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Updated on July 6, 2012

Judgement is useful when we need to judge when we need to sleep, eat, relax etc. It becomes less useful when we judge another person on their actions or words.

We sometimes do not realize we are making judgements on another’s actions and/or words. We are never fully aware when we are doing it. We do not realize also that we are doing it based on our own inner references and perhaps unresolved issues.

To perceive that one is being verbally attacked when one is not, could mean that we have these points of references or unresolved issues within us or we would not perceive them this way.

To perceive one is instilling poison in the mind of another, (when we really do not know where another is at in their inner journey) could mean we have little faith in people in that they cannot discern what is their own truth and what is not.

To perceive another as being deceptive when they are not, could mean we have been guilty of that kind of deception in the past.

Asking questions and being open to receive the answers without judgement may prevent us from doing the above.

We must first know ourselves before we can profess to know others and their motivations and their agendas if any. Even then we never really completely know the inner workings of another.

When we know our selves well, if they are attacking, instilling poison, or being deceptive, these arrows, if you like, will fail to hit their target and we are less likely to be affected by them.

More often than not we will not judge them for what they do or say. In our observations we might just realize that they are subject to a finite mind just as we are and are doing the best they can within the perceived limitations of a finite mind

Living in the now affords us to see the beauty of human interaction with fresh new eyes. We will see the incredible strength and courage mixed with the many shades of love, of the human spirit, perfect for the moment, no right no wrong, just another soul journeying through this life the best way they know how.


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    • pennyofheaven profile image

      pennyofheaven 6 years ago from New Zealand

      Thank you for your very valuable feedback!

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      vidhimayur 6 years ago

      Very very interesting n useful hub. So much correct is this, when u judge others it is always "guilt of that kind of deception in past" as u have noted in ur hub.keep hubs like this coming in..

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      pennyofheaven 6 years ago from New Zealand

      Yoridale, thank you for your comments!

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      Yoridale 6 years ago

      Good hub! Something to realize about good and bad judgement.

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      pennyofheaven 6 years ago from New Zealand

      Like your hubs inspire me and make me think epigramman. Thanks so much for stopping by this hub!

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      epigramman 6 years ago

      ....well more stirring thoughts from you - I'm here - learning and reading and taking it all in - you are inspiring the epigramman and making him think - and that's a good thing!!!!!

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      pennyofheaven 6 years ago from New Zealand

      I do agree. Wrong conclusions is not useful. Thanks for stopping by rich!

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      richtwf 6 years ago

      It so easy for us to judge. We do it constantly with ourselves but when it comes to others we should refrain from passing judgment too quickly unless we know the whole story. Without the latter, it's easy to assume and to easily draw a wrong conclusion.

      An excellent message and God bless.

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      pennyofheaven 6 years ago from New Zealand

      Castfle: Thank you and I loved your mugged by monkeys. It was an excellent hub

      Erin: Always glad to hear your comments my sister. Love and peace to you.

      Dave: I do agree

      Muni: Thank you and God Bless

      Lawrence: I do agree thanks for stopping by again.

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      Gizmo Prodigy Publishing 6 years ago from Shreveport, LA

      judgment is a big word that should not be taken lightly

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      munirahmadmughal 6 years ago from Lahore, Pakistan.

      "Judgment-Judging others"

      The hub is rich in content, rich in thought provoking and rich in telling the ways to correct ourselves.

      To find faults in others without having any data, or if having not sufficient data, and if having sufficient but not with all backgrounds and ignoring one's own faults, is nothing but false accusation. Where information is correct and even fault is there and correct when it is told to others in his absence of a person it is called back biting. The punishment of this backbiting in the Hereafter is to eat the flesh of ones' dead brother. When such statement is about the virtue of a woman and it is without the strictly required four fold evidence it is heinous and the evidence of such witness is not to be accepted for future. All this is for dignity of humanity.

      Nothing should be said which is untrue. Nothing should be thought of another person of which one has no knowledge of the kind of truthfulness and certainty of proof.

      It is in the litrature of hadith that when Mu`az bin Jabal was appointed the governor of Yemen, the Messenger of Allah (peace andblessings of Allah be upon him)asked him:

      O Mu`az! How will you decide the matters between the parties?

      According the Book of God. Replied Mu`az.

      If you could not find anything therein, then how?

      Mu`az Replied: By the practice of the Messenger of Allah (Peace andblessings of Allah be upon him.).

      But if you are unable to find a solution there, then what will you do? asked the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him).

      Mu`az submitted: I shall exercise all my efforts for making my personal judgment according to my best possible capacity in the light of the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah).

      The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)was glad and said: All praise be to Allah who guided the messenger of the Messenger of Allah.

      The point to be understood is that in a court of law there are parties and they are given hearing and the evidence admissible and relevant is recorded and tested on the touchstone of cross examination and then the law is consulted, arguments on both sides are heard and then an opinion is formulated and announced by the judge.

      Outside the court in our daily dealings to make judgements on ones own perceptions, comnjectures, surmises, fancies is certainly neither legitimate, nor proper nor correct.

      The hub is excellent and "UP" by all standards.

      May God bless all.

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      Dave Mathews 6 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

      A very good look at how we try to perceive others. If God wanted us to truly know another and how they think or feel, we would know. No person has such insight into another. It is hard enough for us to know ourselves, as we continue to learn daily about ourselves in different areas where we need to grow, or in areas where we need to correct ourselves.

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      Erin LeFey 6 years ago from Maryland

      Sweet Sister, again, you have hit a subject right on target. At the exact moment when I needed to hear it, well, maybe a bit too late on this one... but it was a lesson I just learned or learned again over the holidays. But how do you know when you are doing it, when the things that they do say are attacking you and are harsh, so harsh that you are frightened and backed into a corner? I used my judgment to run this time, and get away. It launched me into a psychological reassessment of all my choices. Love and Peace.

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      Castlepaloma 6 years ago from Saskatchewan, Canada

      I really love this one, among your very best.

      I felt the communication of our emotional intelligence in which, you very rich in.

      You have accomplished a very challenging topic, I have not ever seen written in words.

      The best I've achieved in writing is Mugged by Monkeys, Great for laughs

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      pennyofheaven 6 years ago from New Zealand

      I do agree carrie, thanks for dropping by

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      carrie450 7 years ago from Winnipeg, Canada

      A very informative hub regarding judgement pennyofheaven. We can never know what another human is thinking.