Living in Peace with Others
Follow these steps to having peace:
(Romans 12:17, 19-20)
1. Is the relationship valuable enough to be at peace? Decide.
2. Be willing to talk.
3. Be willing to listen.
4. Be honest, open and transparent.
5. Get to the root of the cause.
* Seek Godly counsel, or else wrong counsel can destroy a relationship.
* Am I responding in the way my parents were, or how I was brought up?
6. Be willing to say “I’m willing to work at this.”
* When someone doesn’t know how to love, or to accept love, they don’t know how to deal with it, and may cause more pain for you. The more you try to love, the more that person will withdraw.
Why the steps might not work:
* One is content with strife because he or she grew up that way.
* Some people are satisfied in making others miserable because of their own discomfort, they don’t like to see others happy.
If the grace of Christ doesn’t transform your life, you couldn’t be happy in heaven. NOT ALL PEOPLE WILL GO TO HEAVEN—God has to fit us for it, first. Think of a wicked person who has only evil in his or her heart. If that person were in heaven, he or she would not be able to appreciate that gift and know what to do, and would be like to torture. Therefore, it is pertinent that we accept the grace of salvation and allow God to transform our lives for us to enter heaven.
Peace at any price is wrong. Jesus never appeased, the disciples also never kept peace at all costs, otherwise the New Testament wouldn’t have been written. They all pressed on and declared the Good News to all, not willing to make peace with those who disagreed with the scriptures. False peace is when one is unable to express self, and saying that there never was a problem when in reality you say that just so the other person would “win” or “have peace.” GOD MADE US TO TALK. Those who sacrifice their opinions for the sake of peace keep sacrificing of themselves and repress their own person until there is finally an explosion. We are make peace if POSSIBLE, going as far as you can until violating a spiritual principle. If nothing else has worked to gain peace, in no circumstance do you violate principles. You’ve done all you can at that point, and the Lord will reward you for trying. The longer you live, the more valuable the friendships. The older you are, the less time you have to make new ones.
If you do the best you know how and the person refuses, you’ve done all you humanly can. We are to repay evil with kindness, heaping coals of fire on the enemy’s head. Proverbs 25:21-22. In our kindness we put them in anguish because they expect you to act as they would. If we retaliate, we put ourselves on the same level as the person who’s wronged us.
When it seems impossible:
1. Ask God to show you what to do.
2. Go to a wise Godly counsel (pastor or elder).
3. Make sure what he or she tells you is consistent with the word of God and what God has told you.
4. Have the proper attitude:
* Pure heart (Mark 9:50)
* Love – The Holy Spirit helps you to see past the person and to love as God does
* Patience (Colossians 3:12-12)
* Forgiveness (Ephesians 4:32) – We can never justify an unforgiving spirit.
Think: If my heart is right, I can love and forgive because of what Jesus has done for me.