Let's Disconnect to Connect ~ Social Media Tips for Real Life
Maybe a little to much of a good thing ain't so good!
Let’s Disconnect to Connect
Are you really connecting?
You think they know you, but do they?
You think you know them, but do you?
“I’m sorry, just let me get this it won’t take a second.”
“Whoa, did you see that I am posting it.”
“Yeah, I hear you, but I just need to tweet this real quick.”
“I’M SORRY WHAT DID YOU SAY…?”
We do it, admit it, we need to disconnect. Technology is not the curse, how we use our resources has been the issue since the beginning of time.
I am in awe of the information age. If I need a recipe, I can simply CLICK! I can Google it, Snap Chat, Instagram, Pin It, Tweeeeeet, it’s all good and it's super awesome to have all these things at our fingertips.
I use it and I like it, sometimes. Other times I miss the simple things like real communication. I sometimes need to be with someone, have a conversation with my mom, giggle with my sister or friend about how they really are, just talking, really talking. I like hearing the warmth or passion in their voices. I enjoy seeing their expressions first hand. It means so much when someone I love sends me a tweet or comment, but when I hear him or her, or see the look in his or her eye, I sometimes melt in a completely wonderful way, that's special.
I miss the sound of the voice on the other end of the phone, the penned letter or the figuring things out, sometimes all on my own. I get sad when people only see a snippet of a message and misunderstand. I think we often jump to conclusions that aren’t accurate. The worst is to assume because we see one thing about a person on their “account” and believe it to be fact.
Come on, really, have you never heard of fiction? After all, remember, we live in a world of hackers and they too seep into our communications. Also, when people are behind a screen they tend to boast, pump up, even exaggerate. I would be lying to myself if I didn't see the crevasse I can fall into when not communicating in person.
The written word is amazing but hiding behind it not too cool. I need to be able to stand behind what I write while standing in front of the screen or next to the topic of my words.
Between a rock and a hard place
Caught between a rock and a hard place
I seem to be like most people kind of caught between a rock and a hard place. I want to be current and up to date. I want to know what the next generation is up to. I want to be part of the communicating world and always in the know, of learning. I want to get connected quickly at times, but sometimes I want the real thing.
In the movie Cast Away, Tom Hanks is deserted on an island for a long time. He is away from everything he knows, he is completely disconnected. His character forms a relationship with a volleyball; he draws a face on it and has one to one interaction with it daily. He does things with it, he talks about it, shares with it, he even comes to love it. He craves the personal touch of a real relationship, but it's not available, there is no connection.
I‘m just a bit concerned with the immediacy of our technology, we could end up on a deserted island with no connection. We don’t want to lose the love of our relationships due to the lack of real connection. We don’t want to take our relationships for granted due hackers that we really should have nothing to do with.
We want to be sure to clarify what we're really saying and feeling, and we want others to do the same with us. We need to stay connected to those we love and care about. Of course, we want to help others by getting to know them while remaining safe from hackers on our accounts.
It's sometimes so hard to find the balance, but each day if we think about that line of real versus fake. If we stop and think which side I'm on? Too much or too little, am I connecting while I'm staying current or am I disconnected while being current?
When not careful we can find ourselves on the wrong side of that line, here is where we find ourselves between a rock and a hard place. It can sneak up on us, especially if not paying attention to the balance of communication.
The Lucky Ones ~ Lecrae
A relationship that works...
So here is the deal, think about this for just a minute. It seems that in some ways this world we're living in has a great parallel to our relationship with God. We have to notice a slight disconnect. Maybe there's a little static between our communication? Are we sometimes victim’s of the dropped call? Maybe we're not checking in except to send a quick Snap Chat. Now it’s not that these are bad things necessarily, it’s just how are we using these resources? What if we get so caught up in things, that we hang up on God altogether?
Maybe we could use a pie chart to figure out how much of our time we spend connecting to His word. How many of our posts are used for His work of lifting someone up, praising Him, helping and teaching others? How many pictures do we post to show the joy we have a life in Him? How much of our conversations are about Him and the building of His kingdom, showing others that He is a pretty cool dude, and they may want to get connected? Are we encouraging them to add God to their friend requests? Are we shining a light as to how to use media for the glory of God?
We are a curious people we want answers so we tend to look it up, Google it. We tend to research, and yet do we quickly believe everything we see and read? Do we take things verbatim? If you believe everything you read, you may never eat another thing from our food source. You may never go to another doctor because you could cure yourself or you believe there is no hope. You could figure everything out and fix all your problems. Are you sure you can trust your resources?
To some degree, this is awesome. You can heal self in many ways. You can save money doing home repairs or learn helpful and life changing information. You can connect with people like yourself or better yet people who will teach you something new, however, beware of the hackers. Those who will tell you anything or make you believe anything to win your trust. Remember all knowledge is good when used for good. Knowledge can also be a curse if taken in pieces or assuming the whole story is in what you're reading or seeing, in a quick resource like Facebook or Twitter. This can even happen when we look into the lives of others only from the outside. Is it not similar to social media? Don't people usually share only what they want others to see? Sometimes things are a little different when we get really connected. To be really connected takes time, trust, and real Christ-centered conversation.
The truth is we need to stay connected to one another. We need to welcome our resources and use them for better of our world, and at the same time, we need to remember the gift of relationship.
The gift of relationship in this world, we are...
- We are the family members – connected by blood
- We are the acquaintances – knowing someone more by association than actually
- We are the friends – one goes to for kinship and also give that same support
- We are the foes – one that may be attacking and not knowing, testing
- We are the employee – Listening to directions and instruction for a cause
- We are the employer – Instructing and setting guidelines’ for a purpose
- We are the child – young in need of mentoring
- We are the sibling – friend and relation
- We are a spouse – The friend for life, loving, living together, sharing the moments of life
- We are a parent's of all children – The teachers and mentors of each generation
- We are the Christians ~ responsible for sharing His love and His word by action
The descriptions above, are of some of our earthly relationships; each of these is under the attack of hackers. There is only one relationship that has everything we need, and no matter what, if we focus on it, all our other relationships can be healthy. They can be repaired and they can always experience growth. The relationship that keeps us connected is with God! We need to stay connected to His account, follow His tweets and Snap Chat with Him all the time.
All other relationships are a practice for whom we will all be in Him. We need to get more connected to that. We need to stay connected in our focus and clear away the hackers so we can see and hear the truth. We need to support our friends and family and we should want everyone to be on our friends list. We need to remain with one another and be in touch with the real relationship. It is easy to only get pieces, and even easier to lose pieces, if not connecting together and with Him.
We have plenty of resources to connect with, we just need to use them for good. Are you sure everything you see at first glance is as it seems? Is it a bad thing or a good thing? Is it possible that social media is just that, and not personal? Maybe with social media, we're not getting the whole story? Could it depend on getting to know someone in person or connecting with their heart, for real, face to face, or at least on the phone, or with a letter?
- Be careful to maintain healthy conversations using your resources the right way.
- Bring God into all conversations and communications, even if only by asking God to guide your words and thoughts.
- Be careful of what you take in and make sure you understand to be aware, is not to participate, we know right from wrong (most of the time), so we should be kind.
- Be understanding of all things not judging rather learning to accept without judgments. (The judging thing may not be your job and don’t forget your mirror.)
I know a man who people assume much about, his name doesn't matter, although, many of you will know who he is. On his very popular web page, it says this,
“ My Mission Haiku
Sutterink – ain’t me
It is the darker ego
That pays my mortgage.”
He writes much and people assume they know him, but do they?
We all have a darker ego, so maybe we should just remember that, and do our best to not assume we know everything about a person's heart. I have been blessed by relationships with all types of people and the differences in them made me the person that I am. I love their diversity and their personal journey’s.
Maybe the people we think are not like us, those who we see only from the outside, are just a little more real on the inside. Maybe they let you know what is on their inside and their outside, but only ONE sees what is written on their heart, and in most cases, I bet that writing is pretty awesome. Aren't you glad, God, can see your heart?
Open your communications to others so they can add God to their friend list. Be careful to not only look at pieces of people for we are all broken. Be real, just the way you are, they may just love you anyway, the way God does, unconditionally. Know this, you surely don’t know everything about the person on the other end of your connections. Some are real and some are hackers, are you sure, which is which? Make sure you don’t disconnect while you're connecting. Most importantly, make sure to connect with the only one we need, because He is the Real Deal. He really is worth the connection and He will never drop your call.
Come Healing by Leonard Cohen
To connect or disconnect that is the question?
Social media is a good thing but it is just that social, we need to take time to have a personal relationship, do you agree?
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