On the Wings of Love
“Knowing others is called understanding.
Knowing self is called wisdom.” –Ray Grigg
I was amazed how previously thinking of writing about the greatest commandments caused for me to experience them as being the gospel at the Sunday mass that I had subsequently attended.
“By moving in accord with the Tao we find ourselves in a certain synchronicity with things which may be construed as power from a selfish viewpoint. However this synchronicity can only be acquired selflessly; it is not power in the traditional Western sense and has nothing to do with bending the universe to our will. Since te functions without willful intervention, it stays true to the essential and broad virtue of things. Again, this is not the virtue of narrow self or specific interest but the general virtue of nature’s wisdom.” –Ray Grigg
Love, Love, Love: The Antidote for These Confusing Times
In our previous article, Invoking the Warrior Spirit in Preparation for the Light Era, based on community feedback, it seems that most of us do not know much about what it takes to relinquish our ego, in preparation for the Light Era. But since most of us are familiar with the experience of love, we can simply focus on love and being loving, and let the ego peel its layers off of its own accord.
The Greatest Commandments
The homily was about the greatest commandments:
'One of the teachers of the law came and heard them debating. Noticing that Jesus had given them a good answer, he asked him, “Of all the commandments, which is the most important?”
“The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”' -Mark 12:28-31
“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.”
We see that as we fervently seek God in all our ways, we develop a deep, personal relationship with Him that leads to us “being found”, that is, our needs being fulfilled without struggle on our part.
Activities. We seek God fervently when we strive to involve ourselves in occupations that let us exercise our passion, as much as possible. If not, we involve ourselves in hobbies that are expressions of creative impulse of our soul, whenever possible.
Prayer and meditation. More details regarding these can be found at Soul Work and Magic: Living the Wizard’s Way.
In All Your Ways. When we seek God in all our ways, we begin to see God in everything---we feel a sacred kind of joy, peace and love behind all things and Events---Presence. We begin to understand that indeed Everything has a soul.
We experience the peace that surpasseth all understanding, that is not subject to external circumstances.
We also eventually realize that we have developed a rich inner world, affirmed externally by delicious coincidences that ‘so happen’ in order to fulfill our needs, synchronicity.
“As below, so above. As within, so without. ”
“Love your neighbor”. This qualifies as ‘#3’ because it can only be a consequence, the effect, of genuine self-acceptance, love and compassion. Once we genuinely love, honor and respect our self, we can then simply overflow these values to our neighbor.
It may seem love to some, but a lot of what is called ‘love’ is actually in reference to a relationship where one seeks another, in order to fill in a sense of incompleteness. We seek another to feel loved. We love another only if they love us.
In that sense, we are all set up for endless disappointments because we can never really find a perfect somebody. It is rare to find someone who does not have to deal with their own ego-based self and interact in relationships in terms of the struggle for power or for what some call psychic energy.
In Relationships as Spiritual Practice, we mentioned about the opportunity to use relationships for spiritual development. Mostly, we use acceptance, awareness or consciousness to bring presence into egoic interactions, by staying with our shenpa or strong feelings instead of running away or resorting to our usual reactive behavior.
There is much written work about loving others, but true love can never happen if it does not come from within.
Unconditional self-acceptance, love and forgiveness is the pathway to genuinely loving others.
This qualifies as #2 in the process, as #3 or loving others, cannot happen without it.
I had a taste of the challenge in unconditionally accepting myself when I experienced perceptions which seem to be associated with an awakening Kundalini. Since the perception was entirely new to me, it was a very weird experience and all I could feel was the energy of running away from the fear. How can I come back to my silent sitting meditation if all it was giving me was this scary experience?
There was nowhere to turn to except to address the question to my soul. What did it want me to do with the strange perception?
Not long after, I came to the insight: practice self-acceptance, maitri. So! I needed to extend compassion to, forgive and accept myself for the perceptions I was experiencing.
Application. After the insight, the next time before going to sleep, I did a dress rehearsal in my mind of how I would practice self-compassion towards my weird experience. On my next sitting, I simply applied the same attitude. Without struggle this time, the fear from having such a weird experience just seemed to fade into the background. Compassion can be a very powerful tool.
Using 4Rs to Stay with Shenpa. The Power of Feeling Good Now presents the four steps in practicing 4Rs. Whatever practice we choose, we should remember that a lasting transformation can only occur when we honor ourselves as the source of wisdom and compassion.
The Ego Trying to Control the Ego
As we seek to let go of the ego, we practice more and more of acceptance. However, we notice that there are times when it seems like we’re digressing instead. In response to certain situations, we feel energy in certain stress points in our body, for example, the neck. This may be a signal that the ego is trying to feed on the energy of the situation by being in control. It may have to do with using spiritual development as a form of accomplishment, which is again another egoic strategy, of identification, used to perpetrate the ego self.
One example could be when we are forcing ourselves to be accepting. Forcing is a control issue, once again, of the ego. If we sense that we cannot be accepting, maybe first we should extend forgiveness and compassion to ourselves for not being ready to accept. Once we feel forgiven and loved, then we can move towards acceptance.
Another example, related to the experience above, is judging against the fear and forcefully willing it away.
Another example would be our constantly trying to change ourselves, as if we weren’t good enough.
Hopefully, we will remember to begin with self-acceptance and let the change come of itself.
Hopefully, we will remember to stay with ourselves, to be true to ourselves by extending forgiveness and compassion, eventually leading us to accepting our painful feeling instead of forcing it away, which reinforces and strengthens the negative energy of shenpa.
The Wisdom Behind All Feelings
Our feelings are God’s way of speaking with us. Contrary to our normal way of running away from our painful feelings, staying with them provides Soul the opportunity to reveal its wisdom.
“In vajrayana Buddhism, it is said that wisdom is inherent in emotions,” –Pema Chodron
In Coming Home to Joy, we have sat with shenpa in order to experience joy.
Obey Without Question
Why Love #1 is ‘#1’. We may have different ideas as to why loving God comes first. He is our Creator, after all. But which understanding resonates deep in our heart as the real reason for why we should love Him first of all, with all our heart, with all our soul, with all our mind and with all our strength?
If nothing, we should obey without question. Searching everywhere, among various religious teachings, in the end, we will understand that, seeking God first of all, He leads us to soulful insights, wisdom and resources for living our lives joyfully, including the basic teaching of unconditional self-love and acceptance as pathway to loving others.
Obey without question. If at first we cannot accept or love others or ourselves for our own reasons, we can start with loving self or others because we love God.
Because God loved us first.
On the Wings of Love
Kundalini visited during one of my silent sittings, with ‘her’ the song, ‘On the Wings of Love.’
Our era is beset with information explosion. These indeed are confusing times. Soul comes to our rescue to help along with our pursuit of learning about love and being loving individuals.
‘Kundalini’, just another name for Soul or the Holy Spirit, teaches us that the only way is through love.
Beyond the confusion that egoic structures have created, Kundalini takes us high above the skies, on the wings of love.
Refer also to OrinDaben.com regarding Divine Will, e.g. “Will 6: The Will to Cause
Embodying High Ideals” (https://www.orindaben.com/pages/divine_will/dwill6/ ).