Bless or Depressed?
Blessed are the meek says the Bible. This is what I thought about the other day when I noticed that my daughter was depressed. She looked like she had lost her best friend. We know the look. As a Mother I was concerned, when it comes to my children. I tried making her feel better but, nothing worked. I reached out to her to find out what had happened. I tried to get her to talk about how she was feeling in hopes to help her find the relief she needed. But, despite all of my efforts she refused to open up.
I reminded her, that in order for her to rid that which was making her depressed, that she needed to let out and once she did release this she would feel better as sometimes just getting something off your chest will release that depressed feeling. I reminded her that if she kept it inside, it would only make things worst and by holding on to the depressed thoughts would eventually make her even more depressed and could lead to more problems.
After several attempts, I finally made a connection. She explained to me that she was feeling depressed with school, her future, herself and her life overall. Depressed about the best way to work with the teachers in her AP classes (advance placement), depressed with what is going to be when she finishes college, depressed with her image and weight and the frustration of life overall.
She said she was feeling pressure from her AP classes - (Advanced Placement) and that the teachers were very difficult to please and despite her efforts she felt as though she was not getting any where with them. She knows the significance of getting a good grades from them as each (AP class) will save us $3,000 in college loans. Now, she is carrying two AP classes along with her current schedule. We discussed some ways to help her to acquire her goals. I also explained to her that she may need to humble herself and release the pride so she can accept the criticism and look for ways to improve - for it can only help her in the long run.
We talked about herself and how she is depressed with her image and her depression about her weight fluctuation. I reminded her that it is more important to be healthy than thin. I reminded her not to confuse her self image with the images the media projects as they alter images all the time and it is not a good example to try and follow them as what you see on TV is not real life. I reminded her that the outer beauty fades and the real beauty is within a woman. Our bodies get old and that what ever we do not like about ourselves we should work on making better but, do not change herself to suit anyone. I reminded her that she is lovely on the inside as well as on the outside. She has beautiful graceful image and poise that would attract a good man, once that time came.
After all of this we discussed, her depressed feeling started to leave and I saw a smile again. So, I went in my bedroom and pulled out my jewelry box a pin my husband gave me one day. I knew this was the time to share the meaning of this pin with her. I told her why her Dad bought this pin for me and how it helped me beat my depression.
I handed her the pin and she read the three words of encouragement written on it which said, "I am blessed." I told her that when I looked at it, it reminded me of who I am and that God accepts me and loves me just as I am. I told her that when I feel depressed, I take out my pin and keep it with me on my desk where I can see it all the time. I shared with her that this pin it comforts me and the depression goes away. So, I asked her if I gave her permission to carry it with her - only temporarily - would she try it to help her remove the depression from her life and she agreed. I did remind her that she could use it for as long as she needed it. In addition, I asked her to keep it in her pocket unlatched because when the pin stuck her that the pin piercing her skin would serve as a reminder to her that "She is blessed and accepted by God just as she is."
She kept the pin for a few days and told me that her depression left and her heart was free again. I noticed her attitude changed, the sparkle in her eyes returned and her smile lit up the room again. She said that she felt a peace unlike before and she thanked me for allowing her to carry my "special pin."
I hope that this story encourages you to help someone you know who is suffering from depression. A simple pin, made of metal, with some paint and three words given to a friend or loved one with a need to be rid of depression free the spirit. It can mean so much to a person and help them get over a difficult time. So I challenge you today to buy a pin, with words of encouragement or that reminds and lend it out to them for their use. It can really change two peoples lives. The friend and you. Both of you will be blessed by the Lord himself. Amen.