Female & Male Astro Characteristics. Women Can Be From Neptune. Males Can Disguise Malice. Don't Prejudge the Seductive.

Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus.

I know it was a best seller. John Gray wrote a great book in 1992 and it helped people see how understanding distinctive separations of gender function could lead to greater harmony. It was a success and I praise it. But astrologically speaking, the Mars and Venus dogs just won't hunt! There is more to it, if you will permit an astrological continuation of the theme.

Everybody has Everything Somewhere.

To give an "astro picture" of the points under discussion, Of course, the "Men are from Mars, Women Are From Venus" metaphor, is only that, an image of a way to understand. But we all have the planets and the signs and their aspects somewhere along the horary wheel.

As my mother loved to say: "You hate Scorpio? Everybody has Scorpio somewhere in one of their houses". So to say one sex has the qualities of one planet and one another is a basic misnomer. That is limiting. And don't "hate" any sign or planet because you have them somewhere in your horoscope. I have Moon in Pisces in my 10th House at the Midheaven. If I were to "hate Pisces", it would be sad, because it has much to do with my career. And if I were to think of women as only having this, or men as only having that, it would also be a mistake.

Uranus - Wild, Imaginative, Technological, Idea Maker, Revolutionary

Uranus is the planet of change and revolution and new ideas. Speaking of man caves, why do men like to go back there? To tinker, to watch TV, to tinker some more, to clear their heads and watch ESPN, and continue tinkering, and yes, to be "themselves", the self that no one else really wants to hear about, but the self who needs a place to "breathe". When men were in caves for months and couldn't really hunt, they had to work on tools and come up with new weapons.

Not all men are revolutionary. But revolutions are started by men. You can not name in this modern world all the various inventions that men have come up with in their "man caves".

Saturn - Law Making, Form Creating, Shaper, Judgment Declarer, Kicks Butt

As my Mother once told me (Who Taught Astrology to me for 3 decades): "Women Make the World. Women Are the World"

Anciently, when women made their beautiful little tents in the wild wilderness of the total around, way back when, their organized clean home was all the civilization there was. Go back in your head. Way back, no 7-11 around the corner, no cars, no institutions, no cops. Just "my tent, my bit of civilization and the big bad awesome around". A few steps from most women's tents was not freeways, but the wilderness. And then the hubby comes home and drops the bloody kill to close to her domain. Do you thank him? No, you kick his butt. Women are the rule makers, habit establishers, societal structure creators. Women are the reason for dances and parties and get togethers and people giving a rip about all that there is. Without women's Saturnine influence there would be nothing but dead meat on a spit and some dried skins.

Women make the structures of the world. And all the while, they make men care. Insist that they care. Women accept all those Uranian impulses men have and fit them into the structure of their daily and nightly lives.

While the tornado of activity that they orchestrate churns around, they issue their orders for safety, sanity and common sense. It is the women who really run everything, create the need for new things, establish acceptable conduct for the little "blankety blank" kids across the street and the order of silver on a beautiful dining table. Women create the "A List", who is acceptable and who is not. What's "in" and what is "out".

The Taj Mahal was made because of the love a man had for a woman. The Great Wall of China was made to keep violence off of the village, the integrity of the home. The whole world is here in all of its complexity because of the forming power of Saturn. The mystery of women, that thing that men don't understand, could probably unfold itself to the light of day, if men would appreciate these Saturnine influences.

The Threshhold - No Threshhold, No Marriage. No Marriage, No Family.

There is so much poetry here, I must conclude with this. The thresh hold was a board or stone or fresh straw at the front door, to stop the ugly outside dirt from moving in and intruding into the house. When a man takes a woman across the thresh hold, it is a symbol. A marvelous symbol. The home is yours and yours to rule, and I take you across the thresh hold as a symbol of our life together as a unit. We are a unit. I accept this structure and because of this structure, we will make a family and out of this a legacy will come.

In adding to the Mars/Venus metaphor, I have opened my self up to criticism for the Uranus/Saturn one. Suffice it to say, and to quote my mother: "Everybody has everything somewhere." so these comparisons only go so far. In truth, all these things work together in a concert of harmony.

The Interdependent Co-Arising

The "Interdependent Co Arising" - the Way All Things Work Together - in the world is all too complex for one mind to behold. But when we think of these separations of function, they should cause us to be in awe. And they should fill us with a warm reverie about how creation occurs. And so, I will leave it there. Appreciate the powers around you, and how we all manifest them, for the interplay of all these forces works itself out every day in your life.