SOCIAL ETIQUETTE ON THE FACE BOOK PAGE
I personally encounter many men on the internet who want girlfriends or wives. Many of them assume because you are single you want the same thing. I am on the face book page to share my blogs and invite people to my kathas and presentations, besides connecting with people with common interests of both genders. It seems to me if you are trying to connect with a life partner, you would not like use the face book page to do that. It is better to meet someone at a spiritual community or meet someone through a friend or family member. There are also non-profit groups and interests groups out there where you would more likely find an appropriate life partner.
What men need to know is that there is a setting for "dating" on the face book page. A person should look for that kind of setting on the person's page. When a person does not have that on their page, connect with them as a friend only not as a potential mate.
I have had way too many marriage proposals via the face book page from men I do not know and have not met in person who are from India, Guyana and even the United States. I am hardly alone in this situation. An older man, who is a face book friend from India, told me that a lot of Indian men want to come to the United States, so they try to get a woman interested in marrying them. Watch out women and do not fall for this kind of behavior. I have warned some of the younger girls and women about these characters who try this kind of tactic.
One woman told me that she was hit on by men so much that she posted on her page that she was engaged. She did this to cut down on this kind of behavior. It is so sad to see women being harassed like that. It is not fun to have to put up with this constant harassment. .
When I worked as a waitress a number of years ago, I would get marriage proposals from men all the time. Men asked me for dates all the time. This also happened when I was in broadcasting. They would call the station and say they liked the sound of my voice. Then the guy would ask me for a date. Other female radio announcers got this, too. I was curious about if waiters get that kind of a thing. One of the waiters I worked with said he occasionally received phone numbers from female customers. Waitresses who worked there were asked daily for dates and marriage proposals. My mother worked as a waitress and she had the same problem before she got a marriage proposal from my dad. So you see this is a long standing problem for women.
Boundaries are important for women. Men have to respect that women want to interact without having to be constantly harassed by men who want dates and want wives and girlfriends. Please use the dating sites and agencies for that purpose. Some want to date via the face book. Look for the "dating" setting on their page first before asking a woman for a date.
It is best to start with merely being a friend. Don't say to a woman, "You're so cute." It turns a woman off. It makes a woman think you are only concerned about how a woman looks, not who is she as a human being. Women value relationships not men who want the outer beauty only. Realize this is the 21st century, and it is about time men respect and treat women as human beings in their own rite.
I am more impressed with someone who shares my common interests and has good character. The inner person is the most important aspect, no the outer person. This is why I do not favor beauty contests. They focus on the outer person too much. You will never see a contest in which a woman must write an essay on how she would solve a problem in society or provide a creative solution to a very important life question. What has she done to make the world a better place? That is what character is about. The same for a men, also. You see contests for body building, but never a contest on the inner man.
I would like to propose to those affluent people out there an idea. Sponsor a scholastic contest where the person has to show that he or she has character and problem solving abilities. It would bring a new consciousness to the world. We need more people who have great inner qualities and those people need to be recognized more than beauty queens and body builders. The world would be a much better place if we valued the inner person, not the outer person.
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