Butterflies: Love Sex and Magic
It is written, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”
I bet the title and opening seem conflicting, but when you really think about it they shouldn’t be because originally, God intended for the magic behind making love to exist, to be savored between two people who have made the vows before Him.
When you read from chapter 2 line 18 in the beginning, it’s then that you get the gist of the opening line I have used. We can’t forget the seasoning thrown here and there throughout bible. Better yet we can’t forget the book dedicated for it all....Song of Solomon and I bet there are quite a few of us who have pulled lines from it to get our game going.
Anyway it doesn’t matter, the bottom line is, whether you believe in your own prowess or have sought the wisdom of those who were gifted with words, no matter the means used to get to the end, within those pages He did specify about just two people committed to each other in plain words. He spoke it in that book of Sayings chapter 5 lines 15-20 when he said,
15 Drink water from your own cistern,
running water from your own well.
16 Should your springs overflow in the
your streams of water in the public squares?
17 Let them be yours alone,
never to be shared with strangers.
18 May your fountain be blessed,
and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—
may her breasts satisfy you always,
may you ever be captivated by her love.
20 Why be captivated, my son, by an
Why embrace the bosom of another man's wife?
But if you read the whole chapter you will get the point and may be you will see things in a new light.
Let’s not jump the gun because before you get to chapter 5 in the Sayings, getting to what is being described needs some massive hormone overload and it’s the attraction that sets the ball rolling.
From puppy love to childhood and high school sweethearts and the “it was horrible time of my life I don’t know you exist” teenage crushes, many a Kleenex boxes have been spent over tubs of ice cream for love gone awry.
However when its all said and done, it’s the attraction that has kept many warm at night, skin aglow and eyes twinkling with memories of romantic moments shared. It is this same attraction that has made the break your heart “I will be waiting for you when you get back” goodbye scenes bearable, when our dreams and obligations call us from the security offered by their embrace.
All I am trying to point out is this, regardless of who we are attraction does play an important part in keeping the fire burning and regardless of the commitments that take up most of our time, we shouldn’t neglect the relationships we have to chase after the elusive dollar because we think it is important to keep the fire burning.
What we have to understand is that, the important things in life are not things. keeping the attraction alive is about enjoying doing the things we love and sharing them with those people we hold dear.
So if you envision being 75 years old and still being able to keep the flame alive is what motivates you, then go to the gym whenever you can, walk into the sunset literally and make more memories, join a dance class and eat healthy to keep you looking fine and never ever get comfortable.
Heck! live your memories all over again…go to that park where you first met, take those walks you used to take when it was all knew, massage those knots at the base of the neck, give a foot rub, a back massage, steal away to some hotel room, role play if thats your style because love between two people committed to each other, knows no boundaries.
But never stop talking, never stop laughing at the little thing just as much as you laugh at the big ones, never stop liking because it is easier to love than it is to like, never stop listening even when you think you know what they are going to say, never stop wanting to know what she or he wants, never stop looking good for them because you are now married and it doesn't matter anymore,never stop discovering......
.....and never ever “till death do we part” stop feeling the butterflies, because they got you here, and if you trust them they will take you so many years into the sunset….this is the magic behind it all.