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Love sees all and excuses much

Updated on October 4, 2014

My house is covered in these photos - I just figure I like them more than landscapes of pictures or my wedding photos.

It is no big deal if you have a better picture I will put it up.
It is no big deal if you have a better picture I will put it up. | Source

Love is in us and the power to forgive. Like excusing someone is in us.

Some say religion is the same as love, I just do not buy it. I lay me down to sleep at night and I pray for as many folks whose names I can remember. And some I just picture. Maybe it is just me. Love excuses transgressions. Love sees all in a good way. If we choose we can alter that and make it bad. Love sees and love excuses.

Now I lay me down to sleep I pray the Lord these souls to keep: ....... If I should die before I wake I pray the Lord these souls to take.

And I always pray before eating --- Rub a dub dub three men in a tub -- hallelujah and thanks for the grub.

Well I am kidding just a little but the point is that there ain't no religion here. We are not unholy but we view God as our best friend not some supreme ruler.

You see in my house there ain't no obligation

My wife born Buddhist and my son just really love Jesus. They just like the guy and his ideas. Ok my wife and I are devout Christians you could say. But we have not belonged to a denomination for years. We just kind of read the Bible for thought and love each other for practice. We like the Catholic traditions. We have studied and understand the Catechism. But sometimes it is just about eating the food and hugging our buddies on Sunday.

Sometimes we go to church to serve. Maybe to preach or to teach or to greet or to bring and or serve food. Maybe we just go to give our thoughts and prayers in a group for someone suffering. OK and sometimes there are little parties going on. And sometimes we go to see some friends we have been missing.

(I cannot help the pun - sometimes we have excuses not to go hihihi)

I apologize to our Religionists. But we just do not shake our booty that way.

We get up in the morning and pray and we pray at meals and at bed time and brush teeth and wash face time.

We got these crosses hanging from our rear view mirrors and we just love the Gospels.

We just ain't got no religion. Not old time and not new time. We have our notions of God and Jesus and the Holy spirit.

But by golly jingles we just cannot follow dogma. Really strange. Maybe my son will straighten us out -- His Baptized name is Gabriel My San. Which translated means Angel American Saint, from Vietnamese. But that was given to him by his Buddhist Grandma - go figure.

Now I am just suggesting that my life -- broken down is not all that great. I am a writer, and we all know that means poverty and ridicule. I Preach for no money. I feed and help homeless for nothing. I am behind on my bills.

But somethin somethin keeps us happy.

Religion is OK. But not for my home. We just do not roll that way

A rose will always be a better preacher than me
A rose will always be a better preacher than me | Source

There just is this thing in the air.

So I got a fancy pantsy degree in philosophy and another fancy pantsy one in philosophy of law and I have been commissioned to study the canons to come up with reasons women cannot be priests and homosexuals are wrong. Well I found both concepts to be contrary to love. Laws against love are funky.


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I just love this love song, my mom played on vinyl a lot

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Just to let you know, I like rituals

I just like em. You know folks in robes candles lit, a procession to begin. Reading at least a Psalm, an epistle and then the Gospel and then some preaching and then the peace and I like at least some liturgy for communion. I like the hymn placed just so and singing hallelujah before reading the Gospel. I am not get all freaky deaky about perfection and I do not place them above just the plain getting together to share and love.

Let me put it this way. When I raced downhill skiing for a living I had ritualistic pattern I followed from a quiet meditation memorizing the course to warm up stretching to kissing my skiis to running in place to using my hand to visualize what I was going to do where and when. I got me psyched up! I have rituals that get me psyched for writing and ones before a big hike. I even have them to get me in the right frame of mind to drive in traffic.

Well all that churchy liturgy stuff psychs me up to preach or listen to God in my heart, it gets me in the right space. And if we do it basically the same every time it settles me in and blocks out the outside world so I can let God in.

But count me out of the dogma.

Love excuses much

My boy can do bad stuff. But my love excuses him
My boy can do bad stuff. But my love excuses him | Source

Think excusing, not an excuse

Do not get the two confused. We all know what an excuse is. It is a balderdash explanation for a failure of some kind. But when we say love excuses it is different. When I grew up we ate dinner very formally with one hand in the lap, please and thank you and may I, loud was not acceptable and rude was intolerable. If we wanted to go get something or answer a phone during dinner you looked to the elder and said, "may I please be excused". That is the kind of excuses I am talking about. I love we ask to be excused we do not offer up excuses. In real love the were are automatically excused.

Perhaps that is too old fashion of an explanation. So let me say it this way -- in love do not wait for an excuse -- excuse before being asked.

My mom used to say "Eric I know you have a game tonight do you need to excuse yourself?" A gentle reminder that it was time to go and a pre-forgiveness for leaving early. That is how a host should act to his guests. Or a parent should be to a child.

Basically just leave love alone unless you are going to nurture it.

Love is truly innate. Babies are born with it. We can be taught how to acting lovingly, which is a very good thing. But if we just leave it alone it will do things like excuse and take care of and grow. It will make us happy. And ultimately make others happy. So if you do not have something good to do with it, leave it alone, it will be good all by itself.

Please excuse these niceties.

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      Shannon 3 years ago from Texas

      Seeing as how you kinda dropped off mid sentence, I'm not sure you meant to publish yet, but I'm gonna comment anyway. You always seem to make me smile. Sure hope I'm not one of the souls you pray to take. ;-). Otherwise, Jesus is love, not dogma.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hey Shanmarie I fixed it all up nice and fancy see what you think now -- Your last poem is still in my head :-)

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      Shannon 3 years ago from Texas

      Aw, didn't realize it was that memorable. I just wrote it to express feelings. I suppose writing is the best way to do that anyway. Saves burdens for others.

      I think your excuses explanations is something I'll have to ponder.

      And I think the view of the ocean is spectacular!!

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I love the word catharsis (oops I almost said cathartic ;-) My writing is the same for me.

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      Shannon 3 years ago from Texas

      Eh, they are more or less the same thing. I actually don't always write for that - I generally don't share such syrong emotions with anyone, and another reason why not to has been reinforced lately.

      It's nice to know someone is there, but is there any real value in sharing with someone else those emotions that pass if they just weigh someone else down?

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      Shannon 3 years ago from Texas

      Next time, I'll just ask to be excused from the table. ;-)

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Shanmarie, if your problems weigh someone else down that is on them. On the other hand, if it is a partnership of any sort we got no right not to share. I like to keep bad news from my wife and I have good excuses for doing it -- but that never ends well. (this is aside from my clients private problems that become mine, after hearing some of those she asked me not to share that as she loses sleep)

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      Shannon 3 years ago from Texas

      Oh, I know that. I also know that it is possible to care deeply without losing sleep or one's own well being because I've done it, but it isn't always easy. It then becomes a matter of giving it to God.

      But, any value gained by sharing cares and concerns with others is not really worth it if it ultimately hurts someone else.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Your point is well taken -- but me, I am one of those that needs the hurt in order to get me to progress.

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      Shannon 3 years ago from Texas

      Don't we all progress by experience? To feel pain at all means one is alive. To feel compassion for someone else's pain is to progress.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Well said shanmarie, (sorry for some reason this hub did not give me notices starting right about 5 days ago -- and when I came to look a few moments ago all the comments were. I edited and unpublished and published again and now all are back -- a ghost I suppose)

      I know some who stop progressing and others that progress by the moment. Me, I am kind of bi-polar I ebb and flow.

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      Shannon 3 years ago from Texas

      Sure, sure - blame it on the HubPages comment stealing ghosts. . .

      I suppose everyone ebbs and flows even if it doesn't seem that way. Life seems to work that way.

      Say, been meaning to ask how close you are to all the fire talk on the news? Has all that finally died down?

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Our large county is OK, I have seen two brush fires that were quickly but out. So it is just a matter of luck if we make it to some rain with out a major fire. Hey we build in dangerous areas because the money to be made and we are arrogant enough to have brought in plant species that do not belong here and just provide perfect kindling for a fire during a drought which happens nearly yearly. So so far so good.

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      Shannon 3 years ago from Texas

      Not familiar with yearly drought, but when I lived in Southeast Texas there was a substantial one a couple of years ago that left plenty of piney woods dry kindling for forest fires. We had burn bans and such.

      Anyway, good to know you and your family are not having that to deal with.

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