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Milestones & Friends

Updated on July 20, 2013
"There are places I remember
 All my life, though 
 some have changed
 Some forever not for better
 Some have gone and
 some remain..."
    ~Lennon & McCartney~ 

Zero Milestone in Washington, D.C.  The initial milestone from which all roads in the U.S. were supposed to be measured.
Zero Milestone in Washington, D.C. The initial milestone from which all roads in the U.S. were supposed to be measured.

Definitions & Introductions

Milestones were originally fashioned out of granite, marble or slate, and were an integral part of the Roman Empire’s communication network. They were placed at mile intervals along the roads, providing a frame of reference to inform or assure travelers.

Life is a journey along a road that comes with dips, curves, detours and dead-ends. It seldom has vast distances of straight-aways that are well paved with no surprises or potholes. We often require information or assurance to stay on track and make necessary course corrections along the way. Milestones have become those significant events we acknowledge as achievements.

Recently a good friend came upon a consequential milestone; it was my distinct privilege to participate in the celebration.

I met Rita Wolf in late January 1997. There was an undercurrent of tension in the introductions because she was a member of a search committee interviewing me for a job. As it turned out I passed muster and had the honor of sojourning with that family of disciples for almost eleven years, forming many lifelong friendships along the way.

The Morrison BIC Church all lit up for the annual Christmas Walk.  BIC is affectionate shorthand for the Brethren in Christ denomination.
The Morrison BIC Church all lit up for the annual Christmas Walk. BIC is affectionate shorthand for the Brethren in Christ denomination.

The Call

Rita was born and raised on a farm west of Morrison in northwestern Illinois. Her birthday is the same year as mine, but in a longstanding joke between us she is much older because hers arrives in August while mine comes in October.

One Sunday morning in 1989, while sitting in a pew and minding her own business at the Morrison BIC Church, God got her attention. She sensed a call to pastoral ministry. Not sure what was happening or what to do with the burning sensation in her heart she knelt at the altar and prayed.

It was a heavy idea to think about and she began to explore the possibilities, but there appeared to be too many obstacles and roadblocks. Given the fact that she had three growing children and an overloaded schedule, taking on a new challenge seemed to be out of the question.

Trained as a nurse, the call was simply a bridge too far to cross, but no matter how often she tried to dismiss it, God would not let up. He kept bringing it to the forefront of her mind and she tried to dodge it. There was much turmoil and restlessness in her soul; an anxiety of struggle became so powerful that she came to know the only way she could silence the call was by confronting it.

The Howling Five in 2002 - Ken, Rita, Kelly, Erin, Dana
The Howling Five in 2002 - Ken, Rita, Kelly, Erin, Dana
Ken & Rita Wolf, 12.20.09
Ken & Rita Wolf, 12.20.09

The Bridge

The BIC had developed a Theological Education by Extension (TEE) program as a bridge to accommodate those whose life circumstances would not allow them to pursue a conventional academic course. Rita enrolled in it and quickly discovered that she had lots to learn and miles to go, but now she had purpose and a plan. She poured herself into the assignments.

In 1992, she had an epiphany while taking the history core course taught by Dr. E. Morris Sider at Messiah College in Grantham, PA. It came with a clarity that she has never been able to shake; she knew that she knew that she knew that the call to pastoral ministry was as real and relevant as real and relevant can ever be.

The next year, the call became almost unbearably intense when she took a Clinical Pastoral Education course at Rockford (IL) Memorial Hospital. This was an eye-opening and horizon expanding experience for her, which led to a shift in her nursing career. She joined the staff at Hospice of the Rock River Valley serving as the Bereavement Counselor.

In this new role she found fulfillment and for a few years thought that she had answered God’s call on her life. As her new duties took center-stage she packed the TEE program into a box at the back of a closet.

However, there was an ongoing work of God happening in her life; apparently all her growing and stretching was merely preparation. By Divine appointment, people kept coming into her life to plant seeds that kept her heart stirred up. The call to pastoral ministry was always there nipping at her.

After flexing and developing ministry muscles, the call became overwhelming. In 2003, having no release from God, she jumped back into the TEE courses with a fierce determination, completing all the required work at warp speed.

Then in 2007 an opportunity arrived at her doorstep that could only be the result of God’s provision; Rita joined Bruce Johnson as Co-pastor of a unique church plant at a coffeehouse ministry called Beans, Books & Beliefs in Sterling, IL. The church is called The Bridge @ Beans.

Reverend Rita I. Wolf
Reverend Rita I. Wolf
The Howling Five expanded by daughter Emily & son Donnie.
The Howling Five expanded by daughter Emily & son Donnie.

The Milestone

On Sunday, December 20, 2009 The Bridge @ Beans was wall to wall friends and family gathered to applaud and encourage Rita Wolf; she was officially ordained to Christian ministry by the BIC. The fact that the milestone was accomplished is a tribute to God’s faithfulness and Rita’s perseverance.

Along with all the usual hard stuff of life, because of something as natural as the way God created her, Rita had to overcome manmade barriers and expectations; praise God that she had the grit and character to do so.

Rita reacts to people in pain from her heart and gut; her response to the physical, emotional or spiritual pain of others is immediate compassion and empathy. She reaches out to others with genuine caring because deep in her bones she knows that the marvelous grace of God that rescues and enriches her life is for everyone.

GRACE IS FOR EVERYONE: Even for murderers; even for skeptics; even for those who are fed up with church; even for those whose theology is all screwed up; even for those who claim they want nothing to do with God; even for those who are so full of religion and judgment that they are spiritual sourpusses.

GRACE IS FOR EVERYONE. Rita wraps this truth around her like a brightly flashing neon sign that cannot be missed. As Chaplain at Hospice of the Rock River Valley, she has a profound understanding of our common humanity; out of her own brokenness she comprehends what it means to be broken. God has gifted her with strengths that allow her to connect with individuals at their point of need.

Rita's family has kept pace with her every step of the journey. The howling five, along with various in-laws and outlaws, are friends of mine. And friendships of this rare variety are milestones not found around every bend in the road.


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    • Ken R. Abell profile imageAUTHOR

      Ken R. Abell 

      9 years ago from ON THE ROAD

      Oldyeller3 - Rita a "loon"??? I can hardly imagine the scenario. Not. I can easily imagine... :>)

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      Ken R. Abell 

      9 years ago from ON THE ROAD

      RevLady - You're welcome. It is a great story. Peace & blessings to you.

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      9 years ago

      It is really nice to witness people accomplish God's goals. life is a journey, glad to have traveled a leg of this one with the "loon" a name affectionately applied to Rita as she was challenged along the way, but thats another story.

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      9 years ago from Lantana, Florida

      Thank you Ken, for sharing a life story that seems to cover the gamete of what true faith ministry means. It is always uplifting to know that Christians are still working in His vineyard. In the midst of terror, death, hurt, and pain, there are God's chosen ones quietly ministering the gifts of love, devotion, hope, patience, presence, mission, faith; His healing power.

      Forever His,

    • Ken R. Abell profile imageAUTHOR

      Ken R. Abell 

      9 years ago from ON THE ROAD

      einron - You're welcome. Peace & blessings to you.

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      9 years ago from Toronto, Ontario, CANADA

      Thank you for a true story of love and devotion.


    • Ken R. Abell profile imageAUTHOR

      Ken R. Abell 

      9 years ago from ON THE ROAD

      Thanks, Ron. I am sure Rita will be tickled & grateful when she sees your comment. Blessings to you.

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      Ken R. Abell 

      9 years ago from ON THE ROAD

      Pamela99 - Thank you for your kind & encouraging words. Much peace & encouragement to you on your journey.

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      Ron Bowell 

      9 years ago

      An old fashioned "Glory be to God" and "Hallelujah sister"! Way to go Rita! You listened to God all the way. And way to go Ken! You nurtured the call in yourself and others and your ministry is now multiplied.

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      9 years ago from Sunny Florida

      What an inspiration Rita is for following God's call. As a nurse I know it isn't easy dealing with death and dying and not everyone can be a bereavement counselor, but she stayed the course and her message of Grace is the most precious. And now she is ordained. Thanks you for a wonderful real life story.

    • Ken R. Abell profile imageAUTHOR

      Ken R. Abell 

      9 years ago from ON THE ROAD

      Thank you, dahoglund. Sure hope it is inspiring or encouraging for many.

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      Don A. Hoglund 

      9 years ago from Wisconsin Rapids

      Nice story of faith and mission. Should be inspiring for many.

    • Ken R. Abell profile imageAUTHOR

      Ken R. Abell 

      9 years ago from ON THE ROAD

      Hannah Ministries - You're welcome. Thank you for stopping in & giving it a read. Blessings to you.

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      Hannah Ministries 

      9 years ago

      Thank you for a Hub of perserverance and delligently working toward God's call in our life. I know that we all have been called but I see that we don't ussually want to follow this call for the cost that it may bring with it. I don't think it will be easy for RIta to be a pastor and being a lady and having a family and so much going on. I know that her choices has been difficult. Thanks again.


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