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Let's Disconnect to Connect: Social Media Tips for Real Life

Updated on July 27, 2019
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Maybe a little to much of a good thing ain't so good!

Let's disconnect to connect!
Let's disconnect to connect!

Let’s Disconnect to Connect

Are we connecting or are you assuming connection through social media? You trust a person based on their post, but should you? In the present, we are distracted by technology, giving the rebuttal of, “Let me get that in a second?” Or, when someone is on their device says they are listening but then respond with, Sure, but let me tweet this quick.

We do it, admit the flaws, we must disconnect to connect. Technology is not the curse; how we use our resources has been the issue since the start of time. Don’t get it confused; I am in awe of the information age. If we need a recipe we click, Google, Snap Chat, Pin It, Tweet, it’s okay, and it’s super awesome to have these at our fingertips. I use social media and sometimes enjoy it. Other times I miss simple things, such as real communication.

But, as much as I enjoy social media outlets, I love being with people, discussing things with my mom, giggles with my sister, or speaking with a friend, quietly talking. I prefer hearing the warmth and passion in the voices. I enjoy seeing the expressions first hand. While I get excited when someone I love sends me a tweet or comment, I prefer when present with him or her, or experience the look in his or her eye.

Do you miss talking as opposed to text? The penned letter is such a joy to receive, or figuring things out instead of Google? How often do we jump to conclusions? The worst is to assume! Because what we believe matters when we base action on their social media, deciding it to be a fact. Haven’t you ever heard of fiction?

Remember, we live in a world of hackers, and they too seep into our communications. When people are behind a screen, they boast, pump up, even exaggerate. I would lie to myself if I didn’t see the chasm I can fall into when not communicating in person. The written word is fantastic, but hiding behind it not cool. I need to stand behind what I write, standing in front of the screen and next to my words.

Caught between a rock and a hard place

It seems most people get somewhat caught between a rock and a hard place wanting to be current and up to date. They want to know what the next generation is up to while seeking to be part of the communicating world. The immediacy of connecting fast that social media allows is excellent, but sometimes we want the real thing.

The movie Cast Away has Tom Hanks the actor on a deserted island for a long time. He is away from everything and experiences complete disconnection from technology. His character forms a relationship with a volleyball; drawing a face on it as one to interact with daily. He does live with it, talks about it, shares his supplies, and he even comes to love it. This poor man craves the personal touch of a real relationship, but it’s not available, he has no connection.

Society should have a concern with the immediacy of our technology; we could end up on a deserted island with no connection. We don’t want to lose the love of our relationships due to the lack of real respect. There is a risk of taking our relationships for granted, needless to say, setting boundaries is necessary.

Social Media limits the ability to clarify at least in the written form, what we are saying and feeling. Face to face is getting lost in the image and superficiality of, Control, Alt, and Delete.

Dear fellow humans, we need to make staying connected with those we love and care about a priority. Hackers are out to steal your information, don’t let technology hack your life.

Sometimes the pull to have the latest news feed is overwhelming, making it hard to find the balance. But each day think about that defining line of real versus fake and which side I’m on? Too much or too little, am I connecting while I’m staying current or am I disconnected while being current?

When not careful, we find ourselves on the wrong side; it can sneak up on us if not paying attention to the balance of communication.

Between a rock and a hard place

Dog after baby squirrel and mama says, ...                  NO WAY!
Dog after baby squirrel and mama says, ... NO WAY!
Mama squirrel jumps dog in defense of her little one.
Mama squirrel jumps dog in defense of her little one.
Now whose between a rock and a hard place? Things can change quickly when we're not paying attention.
Now whose between a rock and a hard place? Things can change quickly when we're not paying attention.

The Lucky Ones ~ Lecrae

A relationship that works...

So here is the deal, contemplate this for just a minute. This world we’re living in has a great parallel to our relationship with God. We have to notice a slight disconnect. The cause of static between our communication? Are we sometimes the victims of the dropped call? Maybe we’re not checking in except to send a quick Snap Chat. Now, it’s not that these are bad things, it’s just how are we using these resources? What if we get so caught up in things that we hang up on God altogether?

Examination of a pie chart can figure out how much of our time we spend connecting to His word. How many of our posts do we use for His work of lifting someone, praising Him, helping and teaching others? Do we post pictures that share the joy we have with life in Him? How many of us use our conversations about Him to build His kingdom, showing others He is worth everything, and they may want to get connected? Encourage and add God to your friend requests? Do they shine a light on how to use media for the glory of God?

We are a curious people seeking answers, so we head to our devices looking things up, Google it. We research and yet do we accept everything we see and read? Do we take things literally? If you believe everything you read, you may never eat another idea from our food source. You may never go to another doctor because you can cure yourself or you become hopeless from what you read. Hoping to figure everything out and fix all your problems. Are you sure you can trust your resources?

Social Media can be excellent to heal thy self, save money, attack home repairs, and learn life-changing information. On the internet, you can connect with people like yourself or who will teach you something new, however, beware of the hackers who will tell you anything, or make you believe anything to win your trust. Remember all knowledge when used for good can have an incredible impact.

Knowledge can also be a curse if taken in pieces or assuming the whole story is in what you’re reading or seeing, in a quick resource like Facebook or Twitter. People expect when they look into the lives of others only from the outside. People often share just what they want others to see. Sometimes things are a little different when we get connected. To be connected takes time, trust, and real Christ-centered conversation.

The truth is we need to stay connected to one another. We need to welcome our resources and use them to better our world, and; we need to remember the gift of relationship.


The gift of relationships is some of our greatest teaching moments. Family members Christians are called to share His love and His word by action. Our earthly presentations are under the attack of hackers.

There is only one relationship that has everything we need, and no matter what, if we focus on it, or other connections can be healthy. They can repair and can always experience growth. The link that keeps us connected is with God!

We need to stay connected to His account, follow His tweets, and Snap Chat with Him. Relationships allow practice for whom we will be in Christ. We need to connect to that relationship. We are staying united in our focus and clearing away the hackers to hear the truth.

Support friends and family and new friends come from a place of wanting everyone to be on our friend's list. We need to stay with one another and be in touch with a real relationship. It is natural only to get pieces, and even easier to lose parts, if not connecting and with God.


We have plenty of resources to connect with; we need to use them for good. Are you sure everything you see at first glance is as it seems? IIs it possible that social media is just that, and not personal? Maybe with social media, we’re not getting the whole story? Could it depend on getting to know someone in person or connecting with their heart, for real, face to face, or at least on the phone, or with a letter?

  • Be careful to maintain healthy conversations using your resources the right way.
  • Bring God into all conversations and communications, even if only by asking God to guide your words and thoughts.
  • Be careful, be aware, we know right from wrong (most of the time), so we should be kind.
  • Be understanding of all things not judging instead learning to accept without judgments. (The judging thing may not be your job and don’t forget your mirror.)
  • Don’t be so squeaky clean that you can’t witness to the lost. You don’t have to speak their language but accept them where they are.

I know a man who people assume much about, his name doesn’t matter, although, many of you will know who he is. On his viral web page, it says this,

“My Mission Haiku

Sutterink – ain’t me.

It is the darker ego.

That pays my mortgage.”

He writes much, and people assume they know him, but do they?

We all have a darker ego, so maybe we should remember that, and do our best not to assume we know everything about a person’s heart. I have relationships with all types of people, and the differences between them made me the person that I am. I love their diversity and their personal journey’s.

Maybe the people we think are not like us, those who we see only from the outside, are just a little more real on the inside. Perhaps they let you know what is on their interior and their out, but only one sees what is on their heart, and in most cases, I bet that writing is pretty impressive. Aren’t you glad, God, can look at your heart?

Some are people real, and some are hackers, are you sure, which is which? Make sure you don’t disconnect while you’re connecting. Most importantly, make sure to communicate with the only one we need, because He is the Real Deal. He is worth the connection, and He will never drop your call.

Come Healing by Leonard Cohen

To connect or disconnect that is the question?

Social media is a good thing but it is just that social, we need to take time to have a personal relationship, do you agree?

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© 2014 Kathy Henderson


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    • The Stages Of ME profile imageAUTHOR

      Kathy Henderson 

      4 years ago from Pa

      Thank you Raw Spirit ~

      At times, my writing is a reminder of the need to focus and stay connected in the world that works tirelessly at pulling people apart from one another with technology. To be apart from God would be the opposing nightmare.


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      Robert Morgan 

      4 years ago from Hutchinson Island, FL - Myrtle Beach, SC - Gilbert AZ

      i really enjoyed this article. It has made me reflection on the most important connection I can every have. Thanks again for writing something that touches hearts.

    • The Stages Of ME profile imageAUTHOR

      Kathy Henderson 

      6 years ago from Pa

      Thanks Jo Goldsmith

      Reflective thoughts is a good way of putting it. This topic has been tugging at my heart as of late. Being the mom of teens, I make sure to stay current, but want to connect and have them connect in very real ways. Especially in their relationship with God. I am blessed as they do a great job. I just like to remind us to keep the balance. Thank you for your wonderful comment and Blessing to you as well :)

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      6 years ago

      I really enjoyed reading this beautiful work of reflective thoughts.

      I know for me personally, I sometimes will hang up on God, when I don't get the answer to a prayer. I guess, this needs worked on.

      Sometimes we forget that he knows more than we do, and he can see what happens if he does give us everything we want, that may not be good for us, or what his purpose for our lives direction.

      I am humbled and grateful to be connected with you. And I appreciate you so much for sharing this. This is something I really needed to read.

      Shared, tweeted, voted up. :-) Blessings & Shalom

    • The Stages Of ME profile imageAUTHOR

      Kathy Henderson 

      6 years ago from Pa

      Thank you again dearest Blossom ~ the best things about your comments is I get to see your pic with that beautiful smile. Blessing always

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      Bronwen Scott-Branagan 

      6 years ago from Victoria, Australia

      A great hub, full of wisdom. A little of a good thing is great, but too much is far too much. Technology has a very useful place, but connecting to that can mean disconnecting with God, real people and the real world. Voting it up.

    • The Stages Of ME profile imageAUTHOR

      Kathy Henderson 

      6 years ago from Pa

      Thanks Jodah ~

      Sometimes we just want to remind ourselves to stay connected and so I write to remind myself while I am talking to God. Thanks for stopping in and have a blessed day :)

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      John Hansen 

      6 years ago from Queensland Australia

      What a wonderfully written hub, full of wise advice for us all, Christian and non-Christian alike. Technology is great but it's not the be all and end all. Personal relationships are what is most important and always will be. And for Christians our personal relationship with God. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.


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