Kindhearted People: The most Mistreated Lot
Kindhearted : Very soft and Vulnerable
When I see kind persons never uttering any word in retaliation of harsh words and misbehaviour,my heart craves for ameliorating their suffering. A question also arises in my mind as to why they are perceived as timid and not as having an impeccable strength instead. My mind broods over the possible reasons of this peculiar phenomenon of human behaviour. After a great deliberation , I compel to accept that it is due to the utter ignorance that other people assume the kind hearted people as weak and vulnerable.
If a person is kindhearted and listens everything whether praises or derogatory remarks without any reaction, people take it for granted to mistreat him. A snake can save itself by hissing a little while not biting anybody. So, kind hearted people should also adopt a mild toughness when provoked in an uncivilized way. When Christ says about turning the other cheek, it's meaning is not literal. Turning the other cheek means that when somebody is behaving with you in a rude manner, you should make him know the right behavior.
How to inculcate right behavior ? Through teaching the rogue elements the right kind of morality and decent way of thinking and living. Such a remarkable magic can be done by the wise one, who is both kind hearted and stern too if need arises.This is the real meaning of turning the other cheek.Kindness is indeed a virtue, but without a requisite force, people do not give a proper attention to it and often ridicule this trait in a person. Sometimes, kind persons are assumed as pure simpletons which is not a correct view. From Jesus Christ to Mahatma Gandhi, simple persons, though imbued with extraordinary intellect, were not treated well in their life time.
Need for Protection from Maltreatment
Innocence is ingrained in kindhearted people; and they imbibe the moral values truly, and are ever ready to suffer any kind of torture to keep those values intact. Though being so kind, they remain bereft of some kind of toughness which is very much required to be able to save oneself from any violence or mistreatment.Not only humans, but it has also been seen in the animals that they show a kind of resistance when teased beyond limit.
All kind hearted persons should also realize that without maintaining some kind of safeguard , they are going to be mistreated at the hands of cunning and haughty persons. Nobody except they themselves can make efforts for protection from the violence and torture being inflicted upon them. Have you observed a plant of rose ? It grows thorns for its protection and thus saves itself from being trampled upon, and roses also feel safe under the shadow of the thorns. It is all wise for kind guys to have a little bit of aggressiveness, and surely it cannot be termed as a bad trait being a desired necessity.
kindness and a Little Aggressiveness: An Ideal Blending
To be purely kind hearted being is not good these days. If some kind of aggressiveness is not visible in the nice people, they are always prone to exploitation and maltreatment. So, in my view, it is not at all bad if such precious beings devise some kind of defense system for their survival. It is in their own interest if they express a facade of anger to dawn upon uncivilized persons an impression that they can be countered with much more strength.
kindness coupled with a mild aggressiveness is a fine blending for protection from evil doers.Had Jesus Christ displayed a little aggressiveness and allowed his followers to inculcate in them a little toughness, he would not have been killed at the hands of cruel persons at that time. It is only because of his simplicity and kind bent of mind that some people misunderstood him and even killed him in their ignorance. Thus, humanity lost a great soul and deprived itself of his vast wisdom about kingdom of God.
In a like manner, Mahatma Gandhi was also mistreated and laughed at in the early stages of his struggle and was jailed numerous times.However, as the struggle progressed, he showed a determination not to bow before the oppressors meekly and instead engage with them in a fierce fighting, though with his unique sword of non violence.Thus, he gained freedom for his country, but again misunderstood by his own countrymen and was killed just after independence.
Alter your Attitude Towards kind Persons
All such people who mistreat kindhearted persons, should keep in mind that they deprive themselves of invaluable insight and right direction of life. On the contrary, if they look upon the kindhearted persons with admiration and respect, they, in return, will receive all wisdom with full warmth and kindness. With a well behaved attitude, all the negative traits will disappear from their minds and goodness will spring forth.
It is in their own interest if people realize that softness of the kind hearted is not something to be ridiculed and scoffed at. Rather, all the reverence should be showered on such people who are the real assets of humanity.
A story goes there about Mahatma Buddha and a dacoit named Angulimal ( his name Angulimal was assigned notoriously as he used to kill his victims and wear their fingers as garlands). One day, Angulimal came face to face with Buddha. Seeing the Buddha, Angulimal shouted,"stop". Buddha stopped with a dignified posture without any trace of fear in his eyes and responded," I have stopped, when will you stop ? ". Mahatma Buddha was a kind hearted soul, but he was also full of unique strength and was utterly fearless.
The dacoit came into the spell of such a great strength that Mahatma Buddha exhibited, and his heart melted at the fearless sight of the saint. The said dacoit then altered his lifestyle altogether. His life was greatly affected after this encounter, and he became the disciple of the saint. This story makes it amply clear that kind hearted guys are in reality very energetic and strong people, but they seldom express it.
Knowing thus, people should keep in mind that kind persons should not be disrespected the least by the brazen elements in their ignorance. Rather, we must appreciate their politeness and try to gain closeness of their magnanimous hearts. This way, we can be greatly benefited from their wisdom and grace.
kind Persons Should also Learn Toughness from the rude Ones
It is ironical that rogue elements need to learn from the kind hearted the values that they are ignoring in their pride, and at the same time, kind hearted should also take a little cue from the rogues to become a little tough when an occasion demands so.
It is said of simple persons that most of the times, they keep silent and are not easily provoked, but it is also true that a kind of volcano erupts out when they are put to an excessive exploitation and incessant torture. It has also been seen that when the rogue elements come face to face with such an avatar of kind persons, all their rudeness and cruelty comes to an abrupt halt.
I am not talking of saintly historical figures, but we can have a glimpse of such persons of divinity around us in this present age too. Have you observed how the uncivilized and cruel persons mistreat such innocent persons, but they lick the boots of those who are more powerful than them and can make a drastic change in their careers if provoked even a bit.
A real wisdom is to accord respect to all alike whether mighty or weak, wealthy or poor, educated or illiterate, related or unrelated and so on. This is an ideal way of living and only through this way, can peace be instilled into our lives. In a nutshell, we must let kindness flourish all around and strive with all our efforts to save the kind hearted guys from harassment in any place whether in home or office/establishment.
© Harish Mamgain