- Choices in life are important, but sometimes the most important thing is how we live our choice.
We are surrounded with many choices in life, bewildered with which paths that we should take, which career to choose, who to choose as life partner, and many others. First of all, be thankful that we have choices; others may not have the privilege of having choices. Granted, when we are deciding our choice, sometimes it is very difficult if not impossible to make sure that it is the right choice, but it is alright. As long as our mind are not troubled with the choice, we know that it's not a bad one.
After we decide on something, we now have two choices, an easy one: either we live our decision with excellence or we live our decision with remorse and sorrow. Yes, it's easier said than done, but now it's also easier to decide, obviously to live our choice with excellence. Make a step forward, no looking back, no regret.
Let's make our choice to be the right choice after we choose: perhaps what matters the most is how we live our choice and make it to be the right one. It is futile to have the right choice but to live that choice half-heartedly. We had rather make up our choice and strive for excellence wholeheartedly in the choice that we have decided on. As long as we are sure that it's not a bad choice, then it must be a good choice, and next we can make the good choice to be the right choice.
- Don't blame situation
The economy may be withering, jobs may be scarce, and people are being laid off from their jobs. Yes, it's no doubt that situation plays a big role, sometimes a negative one, but everyone is also experiencing it. We blame situation to transfer the fault to the situation and to justify ourselves. Isn't that human nature to always want to stand in the right position? In short, it's pride, and pride leads to a downfall and destruction. We are not saying that the situation is not at fault, it may be, but it is our choice whether or not to blame it.
How about, instead of blaming the situation, we look it in a more positive perspective and try to improve ourselves? If the economy is bad, then it means we need to improve our skills, or learn other skills to equip more arrows in our quiver. Blaming situation will falsely justify ourselves and so we tend to be passive and sit down in our comfort zone; it will not remedy our condition and the situation. Be active, look at things in a more positive way, and we will be happier.
- Attitude is number one, aptitude is number two
"People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care"
It really doesn't matter whether we are very smart PhD graduate or a very captivating and charismatic leader if we don't have a good attitude. People just don't care, they may first awe at our achievements, but that's all that is. Unless we care for others and show sincere kindness, our achievements are just worthless.
Both are important though. If we possess only attitude, we can be swindled by others. If we possess only aptitude, we will deceive others. But if we have both attitude and aptitude, we can help others. Yes, the skills and achievements that has been granted and entrusted to us are to be of service to others. Attitude really matters.
- Be humble and serve others
“Humility is the mother of all virtues; purity, charity and obedience. It is in being humble that our love becomes real, devoted and ardent. If you are humble nothing will touch you, neither praise nor disgrace, because you know what you are. If you are blamed you will not be discouraged. If they call you a saint you will not put yourself on a pedestal.”
Pride leads to the downfall of humanity, and the opposite of pride, humility, is the mother all virtue. The world sees our achievements and qualifications, and people want to assert themselves as the top performer in their group. On the other hand, humility is the quality to be modest and respectful. It is not to regard ourselves as more important than others, even those that have achieved less than ours. In fact, we are all born and granted with different talents and capabilities, so what can we boast? Those skills are to be of service to others, remember that with great power comes great responsibility.
- Help others to succeed and you will too
If we sincerely help others to succeed, aren't we going to be joyful when we see their joy and smile? We will never know if one day they can be of tremendous help to us. Acts of kindness will go a long way.
And the opposite is true as well: if we want others to fail, we will fail too. Often we blame others when we fail, but isn't it because we want to free ourselves from guilt? We make others seem to fail by bad-mouthing them, so that we seem to be more successful. In doing so, we will be in vainglory and reluctant to improve. In the end, vainglory will lead to destruction.
- Be content with what we have and give thanks
If you can read this article, it means you are in the top 34% of the people that have access to internet, whereas the majority of the people don't (as of 2013). About 1 billion people are still living in hunger and poverty. There are always too many reasons to give thanks and be grateful with what we have been given. Aren't we supposed to be perplexed with people who earn enough for their living and are still stressed that they don't have the newest gadgets, the best food, fancy cars, etc? Come on, count your blessings and you'll realize that you will never find enough time to finish counting.
Being grateful also means that we are content with what we have. Without feeling contented and fulfilled, we will always grumble and feel unhappy that we don't have enough. Note that if we seek our contentment in material possessions, it will never ever end. After buying new cars, people enjoy it and feel satisfied for a short period of time. After that, they will want to buy a more expensive cars to get another feelings of satisfaction, and this will continue indefinitely. It's like taking an increasing dosage of medicine. At first, one tablet can cure, but the next one will require a higher dosage to get the same effect. But if we find our contentment in the immaterial things, like in God, family, love and giving to others, they definitely will quench our desire and make us joyful. We can't find the immaterial (joy) through material possessions, but only through the immaterial things. Be content and give thanks.