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Love Marriage and Islam

Updated on August 12, 2012

Assalam o alaikum,

‘Love marriage is permissible in Islam.’

‘Islam gives me right to marry with the person whom I like.’

This is the sentence we often hear whenever we try to help a young girl or boy from immoral or prohibited way of marriage. And this is perhaps the reason of our Muslim youth for indulging in various ‘Haram’ acts or selecting prohibited ways of marriage. In this article I will try to make right of all such related views regarding marriage or love marriage.

Yeah Islam permits love marriage but, what type of love it must be? And how should you express this love? are the questions worth considering. Before we understand this issue thoroughly, let us have a look in the loves and likings and love marriage that are argued to be permissible in Islam and are, misfortunately, in vogue these days. Following are some instances of these likings or love.

Mostly it happens that your child comes to you and says that so and so is my class fellow and we like each other since few months and so we want to marry each other.

Often you experience to hear someone saying ‘I was interested in my colleague and we had a very good friendship with each other. As you know Islam allows love marriage, so we got married’.

This is not done. The worst case is that when parents ask their children to marry someone, the usual reply is:

“let us spend some time with each other, let us have some dinners or outings so that we may come to decision whether we are the perfect match of each other’s or not because this is our Sharai right to like each other before we get married.”

Now come to the first question as to what type of love does Islam permits?

There are some rules to be strictly followed by a Muslim. Firstly looking a ‘Non Mehram’ is Haram in Islam except from the first unintended sight.

Jareer ibn ‘Abdullah [may Allah be pleased with him] said: “I asked the Messenger of Allah [P.B.U.H] about an accidental glance at a woman. He commanded me to turn my gaze away.” [Al-Tirmidhi]

The Messenger of Allah [P.B.U.H] said: “O Ali [his cousin], do not follow a glance with another, for you will be forgiven for the first, but not for the second.”
[Al-Tirmidhi: 2701]

Then mix gathering is strictly prohibited in Islam.

Islam orders both men and women to lower their gaze while they are in public places.

Islam does not permit journey, even a pilgrimage journey, with non permissible (non mehram) then how can we validate this free outing of a young girl and boy for the purpose of this so called liking before marriage?

Islam liked women to be veiled, to be in her home; and not to go out of her home but in case of necessity.

Islam lays down some criteria for this liking. I will not go in depth for these criteria because this is not the issue we are discussing. Some basic aspects to be kept in mind include religiousness, good nature, compatibility, decent family, and physical and mental health.

Now a question arises in the mind: ‘if Islam prohibits all the means by which one can select and like one’s spouse then how can one select a spouse having above stated qualities?’

Answer is very simple. Islam allows love marriage, it does not promote it. Love marriage is permissible; love is not an essential element to the marriage. And the above stated qualities can be easily judged by any of your family member, not essentially by yourself.

Now come to the second question: how should one express the love if one feels for someone? Even if you loved someone within the limits fixed by Islam, you are not free to have free meetings with that person before marriage. The only and best solution to it is to marry that person. Simply he or she should talk to their household to proceed for it. If a boy wants to see his spouse before he gets married to her The Shariah permits the intended spouses to see each other for the purpose of selection and also permits asking and giving opinions if asked (without it being considered as gheebat under certain conditions.)

Abu Hurairah narrates that the Messenger of Allah (May Allah bless him and grant him peace) said “when one with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage then accede to his request. If you do not do so then there will be temptation in the earth and extensive corruption”. (Tirmidhi)

Acting within the limits of Islam if a man feels some attraction towards a woman whom it is permissible for him to marry her, and vice versa, there is no answer to the problem except marriage. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “We do not think that there is anything better for those who love one another than marriage.” (Narrated by Ibn Maajah, 1847; classed as saheeh by al-Busayri and by Shaykh al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 624)

Islam is a complete code of life and being on the right path we can’t come across with any social problem. If I say that all the social evils in today’s society are only due to our ignorance and neglecting of Islamic teachings, then no one can challenge my this statement. Let us have a look in the above stated instances. What happens if we allow our youth to like and select their perfect matches their own.

Here they go for outings, for dinners and have frequent chatting with each other. At the time of decision how horrible situation it may be if let’s suppose girl says that she is willing to get married but boy says that she couldn’t appealed him or vice versa. Or in second instance it happens that both are not willing to get married, now think for a while is this the honor that Islam gives to women and to marriage? No, not at all. Allah has possessed a lot of respect to both women and the contract of marriage and having this way we are disgracing both.

Now think as a husband. Will he like to hear that her wife had frequent chats and free contacts with some boys before she got married to him? Ali Akber Mazaheri writes:

“The notion that a man and a woman must 'know' each other before they decide to marry, so that they may then be able to live happily together is an illusion. Had there been any element of truth and validity in this, the divorce and separation rates in societies which practice it would not have shown a steady rise. Similarly, the marriages which take place without such pre-marital contacts would not have been known to last happily.”

The truth is somewhat inconsistent. The analytics show that the separation rate is high in the societies having such practice.

Islam has not left us to follow our whims and fancies. We have been taught the best method of selecting a suitable spouse. The most important criterion is piety or religiousness.

The above discussion by no means intends to prove that the will of bride and groom is not essential for the contract of marriage. Arranged marriages are allowed and promoted in Islam as long as they are accepted by both the bride and the groom. Reaching upon specific age for marriage if you are not attracted to someone then the arrange marriage is the best for you.


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      M.azhar 2 years ago

      i like islami girl for marry

    • profile image 2 years ago not married yet but i had said yes to a proposal although i wasn't satisfied with it. But for my parents. There is nothing wrong with the guy and his family in fact he,s my cousin. But im not attracted to him or comfortable with him. What now?? Plz help.

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      mehak 3 years ago

      Nice article very helpful.

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      aq 3 years ago

      samra51211: I am not sure if you already married that guy by now, but that Hafiz's idea is bullshit don't ever marry someone hiding from the family. Try to convince your family that he is the right choice for you.

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      Common man 3 years ago

      maheen ! Madam .

      My advise is Not non-religious. Just don't use a Name of Religion or the Name of Almighty God to hide your Corrruptions .

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      maheen 3 years ago

      is using facebook non religious?

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      Common Man 3 years ago

      My Friends! I Have a advise for u go to Other Countries (i.e London, Paris, Rome, Athens, China, Thailand, Nepal, India etc) U will find many girls as your friends they will talk with u and if u have a Good Luck they will also get marry with u. Believe Me or Not the Muslim girls and womens will make u Crazy/Fool in Your life. You will find yourself getting old in your young age.

      Please answer me. I m waiting

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      HAMZA 3 years ago


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      noman tarar 3 years ago

      yar i love a girl but i woud not talk to her plz give me solution that what will be i do

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      Common Man 3 years ago

      I Respect Every Religions.

      But most Important things I want to say My Muslim Sisters and Brother is that Your god Allah is NOT God of the Bible or G-D of the Torah. Your Islamic theology r Definitely Different From Christian/Jewish Theology.

      Believe me If you study on Christianity and Judaism You will find both Religions have Already a Theolgy about Womens Right, that How they r Treating Better to their Womens then u Muslim People.

      Please don't get Angry What your Quran explains that everything Bible and Torah have Already Explain us For a Centuries.


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      Joy 3 years ago


      Thank you for sharing your opinion on love, marriage and Islam. I am currently a student in seminary, and my class has been assigned a post on whether or not a marriage should be based mostly on love and attraction for each other (bride and groom) or other things. We have been asked to compare some things being said on the internet with what the Bible teaches.

      I think your article is interesting, but would like to clarify a few things.

      1. Do you believe love and attraction between the potential bride and groom is necessary for a long-lasting marriage?

      2. Are Islamic women free to leave their husbands if they feel unloved?

      3. You said people must marry by a certain age, in order to qualify for a love marriage.

      "Reaching upon specific age for marriage if you are not attracted to someone then the arrange marriage is the best for you."

      What age is that?

      4. If love and attraction are important to marriage, how are a man and woman to fall in love or find each other attractive if they aren't allowed to look at each other or communicate freely?

      5. I thought the love letter a very passionate read. However, I am wondering why only the man is allowed to express love and show passion, while the woman remains hidden and silent. Is that a custom or is it dictated by the Qur'an?

      I will greatly appreciate your responses. Thank you.

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      shahid dakhli 3 years ago

      Assalamu alaikum all friend how r u i am indian butt rabia ji is great i don't thing so tu much because i am muslim and all.muslim bro sister i like thank u so much i hope u rabia ji my answer so come back so early and maaf my english not nice i don't understand tu much english so please maaf

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      abu sultan 3 years ago

      thanku for such great knowledge i m plaesed after reading it .

      actually i also follow most of the things and while expressing my love to my partner i don't meet her nor i touch her and she likes me too very much for all this. i just want to tell my parents but am afraid as i cannot leave and vice versa and also i have promised her to marry and even she is ready . plzz help

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      Bueh 3 years ago

      oh god what a load of total bullshit. muslim are batshit crazy!

      live in your countries as you wish i only wish you stopped fleeing like rats from you shitty war torn countries to Europe and US.

      you really should be all expelled to where you belong you so called "culture " has no place in a civilised western world.

      go back where you belong and stone each other to death.

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      Ali 4 years ago

      Why so much hate towards a natural emotion? Islam teaches love and affection not repression and anger! Are we all commanded to live like heartless machines? Are we all damned for expressing something that was naturally ingrained in us? True, we must conduct our behaviours modestly and stay away from anything that is evil, but that does not mean we must live without compassion and love for those around us. I don't know you but I do hope you have an active and compassionate love life with your husband

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      Qisya 4 years ago

      MashaAllah, beautifully written, Rabia!

      Well, I'm not into dating. My family don't practice arranged marriage either. I've rejected a few. I need a man who can teach and lead me the way to heaven not some guys who let their mind and heart rule by their darkest nafs.

      I therefore, performed Hajat & Istikharah. I met this wonderful man months ago and InsyaAllah, we'll nikah next year. Only Allah knows best!

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      mudassar ali 5 years ago

      ASSLAM_o_ALLAIAKUM ALL . look leave it everything and stop to talk about each other life give you a chance to alive with smilling and loving just say hi and then bye if you don't know about any person man is a man and woman is a woman your all talking to close as a terririst leave it talking about religions and stop fighting ALHAM DULLILLAH i am a MUSLIM and i proud to be MUSLIM no one can change my life just one just ALLAH can do now rabia plz don't talk with unknown person ..ok even if he jews or christians ........THANKS if everyone understand me

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      Muadh Blake 5 years ago

      Thank you sister very beneficial read!

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      Rumana 5 years ago from Sharjah, UAE

      As salamu Alaikum Sister,

      I absolutely agree with you. If you go astray from the true path shown by Allah, you are surely to suffer.

      Narrated Abu Huraira:

      The Prophet said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers. (Hadith Al Bukhari)

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      samra51211 5 years ago

      assalam alaikum,

      i am 20 years old and like a boy who is 21 years old he is my classmate and proposed me 2 yrs ago. he is very down to earth and very religious.

      i like him b'coz he has changed me completely and by the grace of ALLAH i also try to do my namaaz, roza and read quran.

      the problem is he is from other caste and i am from other caste i want to marry him b'coz we both know that we cannot marry anyone else. my family is not ready just b'coz he is not from our caste. want to mention that he is also studying but just b'coz a man should be able to fulfil his wifes necessities he is working as part time. we have consulted one hafiz and he says that we are both na mahram for each other so the best is that we get married now and when the times comes that my family wants me to get married he should come to my house and disclose it without creating any problem i just want to ask that what is your say about our issue

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      Unknown 5 years ago

      I 100% Agree with Mr. Haris that Pakistan is Country of Animals.

      But i will give a More Good and New Name to Pakistanis that they are Aliens, the Aliens Shown in Alien Movies and in 'Alien vs Predator'.

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      Al Ghuraba 5 years ago

      Brother Noman, learn to respect the Sisters in Islam.

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      Haris 5 years ago

      How can you develop love when you can't even interact with the other sex? A person grown up without interaction with the other sex will be completely unprepared when he/she does get married. I see in no harm in interacting with the other sex if you can control your sexual urges--unless you are a sexually repressed person in third-world countries, such as Pakistan, where you don't even know what the other sex looks like if you live in an environment where sexes are separated--I know this isn't the case in Pakistan, as I lived there for nine years. I'll tell you the truth: Pakistanis tend to be very uneducated, brainwashed, and lacking the capability to think creatively or to take initiatives. And these are the qualities that have turned their society into a backward cesspool of ignorance, corruption, and hypocrisy. I am sorry Rabia, but I know this life from a much more enlightened perspective than you; and I know it is the fault of your society that you do not know the better, more fulfilling, more practical, and more productive alternative than what you are proposing: a place where both sexes display respect for each other and interact like human beings--not animals who have to be separated to control their sexual urges, which seems counterproductive to me.

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      Noman 5 years ago

      Excuse Me !! Rabia Khitran,

      It is Also Painful for Me that u r making me and this Unknown a same Person and more then u r calling us Players. I was Just Supporting u Against this Unknown. I also ask u the Solution of Kashmir Problem under Islamic view but u didn't answer me. How a Heartless women u are.

      Rabia Khitran ! You r from MULTAN, Southern City of PAKISTANI PUNJAB ! Right !! But your Clever Brain and Speedy Tongue Dosnt Show that you r Original Pakistani. May be you are MUHAJIR from KARACHI. Because I Know their r Some Non-Pakistanis (Muhajirs) Living in the Different Parts of Pakistan. If this is True. Then u r the Biggest Cheater & Theatrer.



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      Unknown 5 years ago

      Saudi Arabia !! Are u Kiding with me !!

      It is Very Funny. I (Unknown) and Mr Noman r NOT Same. Rabia Ge. I m Not Playing with u. Some One is Playing with us.

      The Upper Comments " Ah ! Very Niece to Hear about u mr.unknown ................... So How Can we Solve Like this Problems in the Light of Islam, Quran and Hadith ? Is Their Any way ? " is 100% Absolutely Not Not Not Written By me. My Final Comment was Only " Thanks for Showing your Kindness Rabia Ge ". Some One is Using My Name in this site and trying to explain that i (Unknown) and Noman r same & One. That is Not True. If Still u r thinking that i m playing or giving Pain to You. Then i will say Sorry ! Sorry Rabia Khitran Find another person for Fight. Ok

      Thank u very much...............

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      Rabia Saif 5 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      Mr Noman & Mr Unknown

      You are not two. It was painful to know that the same person is playing the part of two. Why huh? You are actually in Saudi Arabia and pretending to be in India? I really can’t imagine the rationale of this exertion. Why are you doing this all?

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      Noman 5 years ago

      Ah ! Very Niece to Hear about u mr.unknown, that u r also an Indian but More that u have Understand about Islam, Pakistan & Pakistani Muslims. I don't care that from which religion u are.

      Rabia Khitran has open this comment Page in Internet through Hubpages. So we Should discuss Our Problems and Solve it through the Islamic Religious Views.

      The Main Problem is in Our South Asia ( India, Pakistan, Afghanistan, Nepal, Bhutan, Bangladesh, Sri lanka & Maldives). We People Have No Unity. We r Fighting Only for Our Ethnics, Provinces, States & Languages.

      It is Very Excellent Situation that Two Atomic Neighbour Countries India and Pakistan r Now Friendly Countries, Now Not anymore enemy of each other. But still their is a Problem of Kashmir and Both Nations ' Muslim Pakistanis' and 'Hindu Indians' Claim this Territory as their Own Property.

      So How Can we Solve Like this Problems in the Light of Islam, Quran and Hadith ? Is Their Any way ?



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      Rabia Saif 5 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      Thank you :)

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      Unknown 5 years ago

      Thanks for Showing your Kindness Rabia Ge. Now I Understand About your Religion Islam.

      G-D Bless U........

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      Rabia Saif 5 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      hmmmm I have some idea about your religion...

      Well never be afraid of us. We are Muslims. We have well organized social system and the best code of life. We are directed to not cause unjust harm to others (having other religions). Yeah Islam commands death sentence for apostasy. By the way it’s nice to hear about your family setting. You are right there are a lot of misconceptions about Islam and Muslims. Never believe them rather try to find the real facts.

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      Unknown 5 years ago

      Rabia Khitran Ge ! Now I m going to Identify My Self, My Grand Parents were from ' Lahore ' But After Partition of 1947 My Family Move to ' India '.

      I will Never Mention My Religion, Because i m Afraid of u People. I m Not Hindu or Sikh. I m _________. And the thing make me change my Views r Some Pakistani Brothers who change my Mind. They Give me two Books name ' Teachings of Islam ' and ' Creation of Pakistan '. I was Wonder about Pakistan. Because in India we r tought that Creation of Pakistan was Biggest Mistake. But Now I understand that Creation of Pakistan was Right and Surely it was Made in the name of Islam Religion.

      Dear Rabia I can also speak and read little little Urdu. You Can also Post your Comments in Roman-Urdu as well as i will also answer u in Roman-Urdu. Thanks.... Sukhria.... Khuda hafiz

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      Rabia Saif 5 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      @ Unknown

      Oh its okay, no need to say sorry. You know our opinion is assembled on the basis of our experiences and our observation. Off course you are free to set your believes at your own but I wish you know the truth. By the way you offered two highly contradictory views about Pakistani nation. First you said we the Pakistanis hate Christians and Jews and now you are saying Islam is the only religion who loves the Jews, Christians, Hindus, Sikhs, Buddhists and Others. I don’t know what made u change your views. I’d rather say we respect all religions.

      I’m from whole of Pakistan. Look any bad experience, with a few Pakistanis from the areas you mentioned, by no means implies that all people are alike there. Its undefeated truth that locality has nothing to do with manners of people. We can’t even say that all people in a street are the same. So how can all people in the whole of a province be alike?

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      Unknown 5 years ago

      Okay ! Mr. Noman and Rabia Kitran, I Surrender, and I m Very Sorry to all my Pakistani Muslim Brothers and Sisters. Please Forgive me.

      We Don't Hate Islam! We Respect Islam, Quran and Mohammed Peace Upon Him. Because Islam is the Only Religion in this World Who Dosent Only Respect But Also Love Jews, Christians, Hindus, Sikhs, Buddhists and Others.

      I have Miss-Understanding About Pakistani Muslims and I m Very Very Sorry to say ' U 18 Cror Pakistanis r fake Muslims '.

      Please Forgive me..............

      Rabia Khitran, I don't Know much about Pakistan. I Know About Few Peoples of Pakistan i.e Lahoris, Punjabis, Peshawaris, Balochis, Sindhis, Gilgitis and Karachis. So Tell me From which Place u r ??



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      Rabia Saif 5 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      @ Noman

      I'm really glad to read such compliments about Pakistanis from a non Pakistani fellow. I dun bother misconceptions and I have no concern how you answer Mr unknown or if you opt to answer him not...

      Being Pakistani I'm very thankful to you for this opinion which I believe is true. Yeah the Pakistani Nation is loving and it loves peace.

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      Noman 5 years ago

      Mr. Unknown, I don't Know About u from where u r ? and why u r hiding your Real identification ? But one thing i want to say u that this Topic is For Marriage Not For a Religious or Political Fighting.

      Look Mr.Unknown, You said " 18 Cror Muslim Pakistanis r Fake Muslims ". I ask u Have u Meet Any Pakistani Muslim ? Answer Me YES or NO ....

      I am an Indian Muslim and I have two Pakistani Muslim friends. One is from Punjab Province and Another from Khyber Paktun Province. Really If u meet them u will find that They r Not Only the True Muslims But Also Social Muslims.

      Mr. Unknown u said that Pakistani Muslims Hate Jews, Christians, Hindus and Others is Not True. Some Arabs r making Hate inside of Pakistani People for Other Religions.

      Pakistan Has Also Save Other Minorities in its Own Land Like India and Afghanistan. So On Next Time Becarefully Talk About Pakistan and 18 Cror Pakistani Muslims........ OK

      Dear Rabia, I m with u, I will always Answer this ' Unknown ' also Non-Asian for his Stupid Comments.



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      Unknown 5 years ago

      O ! Ya ! Don't Look at me or Our Amount. If your Country ' Pakistan ' constitutes about 18 cror Fake Muslims. Then ' India ' is Better then u that they constitutes 23 cror True Muslims. : )

      Rabia, Creation of Pakistan was a Historical Acciedent. Some Extremist and Non-sense Leaders of North-Western part of India wants Pakistan.

      Rabia do u know, The Land today known ' Pakistan ' was a Border of ' India ' and ' Afghanistan '. For Centuries, Indian Muslims and Afghan Muslims were friendly with each other and still today they r Good Friends and that thing is screwing u Pakistanis.

      U Pakistanis Always try to Occupy Indian Territories i.e ' Jammu & Kashmir, Punjab, Rajasthan, Gujarat ' etc. But India Defeat u and the Proof is 1971 war and Kargil War.

      U Pakistanis and Russians Always try to make ' Afghanistan ' Your Slave. But By the Grace of G-D u Both Could Not Success.

      Which Kind of Muslims r u Pakistanis ? In 1971 U Killed 30 lac Muslim-Bengalis in Bangladesh.

      Now in this 21st Century, ALMIGHTY G-D is Punishing u Solidly For your Deeds.

      At the end again i will say " U Pakistanis r Fake Muslims " : )

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      Rabia Saif 5 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      Well it’s really ridiculous to construct your opinion on the practice of a very small number of people. I’m sorry but you seriously need a profound research on Pakistani Muslim Nation or at least renounce commenting about it. Pakistan constitutes about 18 cror of population and you might have facts about a maximum of 1000 people. Or even it’s one cror, it will not be a truthful estimation.

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      Unknown 5 years ago

      Shut up Rabia Khitran ! U Pakistanis r Fake Muslims. :)

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      Rabia Saif 5 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      hmmm cindrella we SHOULD be proud of being Muslims. :)


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      cindrella 5 years ago

      mashallahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh iam proide to be a muslim

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      Unknown 5 years ago

      Rabia Khitran, 1st Thing if u say that Jews (Yehudi) have Change Holy Torah (Torayt) Then u People r the Biggest Liar. Ask to the Jews About Torah, They will Answer u that we Have Nothing Change any thing in Torah. The Present Torah is Same as it Was Given To Moses (Musa) Peace be Upon Him from Almighty G-D Before 3500 Years Ago.

      Only Some Verses r Missed from Holy Torah & Jews Strickly Believe that Our Messiah will come he will Discover the Missing verses of Torah. Ok !

      Your Some Un-educated Religious Scholars Blame that Jews Mis-behaved with Mohammed Peace upon him, Jews Have always make Programmes & Conspiracy to Kill Mohammed Peace upon him (This is Very Funny and Stupid Belief). The True Story is Hidden from Muslim Students that Jews were the First People in Arabia who Welcomed Mohammed Peace Upon him.

      Rabia Khitran, How u can prove me that Ancient People of Makkah & Arabia were Not Pagans. Do u Know What is the Meaning of Pagans ?? Pagan means Idol Worshippers. People of Arabia were worshipping 360 idols (the False gods).

      Jews (Yehudi) Have Always Worshipped Only ' One True God ' Name YHWH the Creator of this Universe.

      Christians (Isai) are Worshipping ' Trinity God ' But they Also Believe in the Same God as i Mention.

      And About India and Afghanistan ! It is true that After Jerusalem, Israel, USA. India and Afghanistan r the 2nd Homeland of Jews.

      Where Jews r Living Peacefully with Muslims, Hindus, Christians & Buddhists.

      I also tell u Go to WIKIPEDIA Website and Search about ' Jews living in India ' and ' Jews living in Afghanistan '

      And Also You can go to YOUTUBE and find their Videos.........

      Thank You Very Much.....

      Later I will Also Answer u about Karachi Tropic................

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      Rabia Saif 5 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      Only the Christians and Jews are not being killed and hated in Karachi. The Muslims are also being tortured there. And the people involved in these activities can be everything except Muslims. Again I’ll say dun construct your opinion about the Muslim nation only upon the status of a few so called Muslims. The true Islam is the ideal code of life.

      The belief that Jews have change Holy Torah and Christians Have change the Holy Bible is not false belief. Lemme give you proof. Collect 100 books (Torah of Bible) from different parts of the world and match all the books. You will notice that there are a minimum of 100 dissimilarities among these 100 books. But if you collect even 1000 books of Holy Quran and match them you cannot find even a single dissimilarity among these all books. This is also explained in the Holy Quran as follows:

      Among the Jews are those who change words from their context and they say: “We hear (you O Muhammad), and we disobey. And hear you (O Muhammad) as one who hears not.”

      (An Nisa 46)

      And regarding Quran Allah says:

      And if it had been from other than Allah, they would have found therein much contradictions.

      (An Nisa 82)

      It makes me happy when you refer something from Holy Quran. You are absolutely right that the Jews and the Christians are not among kuffar. They are AHL E KITAB. In Holy Quran they are addressed as AHL E KITAB or MUSHRIKEEN, not as kuffar. But on the point that the word ' Kafir ' is Only Used for Pagans of Makkah & Arabia’ you are wrong. For prove you can study Holy Quran yourself.

      About India and Afghanistan I’ll opt to say nothing. It is debatable issue.

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      Unknown 5 years ago

      With Most Respect, Rabia Khitran !

      You Said that u Respect Jews & Christians (This is Very Funny). The Whole World Knows that PAKISTAN (Karachi) is the 2nd Place After Arabia where Jews & Christians were Killed and Hated.

      Let me give u some Proof, Your Pakistani Religious Scholars & Arabs Call JEWS the Prophet Killers, the Evil Nation, The Violence Nation, The Liars. CHRISTIANS r the Nude Nation, The Don't Respect the Womens Age of their Sisters, Mothers & Daughters.

      Even u Claim (Which is Yours False Believe) that Jews Change Holy Torah & Christians Change Holy Bible.

      In Arabia as well as in Your Pakistan Jews & Christians r Called ' Kafir '. Your Own Holy Quran has Called Both People ' People of the Book ' or ' People of G-D '. In Quran Word ' Kafir ' is Only Used for Pagans of Makkah & Arabia

      So Tell Me Rabia, In Which Way u r telling me we Respect Jews & Christians !!

      Rabia You will Not Believe, But it is True that Today in INDIA and AFGHANISTAN there r Still Jewish Minorities Living.

      In Afghanistan, Two Afghan Jewish Families r Living Peacefully.

      In India, Five Thousand Indian Jewish Families r Living Peacefully.

      If Still U Don't Believe than Go to 'Wikipedia' Website & Write:

      ' History of Jews in Afghanistan '

      ' History of Jews in India '

      Search & Find Truth.

      Hope U will Also Understand.......................

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      Rabia Saif 5 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      Ough you are proving yourself to be miss-understanding person…

      Okay tell me when did I say something which implies that we hate Jews and Christians? I RESPECT BOTH. Yes you are right on the point that true Islam teaches Muslims to respect every religion. True Muslims respect every religion. How can you place all the Muslims in same category? Look I try to explain this all with a case in point. Suppose you have a fantastic vehicle and you hand over this vehicle to an untrained driver; of course he will cause an accident. Now it will be ridiculous if you blame the company, making that vehicle. The same situation is with the Islam and Muslims. Some Muslims are defaming Islam by their malpractices and you, the non Muslims, are blaming Islam. And it by no means implies that there are no True Muslims today in the world. Again I’ll say I never said that Jews or Christians are bad and evil. Okay

      Imagine Islam as a system, not religion, and I’m sure you will love it. It is the best religion, a complete code of life.

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      Unknown 5 years ago

      Dear Rabia Khitran, I Didn't Say that U Follow Me..... Why u r Explaining me like a Miss-understanding Person ??

      We Rescpect Islam & True Muslims But we Will Never Follow Islam ??? U r a Muslim u Follow Islam. All Jews & Christians r Not Bad or Evil. OK.....

      Jews (Yehudi) will Only Follow Moses (Musa) Peace Be Upon Him.

      Christians (Isai) will Follow Jesus (Isa).

      Why They will Follow u ???

      And There is No Dout that Your 'Pakistan' is Second Image of Arabs in Asia.

      Look at 'Afghanistan' , Still in this 21st Century they Claim that they r 'Lost Tribes of Bene Israel'. They r NOT Following Arabs. Look at 'India' they r 'Secular State' Jews, Muslims, Hindus, Christians, Buddhists, Jains r Living Peacefully in India as Well as in Afghanistan.

      Then Why Do u Pakistanis Hate Jews or Christians & Follow Arabs ?? We Know that True Islam Teaches Muslims to Respect Every Religion. Then why Don't u People Obey That ????

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      Rabia Saif 5 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      Mr unknown,

      It’s really pleasant that you stopped by and commented on the hub. But I seriously think that you didn't read the whole article and assumed a lot about it. Dear, firstly read the title of the hub, it’s surely not about ancient Arab system and neither a criticism on Christianity or Jewish marriages. Secondly all the references quoted here are from sources of Islamic teachings. Not even a single sentence is written about the Arab system.

      As regards Moses (A.S), We can find extensive information about the life of the Prophet Moses (A.S) in three of the largest Suras of the Holy Quran (al-A'raf, Ta-Ha, and al-Qasas). Yeah I admit the greatness of the teachings presented by him. We all Muslims admit actually. But Hazrat Muhammad P.B.U.H talks about the marriage system in complete particulars.

      Now come to the Christianity and Jews, how did you come to make out that the hub is a criticism on Christianity or Jewish marriage (you wrote “Persons Like u (Please Don't thinking that Jews or Christians have No Idea how to to Marriage & Pass Successful Married Life”). I even did NOT use the word Christians or Jews in the hub.

      One last thing, you said I want people to follow me. NEVER, I just want people to follow islam, to obey Almighty Allah, the One, the Self Sufficient. I hope everything is clear now.

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      Unknown 5 years ago

      Dear Rabia Khitran,

      I Want to Explain u that the Law of Marriage or Relation Between Husband-Wife u People r Describing Have Already Described in ' Jewish Torah ' and in ' Christian Bible '.

      Persons Like u ( Please Don't Mind ) r always thinking that Jews or Christians have No Idea how to to Marriage & Pass Successful Married Life.

      Rabia Khitran, U Forget that a { Hebrew-Prophet Also Known as Prophet of Judaism } MOSES (Peace be Upon Him) was the 1st Men who Correctly Introduced that How Man & Woman Can Do Marriage & Can Pass Successful Marriage Life, that is Why Jews and Christians r Following Him. But Guys Like u want to Leave Him & Follow You.

      Rabia Khitran ! (PLEASE DON'T MIND) My these Words r Not Against of Your Religion. But One Thing i want to say that U Pakistani People r Not Following the True Islam, U r Just Following Arabic System, Which is Very Dangerous & Harmful System for Your Own Culture and for this World.

      So Just Thing ABout it My Sister............

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      Rabia Saif 5 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      Please will you explain in plain words what you exactly want to know??

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      Unknown 5 years ago

      Dear Rabia Khitran! I Don't Understand that What the Hell U Pakistani Womens/Girls r trying to Show or Explain this World ? The Things u r Describing...

      Almighty G-D has already Described these Things in ' Torah of Judaism ' & ' Gospel of Christianity '.

      Almighty G-D has Already Teached Forbidden or Non-Forbidden to All Jewish Prophets i.e Adam, Noah, Abraham, Ishmael, Isaac, Jacob, David, Solomon. Aaron, Miriam & Moses (Peace be Upon Him) Even to the Christians Prophets i.e John, Mary Jesus (Peace Upon Him).

      What ? What u Pakistan Ladies r trying to Show this World ???

      PLEASE ANSWER ME !! I M WAITING .............

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      Rabia Saif 5 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      A love letter from a Muslim man to the girl he loves.

      “If you love me, don’t confess your love to me, this won’t please me and will keep me away! love words don’t attract me. If you love me, wait for me and I will knock on your door in the right time. Don’t give me privileges which I don’t deserve. Keep me away from you, and I will approach you. If you approach me, I will stay away from you. Don’t love me, for I want you ignorant in love. I want to teach you love when the right time come and you will be my Halal, only when we are joined together under our Creator’s satisfaction.

      Don’t tell me what you feel, don’t give me from your time, don’t push me to lose you. I am a man who won’t accept to see the one he loves committing sins or to live a forbidden love behind the back of her family. I don’t want her to feel guilty and don’t want her heart to suffer.

      Put limits to me that I won’t cross, kill me inside you so I won’t grow to kill you. Preserve what is beautiful inside you. I want you innocent, chaste, pure. I want you dear, not easy. And then, Only then, I will face everything and will be ready to go through difficulties to get you

      How could I be a faithful man to you when I try to break your chastity? How would I be faithful to you if I push you to betray your family? How could I trust a love which grew under Allah’s wrath ? To love you means to protect you, to preserve you not to kill what is beautiful in you.

      Don’t be easy because then, I may not value you. Don’t love me now, so I won’t hate you! My heart wants you and doesn’t want to lose you. I don’t want you to be just a passing fancy to me, I want you a wife, a lover, the mother of my children, I want you to be the one I will spend my whole life with yo.”

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      Rabia Saif 5 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      Sheikh Imran & alghuruba

      Thank you ^_^

      You liked it I am glad.

      All praise is for Allah, the Lord of the worlds.

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      alghuraba 5 years ago from Dunya

      Allahu Akbar! nice one

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      Sheikh Imran 5 years ago

      MashaAllah! Beautifully made. May Allah bless you for that

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      Umar khitran 6 years ago

      I proud of u and islam ur so genius dear i will be meat u soon

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      Rabia Saif 6 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      yet your point is not clear...

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      Umar khitran 6 years ago

      Islam is a great relgius in the world. Its give many benefits.a muslim human knew that islam's benfits and more then.

      Islam give us independnes and help us all good work in the life.

      So i told here ISLAM I LOVE you so much

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      Rabia Saif 6 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      Wow great analysis Umar Khitran… you are not certain about the assertion in the topic but about rabia khitran you seem quite certain that she is sweet… :D May I know the craze that made you say ‘may be’?

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      Umar khitran 6 years ago

      May be its true i proud of u Rabia u r so sweet

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      Rabia Saif 6 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      Thank you Zia Khan Khitran for readind this and thanks for compliment.

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      Rabia Saif 6 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      Ferya you are right and this is the most disappointing aspect of the issue. If the parents start setting right their ways and conduct, there will be little or no chance of youth for being spoiled. These are parents or ultimately mothers who control the values of races. By the way your appreciation means a lot to me and criticism from you will be warmly welcomed :) thanks for reading...

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      Rabia Saif 6 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      Well said Tahira this all is so called modernism and taken in sense of fashion thing. if somebody prefer the Islamic way he or she may be criticized or even neglected by his/her own Muslim fellows. at that time he should decide to whom is given preference:to Almighty Allah or to the this mortal life and world.

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      Zia Khan Khitran 6 years ago from Riyadh, Saudi Arabia

      Nice Effort

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      Freya Cesare 6 years ago from Borneo Island, Indonesia

      Salam, Sister Rabia.

      This is very interesting topic to brought out. Islamic way of life indeed already corrupted by these kind of behaviour. And the young generation not the only group who considering outing before marriage is applicable and important to seek further knowledge about future husband and wife. Parents today supporting this behaviour also and when one tried to reasoning about how we should not advertising this behaviour, they came out with so many excuses. So sad, really.

      I hope many people will read this hub decided to following the right way of courting in Islam.

      Thank you for the good read, sister.



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      tahira zia 6 years ago

      marriage is a basic institution of any a days it is being abolished by so called is a write time to understand the importance of this basic unit of the society.u've done a wonderful job and very good effort on a very sensitive issue.presented it in a good way.

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      Rabia Saif 6 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      Zainejaz thank you very much for reading this and thanks for wishing.

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      Zainejaz 6 years ago from Quetta

      Welcome to hubpages Rabia! Great stuff best of luck for the future.

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      Rabia Saif 6 years ago from Multan, Pakistan


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      zoya 6 years ago

      Welcome & Its my pleasure to read such a nice article.

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      Rabia Saif 6 years ago from Multan, Pakistan

      Thank you Zoya. I am glad you like it. yeah it is really very important issue and i wish our youth as well as parents know all about it. thanks again for appreciation.

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      zoya 6 years ago

      MASHALLAH..superb work done .. and nice way of presenting one of the important issue of our society in the light of islam.. we should think about it and stickly obey them. keep it up....


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