In Uncertainty Be Secure
“Feelings can be Things Chosen …” – Neale Donald Walsh
Great thinkers including James Redfield has mentioned about the fact that what plagues the majority of humanity is a great feeling of insecurity. This is an experience that we have to deal with on a daily basis. There is nothing certain in this world.
One procedure of handling the experience that was popularized in the 90’s was to simply notice the feeling (e.g. of wanting security) and then letting it go. As introduction to the exercise, a student was made to clench his or her fist tightly then suddenly let go, taking particular notice of the sense of relief. This could be effective if the practice is developed in to a habit.
But one could take the practice one step further, by replacing the insecurity with a feeling of security.
In this area, we need Neale Donald Walsh’s advice that: “Feelings can be Things Chosen. They do not have to be Things Endured.”
This is easier said than done in the beginning because most of us are on autopilot: we have a usual disposition with its accompanying predominant feelings and emotions, and the assumption that it’s something we cannot change. The good news is we can change our general predisposition by committing to develop a habit that will replace the old.
Two steps to follow to develop a new habit (which is a capsulized form of the cognitive behavior theory):
1. Recognize and accept the negative feeling, without judgment.
2. Call up a positive thought
For the great majority of humanity, step 1 would then entail recognizing the feeling of insecurity, which abounds in our everyday experience. Since there is plenty of opportunity to practice recognizing, this can easily develop into a habit.
For step 2, we could always recall a happy thought: an experience we have with a loved one, a child, an accomplishment, etc. It may help that we jot down a list of all the wonderful things that happened in our life, as much as we can recall.
After we have developed the habit, because we practice bringing up a happy thought in every event that originated in insecurity, we develop a generally secure disposition. This is the beginning of a secure world where there is joy, peace and love and hopefully no more need for war and fighting.
It all begins with each one working on oneself.
In my practice, whenever there is a situation of uncertainty, I try to be sensitive enough to notice the feeling of insecurity (at times, my mind can be so busy with thoughts that feelings just slip by unnoticed), then recall a sense of loving security that a relationship with God provides.
So then uncertainty serves to remind me of God’s dependability, of His Unconditional love. Only then can I say:
In uncertainty be secure.