While in college, I overheard a conversation between two of my female classmates. For my purpose it does not matter whether these statements were true or not: the point is in the attitude behind it. The first, who was an atheist and a lesbian, said, “Women want to cuddle; men just want to turn over and sleep. That’s why I think women ought to be with each other.” The second, who was a pagan, replied, “Well, I think women ought to be with men, because men are easier to control. Women can see through each other so easily.”
I said nothing during their talk; I am not sure whether I did right, but at the time could not think of anything to say. But I found their attitude against men deeply appalling. I felt that both of these statements insulted my father, my brothers, and every other good man I had ever known. Whatever the militant feminism of my age may maintain, I never can believe women are superior to men. I have known too many people in my life, men and women, to accept that kind of nonsense.
Still, I cannot help but wonder what kind of men these two young women had encountered to make them think this way. If the men in their lives had been good to them, they would probably have been of a very different opinion. Resentment is a sin, but it is one that typically grows out of injustice.
That is something that must be kept in mind at all times. It is rarely so simple with humans as one side being in the right and the other in the wrong. Both men and women are wicked and arrogant if they believe themselves to be superior to the other sex. Men have been given spiritual authority in their homes and in their churches, but they are no better human beings than woman. Women may have suffered great abuse at the hands of men for years, but that does not make them morally superior. What lurks behind both these attitudes is pride, and pride is the deadliest of sins: “Everyone proud in heart is an abomination to the Lord; though they join forces, none will go unpunished” (Proverbs 16:5). Everyone, not just men, and not just women.
The practical point of this is that we are not to tolerate any kind of pride within ourselves, even if it stems from something as fundamental to ourselves as our genders. “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus” (Galatians 3:28). We are to forgive each other’s sins and give no quarter to sin in ourselves. This is not an easy task, but the reward is worth the effort: the love of our fellows, and the pleasure of God.