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Obtaining the Promise (4)

Updated on November 26, 2011


Sometimes I find friends are not friends in the true sense of the word friendship. A case in point is some of my spiritual friends from my local church.

As a member of my local church, I got the chance to meet new people. In 1996 when I desired to go to Atlanta, Georgia, I shared this with my spiritual friends. I thought they would pray for my safe journey to and from that state. They did pray for me. They prayed against my wishes. I was hurt. Here I am explaining to them my desire to relocate and grow as a person and they’re praying to God for me to stay with them. Selfish. Little did they know the plan of God for my life?

Later I found these same friends were not really friends. In fact, they began to speak out against me and what God was doing in my life. I don’t have a dislike or hatred in my heart for them because I realize they thought they were doing what was best for me. But in fact, I found them to be like Peter. When Jesus told Peter he was going away. Peter said, “No Lord. You should stay right here with us and rebuild the kingdom on earth (paraphrase) [1] (Matt. 16:23, KJV). Jesus had to rebuke him and from that point on, He began to teach them about denying their wants to fulfill the Word of God for their life.

Oftentimes we want to share the good things of God with our friends, but we have to recognize that they don’t always see it the same way we see it. We must also recognize when their desire is a selfish one like Peter.

A friend once told me, “I don’t have a best friend because you cannot trust people; especially women.” I agreed with her. I said, “You’re right! People have their own interests that is why you have to learn to whom you can share what.”

I said all that to say this, when God has a plan for your life, it’s for you not for others, although, you will bless others through your obedience. They may not understand God’s purpose for you. They may want what you have. Oftentimes that is the case. You must know in your heart what God has for you and know that the friend to whom you are sharing your deepest feelings is simply ignorant or jealous of what God is doing in your life. It doesn’t make you better than them for what God is doing, it just means God has a will and purpose for each individual and when one doesn’t know the will and purpose of God for their life, you can believe, they will not understand His will and purpose for you.

So, be careful whom you share what with. The bible tells us, “not to let the right hand know what the left hand is doing.” [2] In other words, don’t tell them everything.

Obtaining the Promise will require some restraints on your side.

Have you ever shared something with a friend, then found out that friend was not standing with you? How did you handle it? Still wondering why God put you on this earth? Wonder no more…send me an e-mail at we can talk about it.

[1] Matthew 16:21-23, 21 From that time forth began Jesus to shew unto his disciples, how that he must go unto Jerusalem, and suffer many things of the elders and chief priests and scribes, and be killed, and be raised again the third day. 22 Then Peter took him, and began to rebuke him, saying, Be it far from thee, Lord: this shall not be unto thee. 23 But he turned, and said unto Peter, Get thee behind me, Satan: thou art an offence unto me: for thou savourest not the things that be of God, but those that be of men.

([2] Matthew 6:3-4 - New International Version (NIV): 3 But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, 4 so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.

Obtaining the Promise Series

(1) Coming Out!

(2) Family

(3) Going South

(4) Friends

(5) Election 2008

(6) A Vessel Designed by God

© scm Nov 2011, published by dse©All rights reserved.


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    • Sherri@NBIM profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Cincinnati, Ohio


      It did sorta/kinda hurt when they didn't believe God with me...but it didn't sorta/kinda hurt, because I don't hold things against people..I trust God. I did learn a powerful lesson though...I don't share everything with everyone.

      Thanks for your wisdom and kindness in sharing with me. I just looked at your hub site...I see some interesting things have happened in your life as well...I will be viewing your articles in the next couple of days..looking for some insight about your upcoming book...God bless....and thanks again...S@NBIM

    • Sherri@NBIM profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Cincinnati, Ohio


      Thank you ever so much for your inspirational responses. You are right! God did not answer their prayers...but He did separate me from them for awhile. I know forgiveness is part of God's plan, so I didn't hold it against them.

      I also support you praying for your friend to save her rather then lose her. When it comes to obtaining the promises of God, we have to know beyond a shadow of doubt the plan God has for your own individual life. Whether friends agree or not, God has the final say...they'll eventually come around. Or, God will separate you from them until they get it....Amen...Amen...God bless you...Hope to be reading your good reports soon!............S@NBIM

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      Brooke Lorren 

      6 years ago from Mesa, Arizona

      Sorry you went through that. You can take comfort in knowing that if someone prays for something that is against God's will, then God won't answer the prayer in the way that the person praying would like.

      Now, there are times when a person might want to pray against their friend's wishes. For example, I had a friend who wanted to do something that was destructive, and I prayed that it wouldn't happen. Not because I didn't like her, but because I could see that what she wanted to do would hurt her.

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      Pamela Lipscomb 

      6 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      That has to hurt a lot. I have learned not to share anything with anyone, unless the Lord leads me to. People not realizing what God wants for you life can begin to pray witchcraft prayers, which can frustrate the plan of God for your life. You have learned a powerful lesson.


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