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It has happened all my life

Updated on June 21, 2012

Go to Mr Know it All

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Let Him Make Your Choices


Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble. (Proverbs 13:20)

My child, don't lose sight of common sense and discernment. Hang on to them, for they will refresh your soul. They are like jewels on a necklace. They keep you safe on your way, and your feet will not stumble. You can go to bed without fear; you will lie down and sleep soundly. You need not be afraid of sudden disaster or the destruction that comes upon the wicked, for the Lord is your security. He will keep your foot from being caught in a trap. Do not withhold good from those who deserve it when it's in your power to help them. If you can help your neighbor now, don't say,” Come back tomorrow, and then I'll help you." Proverbs 3:21-28

I’m a sucker. I am a nice guy and very trusting.

I swear, I believe narcissists can smell that out and constantly abuse me. They can easily make a sucker, a fool out of me. It has happened all my life.

Now there are only three options available to nice guys:

One: accept your fate and live a life of heartache and abuse.

That does not appeal to me. How do you feel about that option?

Well let’s move onto option number two: I can shut myself down to all relationships and become paranoid about everyone and everything. Nah, that option will literally drive you crazy. Do you think this is why some people are so cold?

Well then, there is always option number three. Trust completely in the Lord. He will guide you when to have loving, enriching relationships (Oh there will still be problems, but at least you will respect each other and can work them out). He will also give you a strong early warning system.

That is why it is important to always wait and pray for three days before accepting any business deal. As well as taking council with good Christian councilors (after all, maybe they have experienced what you are going through so can best guide you away from trouble) and read your Bible.

When entering into a relationship, again, go slow and listen to council while always taking it to God in prayer and obeying him.

Think of it like this okay? You think you are falling in love with a prince charming, God say no to this relationship. You say “But he says he loves me and I believe him.” (In reality you are saying you believe him more than you do God) As the relationship develops he starts demanding more and more from you and is becoming controlling. Slowly like cancer it destroys you and you are very miserable and indeed sometimes in danger if he become physically abusive. What happens if you have children? If he is abusive to you, how will he behave with your children? All of this could have been prevented if only you listened to God from the beginning. 

It has only taken me forty years to learn this lesson. I pray you listen to my advice and avoid the terrible experience I went through. Now I have good relationships that are very fulfilling because of listening to God. 

Now, when the filthy jackals of narcissists come a knocking, I will not even talk with them.

People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God—having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.They are the kind who worm their way into homes and gain control over the gullible 2 Timothy 3:2-6 New International Version

May the same be true of you.

“Then trust the Lord completely, don’t even trust yourself. In everything you do, put God first and He will direct you and crown your efforts with success.” Proverbs 3:5 (Living Bible)

Prayer: Please Jesus Pyrrand (Jesus my friend) guide me to good Christian friends to share life with. I ask this in your wonderful name. Amen.

May the sunshine of Jesus’ sweet love bless you today and every day.


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