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Updated on October 19, 2016

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I am South African, and living in Croatia for over a decade, when I first came to live in the most southern part of Croatia called Konavle I was a stranger.

I didn't like much about the place.

I had not been to Croatia. That made it more difficult but as time went by, I learned more about the people, and of the new culture.

My life changed in so many ways and still is sometimes I am not sure what to do about change though I am not afraid of change just too much and too fast.

Any how, so far I am happy with my life but recently I have been thinking about many aspects and one of the most thought out is about the new culture, and the religion.

For eleven years I have not practiced my religion, Hinduism, and really miss that part of my life on.

So on the contrast, I have been thinking since I am now living in Croatia why not go to church?

My husband and son are Roman Catholics, I however, haven't changed my religion and didn't find it necessary to do so in the beginning.

I am interested in going to church to be part of what I find different and to be with different people.

After my son was christened I realized I should give myself a chance to move on with my life, To be part of another culture of which I am still learning lots much more about.

It has been most difficult to be part of this new culture right from the start. I now know more of the language and can communicate well with others.

I feel it is time for me to take on another challenge in my life.

The many thoughts I have has made me come to my decision, the final decision. Something I like to do for myself, and nobody else.

Though it is my final decision, I somehow don't feel so sure of the decision.

  • Why is it that my life feels this way at times, not sure of what I want to do?

Life for me has been quite challenging and now it has come to the question of religion.

  • Do you think it is a good idea for me to take the next step and be part of the Roman Catholic Church?

As much as I would like to after discussing the issue with my son he had different view of the religion.

Even though he is now a Catholic he feels going to church doesn't mean anything.

We are all entitled to an opinion and I feel confused about the whole conversation. Religion is definitely a topic of a huge debate.

People have their own beliefs when it comes to religion and feel their views are correct. In my case I want to be part of a different belief because I don't practice my religion. To be part of another culture will make me have more of a meaningful life.

To believe in another culture but not to forget about my own culture and to be able to have communication with other people.

The other reason I feel is a bit complicated other members of the church will look at me differently, a different race, and religion. I have only recently decided to attend the Catholic church.

I sometimes feel concerned about the reactions of others, and, especially in this foreign place. I don't care what others would say in such situations.

People may not like the idea of a foreign person attending their church or maybe they would like the idea. I don't know what to make of it.

There is big part of me that wants to go to church and there is the small part that is not sure.

  • I always said I wouldn't go to church but when I come to think of it properly, I have nothing to lose, if I did so continuously.

Learning more of another culture can change things even more for me but would also allow me the opportunity to be able to do the Catholic cross when I attend the church.

I won't be looking at others dumbfounded when they go about their duties.

Religion is unique and can make one think in their own way, and believe in their own way. Whichever way you choose to live only one can tell the differences it can make in their lives.

  • I am looking for answers from you, my readers please guide me on my thoughts here!

I didn't get married in church so that does make a few changes but I now want to decide thoroughly with the guidance of you.

  • Everything changed in my life, what would one more change do to me?

I feel confident about everything in my life, living in a foreign country.It has not been easy from all angles.

Looking at life here it has been the hardest for me, and slowly got to a bit of an easy stage. I am now stronger and can handle many tough moments.

The moments I have now are so much better from hard to easy, or from the worst to be almost best part of my life.

I have adapted to change, and weather conditions, and to some fake people and to some very good people. There all kinds of people in this world, and one only knows when in contact with one other.

  • Picking out the people you want to be with can be easy or a problem at times that is all up to you.

Wherever you go people come in all sizes and shapes, in all tones and some can be helpful, mean, rude, and only for themselves.

However, you communicate you would see them for who they really are from all sides.

Friendly people are not always the true people. Spending time with the wrong people in the beginning had made me see how many can be fake. I have seen how few have been good to me from their heart and not from outside thinking of their minds.

I don't keep up to any fake persons anymore. The good thing about my life I know from day one who to mingle with and who to run from. It is why I have come this far on my own mind of thinking positive and for myself.

I attended the local village church yesterday there was a missa which is usually is a mass and I really enjoyed every bit of it. The attendance was great and I looked forward to going to the missa for weeks prior to the event.

On the eighth of September was a day of celebration in the village called Dunave, a time for feasting and celebrating the birth of Mary and people attended the local church in order to enjoy the day.

It is called Mala Gospa in the Croatian language, meaning the day of Lady Mary.

This day is expected to be celebrated in the season of Autumn. I am still learning about the calendar holidays and of the religious holidays.

The many aspects of my life has experienced many good goals. I write what I feel and think is a good to clear my thoughts. To have a good mindset.

Sometimes what I do can be good for me, or will cause other issues but that I wouldn't know until I have approached my decision.

Certain decisions can change friendships from good to bad or can-make enemies this remains to be seen.

Generally life is full of surprises, what one says they will never do often they end up doing just the opposite, while others won't even give it a try.

Look it is easy to find out about the Roman Catholics it is all over the Internet. I am just hoping to have a clear mind from your comments.
Life isn't always what it seems people are often affected by other people's decisions.

Write and express what you feel. I am doing exactly what I want to that is to write and share my thoughts here on Hub pages.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      It would be fascinating to live in another culture...fascinating and frightening and a shock. Thanks for sharing your experience so that others might learn.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc thanks for your kind words and for your continuous support

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      mylindaelliott 3 years ago from Louisiana

      You sound very thoughtful about your life and your life with your family. I hope and pray you figure it all out. I'm still working on it too.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      DDE, I know that your indecision is causing you some inner conflict. Start with looking at your situation, and find the happy parts that make you grateful. You seem to have a lot in your favor!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      mylindaelliott interesting and a thoughtful view thanks for commenting.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MsDora Thanks for the encouraging comment

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      Mary Craig 3 years ago from New York

      I so admire you for moving to another country and learning the culture and trying to adapt to all the changes. Religion my friend is a personal thing, a matter of the heart. I am Catholic from birth and choose to continue to be. My husband converted to Catholicism when our fourth child received his communion. It was totally his choice.

      Whatever religion you choose it has to be the one you want and believe in. If your heart is not in it and you don't truly believe in it, then it is not the religion for you.

      Give yourself time, think it over, talk to your family and make the decision with your heart as well as your mind.

      Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting. Also wishing you God's peace as you make your decision.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      tillsontitan thanks for all votes, and I am so encouraged by your kind words, I am still thinking about it and it is so hard for me to make up my mind though a bug part of me wants to.

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      Elizabeth Parker 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      Thank you for sharing your experience with us! Moving from one side of the country to the other for me was a big change, but I can only imagine how difficult it is to adapt to a new culture! Voted up and shared.

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      CraftytotheCore 3 years ago

      DDE! I admire how your brave nature in moving to an entire different country. Wow! What a fantastic opportunity. I'm still here after living here my whole life and afraid to move a few states south!

      That in itself is worthy of compliment because it shows courage. Stepping out in a situation which you grasped and achieved. That my friend is something to be commended for.

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      Denise Handlon 3 years ago from North Carolina

      Hi DDE-what an interesting hub. I agree with tillsontitan-it is a personal matter. I was born and raised Roman Catholic. At age 18 I began to study other religions because of my dissatisfaction with what the Catholic church had to offer me, personally. I felt I had more God connection without the dogma of the Pope. I felt stifled, and wanted more religious freedom. I studied Buddhism, Hinduism-which is a beautiful religion, btw, Zen, Judaism, and other world religions.

      In the end, I continued in a Christian practice until I was about 40 years old. At that time, I began another search and found a spiritual practice which has been enlightening, soul developing, and refreshing. It has made me a much better person. It is nontraditional and is not a world religion, but I am content and grateful.

      Your questions are ones that cause confusion. My encouragement to you is to dive into the questions and ask why you are feeling more confused than clear about the next step in your spiritual journey.

      Hinduism and Catholicism are two very different ways of practice and believing. Although there are advantages and beauty in each, I would wish that you find or stay with one that makes you feel closer to God and discovering/connecting to your inner spiritual self.

      Are there no Hindu temples or worship groups in Croatia? Thank you for sharing your thoughts here. My best wishes for clarity on this sensitive and meaningful subject to you. UP/shared.

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      A wonderful and heartfelt article DDE! Immersing yourself into a different culture can be both exciting and frightening. Learning a new language and way of life can be daunting for most. However, I believe that converting to a different religion is something that must be given a great deal of consideration. If you are not 100% certain then you are most likely not ready to take the plunge. It really is something that must come from deep within your heart. I believe that you will definitely know when conversion to Catholicism is right for you. My sister-in-law converted to Catholicism when her second child was born because she felt it was the right thing to do because her children were being raised Catholic. I think that you should convert to another religion only when you can honestly say that you agree completely with their beliefs. I hope you find the answers in your heart. My suggestion would be to perhaps talk to the local parish priest or attend some classes to see if it is for you first. Best of luck to you! Thank you for sharing! (Voted Up) -Rose

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      C E Clark 3 years ago from North Texas

      An interesting introspection. Everyone takes inventory of their life and questions whether or not they are doing the right thing now and then.

      Rather than singling out a specific Christian denomination I recommend that you first learn about Christianity and what it is/what it stands for/it's purpose, etc. The answers to those things can be explored online also.

      Christianity involves developing a close and personal relationship with God. Once you understand what Christianity is about you are better prepared to chose a church if you decide that is necessary to you. There are many Christian denominations. Some points of Christianity are embraced by all of the different denominations while others are specific to a particular denomination.

      Here is my advice: The first step is accepting God into your life. Study Christianity and learn what it is about and then decide which, if any particular church, will best serve your needs.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      epbooks thanks for sharing your views on My Life and My New Culture and for votes up and sharing so glad you came by.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      CraftytotheCore sometimes decisions are tough but have to be pushed forward. An encouraging comment and makes me feel even prouder chances are risky and learning experiences. Thanks for that.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Denise Handlon interesting comment from you and NO there is no Hindu temples or worship groups in Croatia, so that is what I miss the most. Now I feel like being part of a group that I no longer have. Helpful line to me from you '' I would wish that you find or stay with one that makes you feel closer to God and discovering/connecting to your inner spiritual self''.Thanks for votes up and shared.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      rose-the planner great suggestion to talk to the local parish priest and to then decide, I am so glad you shared valuable pints here, thanks for all votes and sharing, sometimes I do feel confused about my new culture.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Au fait, I am grateful for you commenting and sharing your valuable suggestion, the right thing to start with is to know of the religion before taking the next step. wonderfully suggested. Thanks very much for trying to help me out here.

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      Dave 3 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      DDE,

      Once again you have written a thought provoking article which shows what a wonderful person you are. Religion is as many have suggested a personal thing and religion has long divided countries,communities and even families or to be more correct religion has been forwarded as the cause. You do not need to go to church to believe in God or to talk to him, you must be guided by your inner feelings. If you are{ and I am sure you are} a kind,compassionate and caring person your heart will guide you. This again is only my personal view , but it has served me very well for many years.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello D.A.L. good to read another comment from you I see your point made here as I always thought to myself, ''You do not need to go to church to believe in God or to talk to him, you must be guided by your inner feelings.'' Well said. Thanks very much for commenting and giving something to consider carefully

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      Yves 3 years ago

      It sounds to me as though you really enjoyed the mass, so why not keep attending? There is really no reason not to, when all is said and done. That having been said, because Catholicism is so different from Hinduism, I can understand why you might feel conflicted. My answer to anything in life is, "What nourishes my soul?" It really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. What matters is what you need to feel joy. You might want to read, Care of the Soul," by Thomas Moore. It may help you to sort out your conflicting emotions.

      An Interesting hub. Thank you for sharing a part of your life with all of us!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi savvydating so nice of you to share your great opinion here I have been thinking about it and is off-course a good idea to attend the mass well said and thought of, thanks for making me aware of Care of the Soul," by Thomas Moore. Glad you came by have a great day.

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      DDE - I congratulate you for the courage to move to another country, culture, people, and language. What adaptation and resilience and strength. Know that you have accomplished what many people cannot do. You are a powerful human being, and you have no time table for this decision. That is good. Take your time, even if it is a lifetime. I encourage you not to make a decision while so deeply conflicted. Meditate on it, turn it over. Connect with your Hindu roots but also attend mass and read about other religions and philosophies as well. Feel free to develop your own set of beliefs. Maybe what you believe doesn't fit within organized religion, who knows? You don't have to make a forced choice. Slow down and enjoy the journey.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway truly amazing kind words from you and I do so agree with you and my other followers who have already commented here time is what i need and learning about another culture is another one of my greater experiences thanks very much for coming by..

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      Linda Crampton 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      It's a big step to become part of another culture or religion. It can also be a very interesting process! Good luck with your quest, DDE.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello AliciaC, thanks for sharing your views on my hub My Life and My New Culture have good weekend

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