Proverbs Lesson 67
Proverbs 10:1 says
“A wise son brings joy to his father, but a foolish son grief to his mother.” (NIV)
A wise person can be hard to find. Admit it. But think about the joy you could feel knowing that your child is making wise decisions. Just because this verse says son does not mean that it applies only to the boys. A wise child brings joy to both parents and to the whole family, but one that makes foolish decisions brings grief to all.
When we see our children able to stand on their own and proceed through life with confidence knowing that they have good charts and maps to help them through the difficult times of life, we can beam with pride. The father can stick his shoulders back and proudly say that it is their child that others admire and respect. Father’s tend to be the braggers of the parenting realm. They like to proclaim loudly that it is their child out there risking it all.
But it is the mother that takes the foolish acts to heart and bleed inside as they mourn on the path that their child is taking. Ask any mother who has experienced their child (even though they might be adults) be taken off to jail, come in drunk after midnight, announce that they are pregnant at fifteen. Their heart is ripped to shreds and they are the ones who spend their nights sobbing for the safety of their children even when they are in their forties and fifties.
So many of us think that all our actions just hurt ourselves. But that is so far from the truth. Though I might be the only one who is physically hauled away in handcuffs, my children are left behind, my family has to understand, my community has to pick up the pieces of my actions. Though I’m the one who decides to drink and drive and it is my car I wrecked, it is another mother grieving for the loss of her child that died as a result. It is not just about us. It affects all those around us and most especially those that love us.
How do we make wise and foolish decisions? It all comes down to what is the rudder in our life. The rudder on a ship directs it and puts it on the right course. It can take the ship and its crew to its doom by taking the path of underwater rocks and reefs. It can take the ship for a smooth sail by avoiding all those pitfalls.
What do you use to guide your life? Many use the stock market. We know where that directed them, don’t we? Many use the person of the moment in their life. That usually ends up in emotional distress and time spent picking up the pieces. Many use their drug of choice (legal or illegal). That can end with jail, sickness, or death. Many use their jobs. That can end with bad health and ripped apart families.
What prevents us from seeking wise counsel? What stops us from looking for the healthy rudders in our life? Mostly pride. We want what we want when we want it. Doesn’t matter that we are looking down the barrel of a gun. We want and that’s enough for us. To stop and think beyond the moment goes against everything in us. It goes against what we are taught in life. It goes against our very nature.
Wisdom is a treasured thing to possess. It is more valuable than the mansion, the expensive cars, the gold around your neck, the amount of money you can give as charity. Without wisdom you can lose all that you have and even more than you ever dreamed of. But with wisdom you can see value in things that you never even noticed before. You find joy and peace in unexpected places. You bring pride to your family and a deep-rooted peace inside you. Look for the true wisdom that only comes from God and see where it can take you.
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