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Infidelity Is It a Problem Part 1

Updated on April 28, 2022
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Pastoral Counselor ordained Elder/Minister Ambassador at Alpha 7 Ministries M.A.Christian Clinical Counseling Certified in Creation Therapy


Infidelity...Is It A Problem? "Can a man or woman take fire into his/her bosom and not be burned?" (Proverbs 6:27 KJV) "Playing with fire" is no laughing matter. Do we really take God's Word seriously? Infidelity means unfaithfulness. God illustrates and teaches us in His Word the seriousness of adultery by comparing it with fire.

There is definitely a price to be paid for sexual infidelity. God has given His children specific directions in regards to proper sexual relations. The undefiled marriage bed is the proper place for sexual intercourse. The marriage bed is biblically designed for one male and one female. When the two come together they become one. When you honor your marriage vows as well as the marriages of others you honor God.

Marriage God's Way

God's design according to the bible does not authorize any sex outside of marriage nor sanction same sex relationships. "For this is the will of GOD, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and Honor; Not in the lust of *concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God. " (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 KJV) *Concupiscence meaning; sexual desire.

Due to Adam's fall we all have inherited a sin based nature. Sin is anything that separates us from God. Sin causes one to fulfill the lusts of the flesh. But when we accept Jesus Christ as our personal SAVIOUR we are to embrace and imitate His principles within our lives. You can have self control over all areas of your life. Yes there will always be a struggle between the Spirit and the flesh. Many are compromising Christian principles. worship is no longer sacred to many. God has a better way. "Let this mind be in you that was also in CHRIST JESUS" Philippians 3.

Pandora's Box has lost its lid and now just about anything goes. Should this be? What happened to "Be not conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may PROVE what is that good and acceptable and PERFECT WILL of GOD..." Romans 12 We who say or claim we are believers must learn to daily submit to the will of God. No longer does sin have to rule your life or weight you down. "Take MY YOKE upon you and learn of ME for MY yoke is easy and MY burdens are light..." Matthew 11. The power of His Holy Spirit gives us the ability and power to overcome any of the desires of the flesh. This is why we all need to call upon Jesus Christ as Savior & Lord!

Sexual sin

The scripture clearly tells us that sexual infidelity is like playing with fire. When a Christian chooses to indulge in sexual sin know that you are definitely operating out of the will of God. Sexual sin is rampant within the Church. It doesn't matter if you were once married, how old or young you are. Your position doesn't matter; widow, minister, usher, mother, teacher, member, priest, elder, preacher, apostle, bishop, evangelist, deacon, deaconess, doctor, pastor, choir member or missionary, this should not be! By ignoring God's Word the body suffers. It tells the unsaved yes I am a hypocrite and no I don't have self-control. It hinders the effectiveness of your ability to minister because you are operating in a carnal mode. A seducing spirit is indeed present. Better yet, it waters down the effectiveness of your testimony. This also hurts many other people around you as well as destroys relationships! REPENT!

Young, middle-aged, old or older; Abstinence is God's Way for the unmarried whatever age you may be. You can be; "Be strong in the Lord in His Mighty Power!"

Every time you choose to operate outside the spiritual moral boundaries God has designed you can expect some sort of consequence. God is totally aware of everything. Just listen to how patient He is with us; "The Lord is not slack concerning His promise, as some men count slackness: but is long suffering toward us, not willing that none should perish, but that all should come to repentance." (II Peter 3:9 KJV) Repentance does not mean repeat or practice. We as Christians all to often have commenced to embrace the world's principles that encourages indulging in satisfying the flesh. "After all I'm human! We aren't really hurting anyone! Nobody else knows but us." Wrong! God knows! Remember that fire I warned you about. Pray for discernment and seek God's direction in all things!

All things all over this word is transparent to the Lord. It is important to readily confess and repent of any sin when convicted. It separates you from the Lord.

Sex is much more than a physical act. It was designed to be a beautiful inimate experience shared between two committed people in love! This is why God tells us that the "two become one!" In a genuine consecrated marriage honored by the God; two become one. God is Lord of both. There is a beauty in marital "ONENESS" you can experience together that is unexplainable when you seek to keep the Lord as your Center. Your dedication is fortified as you seek His will daily. They jointly desire to please God. It is a mating of the souls in the presence of the Lord. it goes far beyond the physical.

So please think again with who you join yourself to; because whoever you join yourself to becomes a part of you. This may seem old fashioned. But there is a reason that God has set this as His standard. When you learn better do better. Take some time in God's Word. Take a Spiritual Bath and let HIM cleanse you from ALL UNRIGHTEOUSNESS! Seriously, this is really deep! You actually unite and give a part of yourself to whoever you join yourself to. It actually causes an unhealthy carnal bond when not sanctioned by the Lord. Therefore take some time for a spiritual cleansing to refresh and restore your soul...

See Part 2


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