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Is it Crazy to Be Completely Honest?

Updated on October 3, 2014
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Dr. Middlebrook is a fiction/non-fiction writing coach, author (pen name Beax Rivers), virtual trainer, and former university professor.

And if I shall say that I know Him not, I shall be like to you, a liar.~ John 8:55

It’s the Eighth Commandment. For Christians, it is the instruction from God that forbids misinterpreting the truth in our relations with other people. “Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor,” it warns.

This scripture is a prescription for moral uprightness, and to ignore it is a sin. But how many of us, Christian or not, really buy into the saying, “honesty is the best policy?” Is this something we really believe in and practice in our lives every day? Or, is it just something that sounds good and right as it’s rolling off the tongue, but just is not practical? Huh? Is honesty always the best policy? Or should a person consider the situation before being brutally honest about all things and all matters?

Tell me this: Do you think it is ever "crazy" to tell the whole truth? What about when you are in a situation where telling a "half-truth" could possibly save someone’s job, or someone’s life?

Crazy is as crazy does? Or could there be more to the picture than your eyes can see?
Crazy is as crazy does? Or could there be more to the picture than your eyes can see?

“A question that sometimes drives me hazy: am I or are the others crazy?” ~ Albert Einstein

We’re taught and preached the policy about honesty beginning when we’re young children, and along with it, in addition to lessons from the Bible, usually comes a lesson about how, to be a “good girl,” or a “good boy,” we must always tell the truth. The “honesty policy” is often sold to us along with the story about a very young George Washington (the man who became our nation’s first president), and the cutting down of the now infamous “cherry tree.”

Did you know that many historians say the chopping down of the cherry tree never happened at all? And if that’s true (no one really knows for sure), not only was there never a cherry tree, but GW never actually said, “I cannot tell a lie,” when asked if he chopped it, because it was never there! So where did the story come from? From what I've read, it seems someone published a book about a hundred years after Washington died, saying that he told his father he chopped the bark on the cherry tree, only other people born much later in history say it never happened. They say that Washington never did it, nor did he ever say he did it. Others say the story comes from a country folktale about some kid chopping down something or other on a farm, somewhere, and then when confronted by one or other of his parents, that kid said something profoundly honest that more or less amounted to, “I cannot tell a lie.” According to many, the only thing that’s known for sure about that particular story is that it wasn’t the “Father of Our Country” who said it.

So let’s recap: The very story we’re told as children as an example of why it is important to be honest is probably a lie. Furthermore, it hints that if you tell the truth, you could possibly grow up to be president, and today, it's quite possible that the opposite is more likely true. And what's worse, it isn’t a “story” in the sense of being a fairy tale that even young children know is not true. Instead, it turns out that it's most likely an out and out historical lie; something that was made up either to sell books or to make a tasty sound-bite for a dead president.

So my question is—“Why?” Why do we do it? Does the very idea that it’s a good thing to tell the truth need to die a slow and painful death as a prelude to learning that the world can be, in fact, sometimes not a very nice place? Does the beauty of honesty have to be taken from us in this way, yanked, kicking and screaming from the innocence of tender psyches, in order to pay the cruel and hefty price of admission into adulthood?

All aboard?
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Well, if honesty truly is the best policy, then why is it that sometimes when someone is honest to a fault, many of us quickly conclude--even though we may not say it, that the person must be nuts—a bit “touched” in the head?

Remember the story in the Bible (Matt. 26:69-75, Luke 22:55-62, and John, 18:17-18, 25-27) when Peter lied, three times, saying he was not one of Jesus' disciples, because he was afraid? Would he have gotten the same punishment as Jesus if he had told the truth? And wasn't his belief that he might suffer the same punishment the reason that he lied? Would he have to have been crazy to have told the truth?

“When the whole world is crazy, it doesn't pay to be sane.” ~ Terry Goodkind, The Pillars of Creation

I’m reminded of the 1990 movie, Crazy People, starring English actor, comedian, composer, and musician, the late, great, Dudley Moore (1935 – 2002), and Darryl Hannah. In the movie, Moore’s character, Emory Leeson, is an advertising executive having a nervous breakdown, and during his so-called “break” with reality, he develops a series of advertisements that get him fired from his job. Blindingly honest, the ads are also daringly rough, rowdy, and rude. In fact, top executives at the agency Emory works for thinks Emory has to be crazy to put that much truth into his work. For example, one ad for Jaguar says, “Jaguar—for men who’d like hand-jobs from beautiful women they hardly know.” Another, for the 20th century version of the Volvo automobile says, “Volvo—they’re boxy but they’re good.”

Convinced the ad’s creator must surely be off his rocker to insert so much truth into the agency’s advertisements, one of Emory’s coworkers checks him into a psychiatric hospital. There, in group therapy, Emory meets the beautiful and vulnerable Kathy Burgess, another patient, played by Darryl Hannah. In this very funny tale, it is often not clear which group of people the movie is named for: The "crazy" patients in the psychiatric hospital, or the "crazy" ad agency executives.

“Crazy people are considered mad by the rest of the society only because their intelligence isn't understood.” ~ Wei Hui

In 2010, when giant pizza chain Dominos came out with a “rebranding” strategy that included admitting the truth about their product, a lot of people thought the top bosses either had some loose screws, or were geniuses. They came right out and said the pizzas they used to make and sell to us, were lousy. It was truth in advertising staring us all right in the face. But it was only the chain’s “jumping-off point.” Of course, the advertisements went on to tell us how the product was now new and improved, and then admitting that it was bad before seemed like a great and honest, but still shocking way, to introduce their revamped offerings. Dominos competitor, Papa John’s, had to be taken to court to get them to admit that their slogan, “Better ingredients. Better pizza.” was what the advertising industry calls “puffery,” meaning the words are opinion, not fact.

“THE EDGE, there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over.” ~ Hunter S. Thompson

Can being “too honest” make a situation worse than telling a lie or a “half-truth,” which is just a lie in disguise? Let’s take a look at male-female relationships and the age-old question, “Does this dress make me look fat?” There’s an advertisement running on television now, in Spanish, showing a beautiful woman dressed in a beautiful and body-revealing black dress, who asks her boyfriend/husband whether or not the dress makes her look fat. In his mind’s eye, the man sees (and so do we through his eyes) the scenarios that will take place if he says “Yes” to the question he’s been asked. His girlfriend/wife is crying in every scene, remembering that he has told her the dress she had on days ago made her look fat. One scene even indicates she may have developed an eating disorder when the two are shown walking together with ice cream cones, the man’s is nearly gone but the woman’s cone is still full of quickly melting, clearly untouched ice cream. Then, we’re taken back to the first scene, where the woman enters the room in the dress in question, asks the infamous question once again, only this time, much wiser, her boyfriend/husband responds, to her delight, “No.”

“I would imagine that if you could understand Morse code, a tap dancer would drive you crazy.” ~ Mitch Hedberg

Can an honest person survive in a world of dishonesty and not be seen as having gone bananas? Is there such a thing as being too honest? Isn’t honesty a quality that, like truth, is either there or not there? If that’s true, then doesn't it mean it's not possible to be “too honest?” Isn't "too honest" simply being honest? It's the same as saying something cannot be “too true,” because it is either true or not true. Take the idea of being able to tell a “half-truth.” Isn’t a half-truth simply a lie, disguised as the truth? I was taught it is possible to lie either by commission (by actually telling a lie), or by omission (by not telling the truth). And a half-truth, like remaining silent when you know the truth, is lying by omitting part of the truth.

I believe it’s true that, as a nation of people, we want to be a land that values and respects honesty. But, as adults living in a world where you can actually suffer for telling the whole truth, are we really practicing what we preach? For example, when you’re getting ready to purchase a home, you’re not supposed to borrow the money you will use as a down payment. And when you’re asked, at closing, if you borrowed the money, if you did borrow it, and you say that you did, then you cannot close on the home. So, most people, even if they do have to borrow the money, will lie and say they did not, so that they can get the home. Well, you might say they should just save the money, and then purchase the home. But if you have a family, with children, it can be difficult to impossible to be able to save enough to make a down-payment on a home. And if the opportunity comes along where you are able to borrow the money, most would do so, in order to gain something as important as a home of their own.

Always tell the Truth. That way, you don’t have to remember what you said. ~ Mark Twain

People who are honest are certainly more easily respected, but I have to wonder if most people believe it's the best policy when the “straight trees” are cut down first while the “bent trees” get to survive longer. As a case in point, it seems the people who behave the worst, especially in the world of media and celebrities, are the ones who end up with money-making reality shows on television. And the honest people, those who refuse to lie for any reason, even to "embellish" their resumes or tell lies and half-truths at job interviews, are often left out in the cold, without a job, and sometimes, homeless.

So, does this mean we've reached a point in our "evolution" as a race where the price of honesty is too high? Does a person have to be crazy in our society to be honest in all he or she does? Or is it impossible to live a completely honest life?

If you had to be dishonest in order to reach a goal you’ve wanted to reach your whole life, would you lie/be dishonest?

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      Starmom41 5 years ago

      Very interesting & good hub!

      My POV: it seems a lot of people these days confuse "honesty" with "let it all hang out," & that's not a good thing at all. Frankly, I think it's the "fault" of the pop-psych junk that's been popular in recent decades.

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      Debbie Dallas 5 years ago

      Lol funny story ! Great 4 u! Tell the truth, that's all there is- no worries-either way!

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      neeta chauhan 5 years ago from Pakistan

      I think who are not honest are crazy because i agree that being

      an honest person does not pay you in the positive all the time

      i will speak for myself here when i was in 5th grade i had a girl in my

      class who was a pervert , she used to tell me that she has seen her

      parents making love, she has done incest and watched blue movies

      with her family in Pakistan this is not acceptable because there is always

      a time for everything in life and giving sex education to a child is definitely

      this way to teach your child, so i being an honest kid i went home and told

      what i heard from my friend to my mom who was speechless and as a

      result i was made to face the principal of the school and repeat all what

      was said to me. The girl was expelled from the school and her parents took

      it in their stride by saying " so what if she knows or talks about sex after all

      this what she is going to do when she grows up" ....

      Because of my honesty i was ignored by my class mates who thought that

      it was mean of me to get that girl expelled from the school but i never felt

      bad about what i did and stuck to my guns and did not give a dam about

      what they said or thought about me..........................

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      Sallie B Middlebrook PhD 5 years ago from Texas, USA

      I agree completely, Ann1Az2. I just see so many people pretending there are so many "gray areas" between truth and lies, I thought the topic would make a nice Hub. I'm always the "crazy" one, intent on telling the truth, no matter what!

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      Ann1Az2 5 years ago from Orange, Texas

      Thought provoking to say the least! Voted up and interesting. Sometimes we are definitely caught between a rock and a hard place. However, after all is said and done, honestly is always the best policy because things always work out for the best when you tell the truth. Often when you don't, one lie just keeps impounding on another. Some people I've known in my life are perpetual liers. You can't trust them and that makes for a hard relationship.