Anger Management--God's Way
“Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath; for it is written Vengeance is mine, I will repay, saith the Lord. Therefore, if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt reap coals of fire on his head. Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.” Romans 12: 19-21
The Bible teaches us, in Ecclesiastes 7:9, that we need to be slow to provoke and slow to anger, and that “anger resides in the lap of fools.” In Proverbs 22:24-25, we are taught that we should “Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.” Maybe that makes it easier to understand why rational-minded people always know to steer clear of people who don’t know or haven’t learned how to control their anger.
The Bible also teaches us to replace bitterness and rage with kindness and compassion. It tells us it is always best to calm the desire to engage in verbal wars with a desire to forgive others, so that you too can receive forgiveness. If it’s true that anger resides in the lap of fools, then wouldn’t it be foolish to respond to anger with anger? Or to respond to anyone or anything that comes against you in a way that will make your body, your earthly domicile of your spirit, the house of the foolish?
It is much better to be quick to listen and slow to speak, because time heals all wounds. That means sometimes the only difference between doing the right thing and making a colossal mistake is taking a few seconds or a few minutes to calm down. Allowing time to pass before responding to someone or something that provokes anger is more likely to bring about a good and godly response. Acting quickly out of anger usually does not produce righteous results.
Psalm 145:8 says, “The LORD is gracious, and full of compassion; slow to anger, and of great mercy.” As Christians, with the Lord as our role model, and since any of us can become the next target for anger, here is a prayer that I hope will help when you need it.
Prayer For Managing Anger
© 2012 Sallie B Middlebrook PhD