections. If we actively built connections, we would have had world peace, yet for centuries we have fought.

Religions sadly build some of the biggest walls. Jesus came to save us and unite us. He never meant for a divide. He meant for love, review his actions and you will see we all one family, a family with unconditional love. All our sins are forgiven.

Yet throughout my life, I have been abandoned. The sorrow, the sadness, the loneliness and yet there has been one constant, my God. My savior my Lord.

There is only one sin God will not forgive and that is blasphemy against the holy spirit, against God's very essence. We must look to our friends and family and forgive. I know it hard. Forgiveness is the hardest challenge we have in life. Nothing is more difficult. The anger, the resentment, the feeling of being shunned, abandoned create a fear so deep that we cannot rise above it. But we can with the help of the holy spirit. With God's grace, we can heal, we can forgive.

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John Lennon Quotes on Peace

If everyone demanded peace instead of another television set, then there'd be peace.

John Lennon

I believe in God, but not as one thing, not as an old man in the sky. I believe that what people call God is something in all of us. I believe that what Jesus and Mohammed and Buddha and all the rest said was right. It's just that the translations have gone wrong.

John Lennon

A dream you dream alone is only a dream. A dream you dream together is reality.

John Lennon

Jews and Christians Share the Same Story

Yes, Jews do not believe in the new testaments and while Christians believe Jesus was here and is coming again, the Jews are more similar to us Christians in that they too are waiting for Jesus to return.

Jews and Christians share the old testament and yet we want to look at the differences. Why do we not look for the common ground and the similarities?

My Personal Story of Being Disowned as a Christian

I was disowned. I have been forgotten, I have been banished. I have been "courted" by a Jehovah Witness, I have been befriended by a Catholic friend who later became my RCIA sponsor and now I have been abandoned by both "friends".

For you see, I was disowned because I did choose their way. I chose not to join "their church". After much reflection, my husband and I were married in a nondenominational church.

These "friends" have abandoned me.

Me - an orphan with no family. Me a widow whose husband died many years ago. Me - woman seeking friendship - true friendship. Me - woman who married for the second time in her life 2 weeks ago. Me - abandoned by two females I had once proudly called friends.

Oh, the world is wicked with hatred. Oh, I long for trust and understanding.

Muslims and Christian divides - and yet close religious choices here in the land of freedom are readily forgotten and friendships broken over the "religious divide".

Don't cry for me, pray for me but first pray for peace. Pray for wisdom - across the entire world.

I long for a world of true peace and love.

I long for John Lennon's Imagine....

Imagine with Lyrics

Feeling of Abandonment - Loneliness - Disownment

Am I the only one who has been abandoned in the name of choosing another religion? How can this be in a "Christian" society? What did Jesus' words, I am the truth and the way mean to you? Should it mean one religion is right and we abandon friends because they choose another path?


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    • ALL4JESUS profile image

      ALL4JESUS 15 months ago from USA

      Hi Jay,

      Multiple worlds, life after death, heaven and hell, all are mysteries beyond human knowledge. Many have claimed to be able to guide. Most scholars caution on not delving into the "mystic" side of our lives but it raises many questions. You have many fascinating hubs. If I might suggest, take a look at Swendenborg. He has some other realm insights.

      Like all prophets, it is important to remember, Jesus' words are what we must follow. I found it fascinating that Jefferson actually cut out the entire bible with the exception of Jesus' words.

      The saying that knowledge is power I don't believe is true. I believe faith is power and that God will provide wisdom if you simply ask.

      James 1:5 If any of you lack wisdom, ask God...God gives generously....

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      Jay C OBrien 21 months ago from Houston, TX USA

      I am reading a book, "The Light Beyond," by Raymond a Moody, Jr., M.D. It and his prior books are about Near Death Experiences (NDEs). In some NDEs a clinical death occurs. In some of those cases an out of body experience (OOBE) occurs. Some OOBEs have been verified. Therefore Some NDEs prove the existence of an afterlife. Many people experiencing an NDE report a being(s) of light.

      Did Jesus have an NDE? Is an NDE a Resurrection? Is a verified OOBE proof of an afterlife?

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      ALL4JESUS 22 months ago from USA

      Righteous Atheist,

      I appreciate the comments and assure you I take them to heart. I know that I cannot judge. I fear for the hate in your heart and the division it creates with our God, our father in heaven.

      I will keep you in my prayers and submit your name to our prayer chain at church.

      In Christ's love, I pray you may feel his great love for you.

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      Righteous Atheist 3 years ago

      Well - I hope that one day you come to your sense and understand the division you complain about is caused by your self and others who think they are fighting for unity by trying to get everyone else to believe the same nonsense they believe. Whatever version that may be. Off hand I can't think of anything more condescending than what you just said to me. Blessings back at you cousin - May you open your mind and free yourself of your delusion.

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      ALL4JESUS 3 years ago from USA

      Righteous Atheist,

      I am so glad you visited us here. I respect your opinion and greatly appreciate hearing from you.

      Jesus came to save - our salvation is recognizing that the sword is the wrong way. The fight for right and wrong is what Adam and Eve brought to us. Yes, it is a bloody fight but if we remember the entire story of the bible and see the big picture, we know that we are all brothers and sisters in Christ. We share a humanity that is filled with strife and destruction - and we are our own worst enemies.

      God is in everything and yet the evil one wants to hide this fact from us for his benefit.

      We must take up our sword and fight for the unity of the world. In Christ we are united but we must not be misled. Love and peace come from God.

      I pray you are one day able to open your heart to see the global picture and look beyond the hate and intolerance and see all of humanity for what it can be - a united force of humans loving one another and recognizing more items in common than different. We must keep the end goal in perspective and that is Jesus came to save, he knows we are sinners, he knows the fight will be bloody and yet he has unconditional love because we are all of him.

      Blessings brother you and your family, may you open your heart and feel God's grace.

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      Righteous Atheist 4 years ago

      Like all the Christians you wrote about in your hub? I will continue to point of why your beliefs cause so much conflict in the hope that you will one day open your mind to reality and see that the delusion you are suffering from is the root cause of the sorrow, sadness and loneliness you suffered from. Inventing an Invisible Friend is not the answer - sorry. I also suggest you go back and read your bible some more. According to that Jesus did not come to unite anyone - nor has this belief done so judging by your experiences. “Think not that I came to send peace on the earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. For I came to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law” Matthew 10:34-35

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      ALL4JESUS 4 years ago from USA

      Righteous Atheist,

      I greatly appreciate your comments. It is a big world out there with many different beliefs. Our God is a kind God and I know he speak with us at some point our life. I pray that you open your heart and hear his voice - he loves you and wishes to be with you. Calm your anger, open your heart and pray and you will be able to feel God's love and hear his voice.

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      Righteous Atheist 4 years ago

      Yup - this is one of the most divisive beliefs ever invented. How odd you complain about that yet still cling to it. "You are either with me or against me" is pretty clear. This is why this nonsensical belief has caused so many wars and conflicts. Disgusting. :(

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      ALL4JESUS 7 years ago from USA


      You are very wise. And Cicero is right - I just like the results of the testing - I just pray that when I am tested - I can rise above it.

      Thank you for your kind words - very much needed and appreciated.

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      pmccray 7 years ago from Utah

      Kudos to Lance Crow - Too many "organized" religions pay lip service as being Christians and are the worse sinners Monday - Saturday.

      Don't forget that the Lord Jesus Christ had no standing, brick and mortar church. One of the times He lost His temper was on "church" grounds for turning His house of worship into a house of money changers.

      As far as the "friends" you lost? They were not true friends to begin with, they did you a favor.

      You have to make some hurtful decisions in life, that's part of the growing process.

      "Friends are proved by adversity" - Marcus Tullius Cicero

      Voted up, marked useful, beautiful and shared.

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      ALL4JESUS 7 years ago from USA


      Thank you so much for your words of encouragement - need those kind words and thoughts.

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      Pastor Dr. Carlotta Boles 7 years ago from BREAKOUT MINISTRIES, INC. KC

      Know that Jesus is with you no matter what! Much Love my friend!!!!

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      ALL4JESUS 7 years ago from USA


      I didn't understand your moniker until I reread your profile. I now see the ex jw for what it is.

      You are absolutely right - and very wise, false friends.

      I will take your advice and return in prayer to release my sadness and find joy with my Lord.

      Thank you for your kind words of love and enlightenment - very much needed in this time of isolation.

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      ALL4JESUS 7 years ago from USA

      Apostle Jack,

      Thank you for your words of encouragement - you are right I must continue to hold my head high and know redemption is near. Bless you and your family and thank you for your kind words.

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      Lance Crowe 7 years ago

      Sounds like you met people from the PR division of Christianity. They're just representitives of Christianity, not a reflection. At the end of the day, right wrong or indifferent, whatever choices you make are between you and God, Allah or whomever you choose to answer to. Let no one one judge you unless it's by your standard.

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      exjwlaurie 7 years ago

      Dear All4Jesus,

      You are not alone in Christ! If he dwells in your heart, you will never be alone again! Though the world disowns us, remember with gladness; "if you were a part of this world, the world would be fond of what is its own. Now, because you are no part of this world, but I have chosen you OUT of the world, on this account the world hates you." John 15:19

      Greater is he who is in us, than he who is in the world! Walk in peace my sister, our Lord will soon be here! He has conquered the world, put your complete trust in him who saves.

      Satan loves to make people believe they are rejected, alone. Don't fall for his ploys!

      In truth, if we are feeling separate--it is because we are "foreign residents" in a world that is about to pass away! To soon be replaced by the Kingdom we all pray for. You are never alone, if you are "in Christ"!

      Release your sadness in prayer! You are NOT alone! Though friends may seem to betray or leave you; in-so-doing, they show themselves to be false friends, so what have you lost?

      I think you are wonderful, special and so loved by our Lord who saves the broken-hearted! May God bless you, and keep you, sister All4Jesus! =)

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      Apostle Jack 7 years ago from Atlanta Ga

      You sound like a man of many between a rock and a hard place.Hold your head up,for your redemption draweth nigh.