Into a Journey of Magic and Mystery
“Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believeth on me, the works that I do shall he do also; and greater works than these shall he do..." -John 14:12
When Anger Doesn’t Work for You
There are times when anger could work for you: it is the fuel that could spur you on to act on improving on a situation that you have the power to improve. Referring to Stephen Covey’s concept regarding Circle of Influence, your anger could be a stimulus for you to act so that something better could come out of the situation. It may be geared in improving a relationship, improving the environment, or even improving yourself.
However, there are times that harboring anger will not work. This is especially so when it is in a situation where there isn’t anything you can do to change the status quo (Circle of Concern). The only thing you can do in such a case is to accept your anger, accept whoever or whatever is causing that anger in you and offer the concern to God and let go, trusting that He will take care of it in due time.
Do you shout when you are angry? Why do we shout when we are angry? Is it not because we are not in control of ourselves? Because we are defensive about something? If your anger is justified, then it may be worth shouting about. For example, if another being is doing something that can harm them, an angry shout may be the least that you can do to prevent that being from getting harmed.
However, if the anger and the shouting is about defending your position---your ‘perfection’, ‘greatness’ or ‘infallibility’, for example, then it may be high time for you to assess things from a standpoint of not having to be defensive. Defensiveness creates a lot of stress and drains a lot of energy.
How to Avoid Defensiveness
You ask how we can avoid defensiveness. It may be a matter of asking yourself what things are you most attached to? Do you value yourself based on what others might think of you? Do you define your worth based on the job that you hold? … the education that you obtained? … the boyfriend that you have? … the car or the house that you own? … money in the bank?
Think of yourself as having none of these. How does it look like to you? If you can honestly admit that you can be happy without these material trappings, then you would be one of the most blessed people in the world, who could take their joy and happiness wherever they go, no matter what the circumstances. You have found joy from within. The pearl of great value for which, in the parable, the merchant would sell all his possessions for.
How did you come to this place of joy from within? Once you had something most cherished then it was taken away from you. And this pushed you into great despair. In your great despair, you searched for everywhere and realized, anything in the material world could be lost and taken away, any time. Everything changes.
There isn’t anything permanent in this world, except God’s unconditional love for you.
Into a Journey of Magic and Mystery
Realizing God’s unconditional love for you, from “rags” you went on a journey of adventure, of magic and mystery, realizing that every day was meant to be a miraculous one. That you were created with the primary purpose of fulfilling your desires because it was God who put those desires in you in the first place. Of course, there remained the challenged of distinguishing between the noble desires from those originating from vestiges of an ego-driven past.
You come to realize what the saints and sages have known a long time ago, that a life spent in glorifying God, i.e. being in awe of God, is actually a joyful one filled with magic and surprises. Every synchronistic event He gifts you with is an opportunity for you to call to your awareness: “How wondrous are Your ways!”
“Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believeth on me, the works that I do shall he do also; and greater works than these shall he do; because I go unto my Father.” – John 14:12