ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Bless or Depressed?

Updated on August 26, 2013

Bless

Blessed are the meek says the Bible. This is what I thought about the other day when I noticed that my daughter was depressed. She looked like she had lost her best friend. We know the look. As a Mother I was concerned, when it comes to my children. I tried making her feel better but, nothing worked. I reached out to her to find out what had happened. I tried to get her to talk about how she was feeling in hopes to help her find the relief she needed. But, despite all of my efforts she refused to open up.

I reminded her, that in order for her to rid that which was making her depressed, that she needed to let out and once she did release this she would feel better as sometimes just getting something off your chest will release that depressed feeling. I reminded her that if she kept it inside, it would only make things worst and by holding on to the depressed thoughts would eventually make her even more depressed and could lead to more problems.

After several attempts, I finally made a connection. She explained to me that she was feeling depressed with school, her future, herself and her life overall. Depressed about the best way to work with the teachers in her AP classes (advance placement), depressed with what is going to be when she finishes college, depressed with her image and weight and the frustration of life overall.

She said she was feeling pressure from her AP classes - (Advanced Placement) and that the teachers were very difficult to please and despite her efforts she felt as though she was not getting any where with them. She knows the significance of getting a good grades from them as each (AP class) will save us $3,000 in college loans. Now, she is carrying two AP classes along with her current schedule. We discussed some ways to help her to acquire her goals. I also explained to her that she may need to humble herself and release the pride so she can accept the criticism and look for ways to improve - for it can only help her in the long run.

We talked about herself and how she is depressed with her image and her depression about her weight fluctuation. I reminded her that it is more important to be healthy than thin. I reminded her not to confuse her self image with the images the media projects as they alter images all the time and it is not a good example to try and follow them as what you see on TV is not real life. I reminded her that the outer beauty fades and the real beauty is within a woman. Our bodies get old and that what ever we do not like about ourselves we should work on making better but, do not change herself to suit anyone. I reminded her that she is lovely on the inside as well as on the outside. She has beautiful graceful image and poise that would attract a good man, once that time came.

After all of this we discussed, her depressed feeling started to leave and I saw a smile again. So, I went in my bedroom and pulled out my jewelry box a pin my husband gave me one day. I knew this was the time to share the meaning of this pin with her. I told her why her Dad bought this pin for me and how it helped me beat my depression.

I handed her the pin and she read the three words of encouragement written on it which said, "I am blessed." I told her that when I looked at it, it reminded me of who I am and that God accepts me and loves me just as I am. I told her that when I feel depressed, I take out my pin and keep it with me on my desk where I can see it all the time. I shared with her that this pin it comforts me and the depression goes away. So, I asked her if I gave her permission to carry it with her - only temporarily - would she try it to help her remove the depression from her life and she agreed. I did remind her that she could use it for as long as she needed it. In addition, I asked her to keep it in her pocket unlatched because when the pin stuck her that the pin piercing her skin would serve as a reminder to her that "She is blessed and accepted by God just as she is."

She kept the pin for a few days and told me that her depression left and her heart was free again. I noticed her attitude changed, the sparkle in her eyes returned and her smile lit up the room again. She said that she felt a peace unlike before and she thanked me for allowing her to carry my "special pin."

I hope that this story encourages you to help someone you know who is suffering from depression. A simple pin, made of metal, with some paint and three words given to a friend or loved one with a need to be rid of depression free the spirit. It can mean so much to a person and help them get over a difficult time. So I challenge you today to buy a pin, with words of encouragement or that reminds and lend it out to them for their use. It can really change two peoples lives. The friend and you. Both of you will be blessed by the Lord himself. Amen.

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • sroberts9 profile imageAUTHOR

      sroberts9 

      7 years ago from Northern Virginia

      Edoka thank you for the lovely compliment.

    • Edoka Writes profile image

      Edoka Writes 

      7 years ago

      Your daughter will be a good mother, because you are. God Bless and thank you for sharing.

    • sroberts9 profile imageAUTHOR

      sroberts9 

      7 years ago from Northern Virginia

      FaithDream thank you for the lovely compliment. I love my children and want only the best for them both. It's funny she says - "Mom's in Mother mode" - which makes me smile. I am blessed with two great young women of tomorrow and I pray that I can see them grow, get married, have children and live a long happy life filled with true love and success. God Bless you and your family.

    • FaithDream profile image

      FaithDream 

      7 years ago from (Midwest) USA

      You are an awesome mother. One day your smart daughter will look back and remember that day. She will be encouraged. You have created a special bond. The bond that cannot be broken between mothers and daughters.

      I have an adult daughter, who is a nurse. She reminds me everyday by her acts of courage how much she loves and that I'm truly blessed.

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)