Live Your Life Well With No Regrets
Death is an interesting topic of discussion and it is uninteresting as well. Death is one of those things that may be taboo to talk about with certain people. It can also be an obsession with someone else. I think most of us would prefer to talk about religion or politics rather than our own mortality. Yet, our own mortality catches up with us eventually.
Death is something no one can really talk to us about as “Hey I’ve been there done that.” One can talk about the loss of a family or friend but not really of one’s own self. Death is no respecter of persons. It will happen to all of us not matter what. It can happen at an early age or at a much older age. It is a quandary as to why some are taken early or why seemingly good people die young while bad people live to a ripe old age. It questions our minds as to why some people live good lives of purpose only to be discarded like yesterday’s news and left to finish their lives alone in a strange place away from family and friends.
Death can come in many forms. There are, in fact, many ways to die. The preferred method, I imagine, is to die in one’s sleep or in the presence of those we love best. Many are not given that luxury. Many die of sickness or strange accidents or even broken hearts.
Why this discussion of death? Am I trying to be morbid or depressed? On the contrary, I talk of death so that one might learn to live well. Death and life go hand in hand. Someone dies and someone mourns. That same day a baby is born to a friend and life begins for someone else anew. Death and life are no respecters of time.
I believe this excellent movie tells how to live a life well lived and how fragile our lives are.
I believe that when we are young we consider ourselves invincible. We are healthy and we are bright and the future is ours to grab hold of. As we age, I believe we recognize our own mortality. We see time as something precious to be held on to and not to be wasted.
There is a verse in the Bible that says that our lives are but a vapor, here today and gone tomorrow. I feel that too many of us live as if we have all the time in the world.
God has been really laying on my heart lately this need to live in the moment. I am not guaranteed my tomorrow so why stress out about things I have no control over. Why hold long-standing grudges when, in the end, they cause me as much distress (or more) as the person I am holding them against? Why go on not speaking to family members when I may not be given another chance to make things right? Why live a life of regrets? I believe He wishes us to live our lives to the fullest. I don’t mean this in a narcissistic, self-gratification sort of way but more of a selfless, generous life well-lived. I mean to live each moment to help others, to say kind words, and to forgive. This is a high calling indeed. I know that in my own power I could never accomplish such a thing for I am only human. But with God’s help I believe this is possible. A life well-lived is the greatest kind of gift to give the ones who come after us.
I believe to live in the today is also to live without fear. In our day and age there are many things to fear. People go to school, take a drive in the care, or go to the movies and they never come home. This is a sobering and fearful reality of the world we live in. This is all the more reason to live well and to make sure those around us know we love them.
I think we also fall into a trap of thinking that we have to accomplish something truly extraordinary with our lives to be remembered or to make a difference. I believe this to be a lie. The only one we need to satisfy with our lives is God. I believe that in His eyes, taking care of our sick child well when no one but He sees is just as important as leading great cathedrals in praise or preaching great sermons. Some of us are meant for great and noticeable things and some of us are called to be overlooked but faithful in small deeds. Whatever our calling, I believe that if we are doing what God asked us to do we are living life to the fullest.
I have been close to death a few times in my life. I have to admit that I have never lost anyone I was truly close to. I almost died when I was 18 years old. I have always been a little afraid of dying. I knew where I would go when I died, yet the whole my body dying thing gave me pause. I remember lying in my hospital bed and thinking it would be o.k. I remember feeling a great sense of peace in my heart. I was ready if God decided to take me then and there. He didn’t and I started to get well. I soon forgot my little experience. I was, after all, only 18. I was in my invincible stage. Lately, though, I have remembered that experience and pondered my own mortality.
Will my children know I loved them? Will I let other’s opinions dictate my life? Will I turn my head away from someone in need? I hope when I am gone that those who knew me will render my life a well-lived example of how it should be. She forgave and forgot. She showed kindness to those in need. She loved her family. She lived and died well.
I believe that to die well is a conclusion to living well. Don’t let today be thrown away as though it were a mere tissue in a box. Each day matters. Live fearless and without regret. If you fail try again. Keep trying. Never give up.
I would like to finish with this thought. If you are unclear as to your standing with God I have written another hub on the topic of salvation. I know where I am going when I die. I know that this life is not all there is.
I hope that I have given you a wish to find your purpose and to encounter each day with joy and courage.