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Life As An Empath

Updated on April 17, 2016

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So What Is Empathy?

Empathy is being able to sense another person's feelings. This occurs with everyone at least once in their lives. To an Empath it occurs any time other people are around.

On spiritual, and psychological levels empathy is a gift given to understand others, but like with any gift, it comes with pitfalls, and responsibility, as well as pleasure, and a sense of value.

Empath is another term for Clairsentient, Telepathic, and Knowing

In religious terms it's kind of, but not exactly like the gift of discernment

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Empathy Can Hurt

When I was very young, and I played alone or with my sister Tara, I would feel lighthearted, and happy, but when I would go around any other people, I would experience a lot of different emotions that I couldn’t understand. I would feel sad, angry, happy, and confused all at once.

Once when I was in a crowd, I started experiencing pain in my back, and left knee. While I was standing there talking to a friend of my dad I also began to have head pain, and all for no reason. Because I wasn't feeling well I decided to go home, and lie down, and as soon as I left all the pain disappeared, and I was happy, and feeling good again.

I found out later that the man I was talking to had been in a car accident, and he had hurt his back, and left knee. About a year later he was diagnosed with a brain tumor, and died.

My Emotions
Because I couldn’t understand where these emotions were coming from I told only my sister about them. I have always liked people, and wanted to meet others, but I couldn’t understand why when I was around them I felt so awful.

In the beginning, empathy can be a real pain In the neck, and later, it's a gift, and a pleasure..Mara

Finding My “Problem”, Changed My Life

As I grew I questioned my own mental stability, until one day I met a lady who helped me understand what was going on.
I felt comfortable with Linda, and found myself telling her about my fears, and self doubts. (yes teenagers have them too) She laughed quietly to herself, and I saw her eyes light up which seemed a strange reaction to my troubles. She turned to me, and gave me a quick, gentle hug “why honey you’re an Empath that’s all” I’m a what? I asked

She took out her dictionary and showed me the definition of an Empath “a person with the ability to perceive the mental or emotional state of another individual” After I did a lot of research I came to the conclusion that wow, I’m an Empath, it all made sense to me, what, and how I thought about myself changed in a split second. I knew I was an empath, and I didn’t have to question it or my emotional state.

I was, and am a happy person, and I had no reason to feel emotions that were any less than happy. I wasn’t sad, or angry or any of that, I realized that when I was around one or one hundred, and one people, I was picking up on their emotions.They weren’t my feelings at all.

Empaths generally need specific training to learn how to work with their clairsentient ability without getting overwhelmed.

Knowing what was happening, and learning how to direct it, keeps me from allowing the feelings into my psyche at a certain point. I can feel their emotions, but now I don't allow them to effect me the same way as they did. Linda has remained my mentor, even through the mail, and email

How It Works

When people experience strong or continuous emotions, they come to the surface of a person, and since emotions are directly related to, and caused by our thoughts, people can read our emotions.
How many times have you been able to see the emotions of a friend, or relative, even when they tried to hide their feelings, and couldn’t? That’s because their thoughts, and emotions consumed them. Feeling other people’s emotions happens to an Empath all the time, but much easier, and we can even feel subtle emotions

"As I grew I questioned my own mental stability, until one day I met a lady who helped me understand what was going on".

In the beginning, empathy can be a real pain In the neck, and later, it's a gift, and a pleasure.......Mara
In the beginning, empathy can be a real pain In the neck, and later, it's a gift, and a pleasure.......Mara | Source

Testing It For Myself

I kept a journal, and began to test situations, recording how I felt before, and after meeting up with others, and I was able to clearly see what Linda had already pointed out. When I was around people who were angry, I wasn’t angry, but I felt their anger, and it wasn’t just that I could see what they were feeling because some were good at hiding it. I was experiencing their anger as if what made them angry, had also made me angry.

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"An Empath can’t be fooled because we can perceive other people’s intentions"

Understanding Empathy, And Healing

As I researched this I found that any emotions that people were feeling ended up in my psyche so I knew I had to find a mentor to teach me how to deal with it, and I went back to Linda

After mediating, and visualizing with her, I listened as she explained to me how to separate from these emotions, and I bought some books about the life of an empath. It all fit me like a glove.
Being an empath is when you are affected by other people’s energies, and have an innate ability to intuitively feel and perceive others. Your life is unconsciously influenced by others’ desires, wishes, thoughts, and moods. Being an empath is much more than being highly sensitive, and it’s not just limited to emotions. Empaths can perceive physical sensitivities and spiritual urges, as well as just knowing the motivations and intentions of other people.

Can You Become An Empath?

You can be taught to be more “empathetic”, but you’re either an empath or you aren’t. It’s not a trait that’s learned, nor can be. The feelings of others, the mental, emotional, and physical sensations are thrust upon Empaths, they aren’t chosen.

The Power Of An Empath

People who are true Empaths can influence you more than others can, and men and women on the hunt for a temporary, or not so temporary companion, have been known to work up certain feelings in themselves, and cause someone of their choice, to feel what they’re feeling. Of cource this would be considered Abuse of Power and it will result in Karmic Debt

An Empath can’t be fooled because we can perceive other people’s intentions.

We really feel, and at times take on the emotions, and physical pain of others.

We effectively convey thoughts, and feelings in all areas of emotions, and talk openly, and, at times quite frankly, candidly, and directly.

We unintentionally know people so well, they often try to hide from us. Some will deny things, even when everyone knows it’s true.
I feel that being an Empath is too hard on any romantic relationship that may form, because everyone needs a secret garden

Clair Senses

This collective word phrase includes any or all types of psychic sensitivity corresponding to the senses: seeing, hearing, feeling, smelling, tasting, touching. Clair Senses are known as:

clairvoyance, clairaudience, clairsentience, clairscent, clairtangency, and clairgustance. Additional gifts are clairempathy and channeling

Non-Believers

Yes, I know: some don’t believe Empaths exist, or empathy, though they’ve probably felt empathy on a small scale at least once in their lives.

Five Types of Empaths

Does Your Mood Change When You Are Around Others?

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When You Are In A Large Group Of People Do You Experience Changing Emotions, Happy, to Sad, to Angry etc?

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Do You Feel Much More Relaxed When You’re Alone, Or With Familiar People?

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Are You An Empath?

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Is Someone You’re Close To An Empath?

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Is It Hard Living With An Empath Because They Know You Too Well?

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© 2015 Mara Alexander

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      Stephy sal 

      24 months ago

      Hi I don't really have much memory's on picking up on people's emotions but iv always had more like sense of the real intentions there way of being

      My sisters worked in a pizza place and I had this strange feeling to tell her she's going to make a friend ... A few monthes later she did now this girl had a best firend already for some reason I dreamed they they drifted apt art and instead this girl and my sister were closer as well I told her she didn't believe me 2 weeks later it happened as there friendship got bigger one this girl got a boyfriend from that day is had the same feeling staging me to tell her there her boyfriend is not good for her that's he's going to harm her physically I didn't tell her I wasn't very close to her but I told my sister they drifted apart and a month later my sister had a 3 am call that her friend was beaten by her boyfriend ... This is not the first time it happens idk why it frustrates me I feel drained I feel mad I can feel people vibes I don't now how to explain it

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      Mara Alexander 

      3 years ago from Los Angeles, California

      I found it, gonna read it now

    • MonkeyShine75 profile imageAUTHOR

      Mara Alexander 

      3 years ago from Los Angeles, California

      Hi Jodah thank you for stopping by, it's always a pleasant surprise

      I'll read your hub if I can find it, you have so many :)

      Congratulations on your poem having music set to it, sounds as though you're moving up.

      Yes, I do believe that Jesus would have been an Empath

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      John Hansen 

      3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Vaery interesting hub Mara. I had never heard of an empat before, but it sound like Jesus was probably one. You should read my hub/poem "On the Road to Kingdom Come" ..the "stranger" I feel is an empath. I have recently had the poem turned into a song that is sung by my friend and fellow hubber 'word55' and it is on You tube.

    • MonkeyShine75 profile imageAUTHOR

      Mara Alexander 

      3 years ago from Los Angeles, California

      FlourishAnyway, An animal empath? tell me of your experiences, I would love to hear them.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 years ago from USA

      I guess I would be an animal empath.

    • MonkeyShine75 profile imageAUTHOR

      Mara Alexander 

      3 years ago from Los Angeles, California

      Dwight Thanks for commenting

      Chances are since you’re spiritual you may be one too

      Read this:

      Signs You're An Empath

      http://marasgraphics.yolasite.com/signs-you-are-an...

      What bothers me the most is that I know when someone is not being honest: If a friend or a loved one is telling me lies I know it, although I try not to focus on it because knowing a loved one is lying can be painful. I can even tell with a stranger over the www

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      Dwight Phoenix 

      3 years ago from Jamaica

      Good hub. I'm wondering if I myself am an empath. It sounds cool too almost like having a super power.

      By the way, could you tell me how I'm feeling now :)

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