Letting go of the Past- a Revelation
Letting Go of the Past
By Tony DeLorger © 2011
They say we are the sum of our experience, and in one sense that is true. We are moulded by experience; if we burn ourselves on the stove element we know not to do it again- we learn from that experience. However some experiences are more subtle and have a far deeper and subconscious impact on our behaviour. Often negative experience difficult to assimilate can be tucked away in our subconscious mind and rear up when certain emotions or circumstances are triggered. These biases can impact on our lives is ways that can disarm our life path, muddy up our future and creat confusion.
Ultimately it is best to deal with life’s ups and downs consciously and therefore let them go as past. If we cling to the past consciously, we are in fact recreating the past in our future by expecting the same results. In other words we keep repeating the same mistakes and instead of being in flux and growing, we inhibit our growth and remain stagnant.
Having dealt with our past we can draw on the experiences to maintain our path and understanding of how we came to be who we are. If not we can knee-jerk responses based on experiences and biases. Letting go of the past in that sense is important, but traumatic experience is not easy to let go. The secret is to develop a ‘Living in the Now’ attitude, where you treat all input with the same newness and without past-based expectation.
A good example is that many of us dread the mail arriving because it will have yet another huge bill to pay. That experience has encroached on the present and will continue to do so in the future unless you change that bad habit. If you develop an excited expectation of what could possibly be in the letterbox, you are opening your life to possibility, and in life anything can happen. There could be a cheque from the lottery people or a letter from a solicitor about an unknown inheritance. Why not?
Living your life in the present is not only exciting when you’re open to possibility but life defining. The difference you can feel when unburdened by your past will change your life. The following poem is about letting go. Enjoy.
By Tony DeLorger 2011
Distant pleasures and the pain of past
haunt us with embellished memory,
to engorge our expectations of the present
to the realm of unreality.
Like drug-hazed fools we can cradle our present
with a tainted hand
and nothing can be free.
We unknowingly duplicate our experience
to be as we’ve known it to be,
thus limiting possibility itself.
The ways of life are clear and responsive,
if only we can find quietness of mind
and allow our thoughts to explore a virgin landscape.
Expect and it shall be,
Dream and you begin to stifle what has been,
Live in the now and create your future,
with your dreams the colours upon a pristine white canvas.
Learn to smile and the joy of live will eventually find you.