Judgement is useful when we need to judge when we need to sleep, eat, relax etc. It becomes less useful when we judge another person on their actions or words.
We sometimes do not realize we are making judgements on another’s actions and/or words. We are never fully aware when we are doing it. We do not realize also that we are doing it based on our own inner references and perhaps unresolved issues.
To perceive that one is being verbally attacked when one is not, could mean that we have these points of references or unresolved issues within us or we would not perceive them this way.
To perceive one is instilling poison in the mind of another, (when we really do not know where another is at in their inner journey) could mean we have little faith in people in that they cannot discern what is their own truth and what is not.
To perceive another as being deceptive when they are not, could mean we have been guilty of that kind of deception in the past.
Asking questions and being open to receive the answers without judgement may prevent us from doing the above.
We must first know ourselves before we can profess to know others and their motivations and their agendas if any. Even then we never really completely know the inner workings of another.
When we know our selves well, if they are attacking, instilling poison, or being deceptive, these arrows, if you like, will fail to hit their target and we are less likely to be affected by them.
More often than not we will not judge them for what they do or say. In our observations we might just realize that they are subject to a finite mind just as we are and are doing the best they can within the perceived limitations of a finite mind
Living in the now affords us to see the beauty of human interaction with fresh new eyes. We will see the incredible strength and courage mixed with the many shades of love, of the human spirit, perfect for the moment, no right no wrong, just another soul journeying through this life the best way they know how.