Love Really Is All We Need
A difficult predicament to find oneself is in the middle of a bickering couple. Take this recent exchange between a husband and a wife:
Wife (to me, referring to her husband): Is he asleep?
Husband (before I could respond): No! Why are you always watching me?
Wife: I just wanted to know if you were asleep!
Husband: Why? I’m tired of you watching me all the time!
At that point, I removed myself from the situation thankful that I was not pulled in any further. While at a comfortable distance, I remembered a Sunday morning not too long ago. That same wife decided to take a day trip with her brother, leaving dinner prepared but the husband alone. That afternoon, when the husband realized he would not be sharing dinner with his wife, he stated wistfully, “I don’t know what time to start eating without her here.”
We tend to take people for granted, especially when the relationship has been long-term. However, there will come a time when that person is gone, either temporarily for a day trip or permanently after being called home to be with the Lord. It is then that the little things - the rudimentary actions and details you place in the far corners of your mind and heart - become precious.
What one misses most about someone just may be the same things that one once found worrisome. In the two scenarios above, the husband could not stand this wife's constant attention, yet when faced with her absence it was the very thing he missed. Per 1 Pt 4:8: “Above all, love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins” (NIV). Instead of focusing on traits you find irritating, appreciate the person. And remember, you probably have a few traits others find irritating, too.