Marriage - Restoration Needed
Marriage Is A Sacrifice
Hi I'm going to share with everyone a little about my marriage and hopefully I give you a big enough glimpse into it to inspire hope, restoration and life to all broken marriages.
First of all this is a subject with God that I have grown cold with and do not wish to address right now to be honest. I write and study about stuff that I need because otherwise I may not read about it because I do not like to read a lot. This is one of the reasons God has led me here to get me into His word more and to reach out to people with the truth of God's word.
My marriage seems to only be a sacrifice. Sorry to sound negative but we all have at least one big issue in our lives that God is still wanting to fix and is working on. But I do not wish to be dis obedient to God and not allow His will for my marriage. This is me being obedient to God and studying and stirring myself up in God for restoration to be completed. God has been the one holding it together and bringing peace to our relationship but complete restoration is different. As if it never happened, in a new state - well that is something only God does because we started out broken and sinful. We didn't know much different either because no one had told us or showed us God's word and promises for our lives yet.
This battle that is being waged will fail for my God is greater. For the past mistakes to be dead and stay dead. For God to get His way with me and my family. For I am the one He is holding responsible because I know already what He has commanded and what He can do with my marriage. I do have the faith for this.
God has been so awesome. Even more so since I have returned to Him! Giving me spiritual gifts, visions, strength and wisdom gained from my weakest times. Near death experiences and seeing God intervene. I know this is a battle and I will praise God for this victory. This is not the way I am willing to be taken down and the call God has on my life will be fulfilled!
God does and can intervene in a marriage
We met when I was 19 and he was 32. He was married and his marriage was falling apart. Marriage number 2 for him. So this whole relationship started from sin. We did not know Jesus yet. He had 3 kids already even though the mothers was not staying in contact with him or letting him see his kids. I had 1 child 2 yrs old and had never been married.
we had not heard to much about Jesus or excepted Him yet. Within a
short time he had to move in with me due to no place to go and things
went real quick. We ended up not getting along within 6 months.
I had gotten pregnant again and I got married because it was the right thing to do when I was 6mos pregnant with my second child.
By this time we had both accepted Jesus through people at work that God sent to us. But we were still a mess. We fought all the time over the stupidest things and we both needed to grow up and learn how to act different by knowing the word of God. We even went to jail on different occasions for how bad we would fight.
I wanted to work it out, he wanted to shut down and not talk about normal things and responsibilities. I didn't understand, and I would get really angry after months and months, and months of waiting and trying to talk about it. So just like me trying to ignore what God wants me to do and pray for my marriage is wrong. So is refusing to take responsibility and communicate in a marriage is wrong too. It takes both prayer and interacting for and with your mate to work things out and forgive each other and allow God to heal your marriage.
My husband never wanted me to leave but we still needed life breathed into our marriage. We still had a lot to learn about God and walking in love plus more.
Loneliness became a big issue to me. I wanted to leave and get a divorce and was not able to financially even though I worked.
This marriage started in adultery, so you can say we sowed that seed into it. I had a another baby this baby is a blessing from God but came out of an adulterous relationship in the middle of a failed effort to divorce. God had other plans for my life and no matter what I did or what my husband did he kept my husband and I together.
I have went to God and ask him to forgive us of all the sins of adultery, abuse, hatred, unforgiveness, strife, and other sins in Jesus name. I ask God to heal my marriage and then I started going to church. My husband also requested for me to go to church for our marriage. So I went for about three years and I got into street ministry at God's leading all by myself and I was producing fruit and on fire with God's spirit. It was fun and I loved doing this. I felt so alive and God was talking to me!
I had been praying over my marriage and staying in the word. I
would confess the word of God over my marriage and God was restoring it. Things were getting better and better everyday. God through His Holy Spirit would talk to my husband, sometimes convicting him causing him to come to me and apologize. That was a amazing to me every time I let God work out a problem and didn't get into strife , hatred or bitterness. I was able to remain in peace.
But then the more I was leading people to Jesus there was a war waged against my family, husband and marriage. To cause divorce, strife and every evil work to cause God's plan to stop and for me to stop leading people to Jesus. Everything was trying to exhaust me and to get me to quit and give up. A real demonic attack in my house and everybody seemed to be under attack. All to stop the word of God and call of God on our lives. From fires to accidents, fighting, strife all easily allowing satan to make it his playground. We even got evicted for no said cause. They wouldn't tell us why they evicted us! We even had occult people with bad intentions circling us like friends but were sent to cause confusion and open the door to further attack.
God sent me warnings to stay in the word to sustain me. Even to stay in church, even if I had to crawl to get there was how it was told to me. I did end up stop going to church and also used the excuse that my husband didn't go that much but averaged about 4 times a year. And that was irritating for sure.
For about 6 years I didn't go much at all.
During these 6 years I went backwards quickly. I was stirring up past sins resurrecting them from the dead state they were. I hated myself and my husband for this state I allowed myself to be in. Feeling like I was in a trap, like the joke was on me. I was in such a weakened condition for this was my sins that opened the door, but it was also an attack to stop God's call on my life and families also. The demons were harassing one of my children with demonic visions, nightmares and visits.
The demons had grown so big they were touching the ceiling. I started to get sick, with illnesses the doctors couldn't diagnose or treat successfully. God had healed me and my husband in the past and I hadn't forgot that.
We were in serious need of deliverance. God didn't stop talking to me during all of this. He would always call me back and bring into remembrance how His power and peace flowed through me before. How God delivered me from demons no matter how big and strong they were. How he had brought peace into my marriage and wanted my husband and I together for His will to be done. That he had forgiven us and wanted to use me because I was willing and had a heart for the dying people in his world. I loved Jesus and that was the only real love I had ever known or experienced in my whole entire life. That God is really truly good and merciful and powerful.
So God truly did chase after me, even at my most most miserable times when I was so low and even wanted to die.Even though I was in darkness God was shining His light into my life calling me out.
This scripture comes to mind.
Rejoice not against me, O mine enemy: when I fall, I shall arise; when I sit in darkness, the LORD [shall be] a light unto me. > Micah 7:8
Even though I was the most miserable in my life at this point God still had me confessing certain things while I was going through this. Which I know is something important about my outcome. My own will lining up to God's.
God Sent Example
During the time I had been in church God caused me to learn from another's life about Him and marriage. The pastor's wife had shared with me about how her marriage was a wreck before and she had six children. How she had to pray over her marriage, confessing the word over her husband and listening to God. God had her confessing I Timothy 3 over her alcoholic, workaholic, husband that was in great need for deliverance. She would word it about her husband confessing he had what God said he had and was a Godly husband. She prayed so much that her bible had little holes on the page of 1 Timothy 3. Her knees had become callused by praying so much. She was desperate for God to fix her marriage and refused to let it remain a mess. She didn't run away even though at times she really wanted to give up and run for her sanity.
Here I Tim 3
1This is a true saying, if a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work.
2A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;
3Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;
4One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;
5(For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)
6Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil.
7Moreover he must have a good report of them which are without; lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil.
8Likewise must the deacons be grave, not doubletongued, not given to much wine, not greedy of filthy lucre;
9Holding the mystery of the faith in a pure conscience.
10And let these also first be proved; then let them use the office of a deacon, being found blameless.
11Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.
12Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.
13For they that have used the office of a deacon well purchase to themselves a good degree, and great boldness in the faith which is in Christ Jesus.
This is very powerful to use as a prayer for any marriage and God honors it.
God tells us to call those things that are not as though they are.
To speak life into death. To believe in the impossible to be done through Him God almighty Himself. Our God is able and willing to do what we are willing to say yes to and believe in our hearts.
(As it is written, I have made thee a father of many nations,) before him whom he believed, even God, who quickeneth the dead, and calleth those things which be not as though they were.> Romans 4:17
"And Jesus answering saith unto them, Have faith in God. For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith. Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them." >Mark 11:22-24
God angels harken, and act on God's word and they are for us that have inherited salvation.
In a vision that someone had of my marriage it was of demons taring it apart and God's angels putting it back together. God sent angels even to fight the battle that is waged against Marriage covenants. God wants our marriages to be strengthened so we won't be taken out at a foundational level that should be rooted and grounded in God's word, prayer to avoid God's call being interrupted in our lives. We can not do well if the enemy has and continues to gain the grounds to our homes, relationships, and lives.
Praise report of the pastor's wife's husband family and life. God worked it all out and took them all through a deliverance. It took many years but wow look at what God has done!
God delivered my pastor during this time period before he had become a pastor. Since then he has turned from all sin and is full of God's word and has strong faith in God! It was not easy for them but they have gained so much on the other side of this mess that they once had.
He is a pastor now and that is because God stirred and called his wife to believe and trust in God for the impossible. God performed many miracles in this family. They even have Godly children. Someone had the faith to believe, to just believe that God was going to work it out no matter what it looked like. It only took one person in that household to have faith for God to intervene and help. One willing person!
As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received.> Eph 4:1
I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, [which is] your reasonable service.> Romans 12:1
You were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.> 1 Cor 6:20
Confess [your] faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.> James 5:16
I urge, then, first of all, that requests, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for everyone--> 1 Tim 2:1
He will bring you a message through which you and all your household will be saved.'> Acts 11:14
When she and the members of her household were baptized, she invited us to her home. "If you consider me a believer in the Lord," she said, "come and stay at my house." And she persuaded us.> Acts 16:15
And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house.> Acts 6:31
The jailer brought them into his house and set a meal before them; he was filled with joy because he had come to believe in God--he and his whole family.> Acts 16:34
You see it only takes one person to hear the voice of God and respond in obedience to have his way to to restore peace to a family. I stand responsible for this call in my household and also one of the members of my whole bloodline responsible for praying for these people. I am not an island to myself. God wants my life to be an honorable sacrifice pleasing to Him.
I may have to sow in tears sometimes but God does not leave me without His strength to do all that He requests of me.I am not my own I have been bought with a price. Through my weaknesses He will be strong. I am just dust, created from God to be His vessel that pours out His strength until I am reunited with my Saviour. My reward will be the great in heaven. One single life can effect millions. I am not more important than the many many that can and will be effect by my obedience to God. I humbly and willfully lay down my plan for my life, the pleasure of sin that only lasts a moment, the path of the majority the the cause of Christ to reach out and save a dying world. How much deeper than this can I expect my life to be. How much deeper and of importance can a life be living it for God, full of God's amazing power? It can not get any more meaningful than this!
"Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the
wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the
husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but
the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a
time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together
again, that satan
tempt you not for your incontinency. "
True Fasting restores families
1 “Shout it aloud, do not hold back.
Raise your voice like a trumpet.
Declare to my people their rebellion
and to the descendants of Jacob their sins.
6 “Is not this the kind of fasting I have chosen:
to loose the chains of injustice
and untie the cords of the yoke,
to set the oppressed free
and break every yoke?
7 Is it not to share your food with the hungry
and to provide the poor wanderer with shelter—
when you see the naked, to clothe them,
and not to turn away from your own flesh and blood?
8 Then your light will break forth like the dawn,
and your healing will quickly appear;
then your righteousness[a] will go before you,
and the glory of the LORD will be your rear guard.
9 Then you will call, and the LORD will answer;
you will cry for help, and he will say: Here am I.
“If you do away with the yoke of oppression,
with the pointing finger and malicious talk,
10 and if you spend yourselves in behalf of the hungry
and satisfy the needs of the oppressed,
then your light will rise in the darkness,
and your night will become like the noonday.
11 The LORD will guide you always;
he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land
and will strengthen your frame.
You will be like a well-watered garden,
like a spring whose waters never fail.
12 Your people will rebuild the ancient ruins
and will raise up the age-old foundations;
you will be called Repairer of Broken Walls,
Restorer of Streets with Dwellings.
Fasting and prayer are so important. There is also a promise for our families in this fast God said He will lift up the foundations of many generations. That can also mean that through you and your family there is the renewal of your bloodline.By seeking God he will completely restore your families bloodline from the sin that caused there to be a breach. Where there was a break in covenant relationship with Him. That means that division and strife and marriages will be healed in order for it to reach other generations we first must be healed and restored also.
If they shall confess their iniquity, and the iniquity of their fathers, with their trespass which they trespassed against me, and that also they have walked contrary unto me;
And that I also have walked contrary unto them, and have brought them into the land of their enemies; if then their uncircumcised hearts be humbled, and they then accept of the punishment of their iniquity:
Then will I remember my covenant with Jacob, and also my covenant with Isaac, and also my covenant with Abraham will I remember; and I will remember the land.> Lev 26:40-42
The Charge to Timothy Renewed
Timothy, my son, I am giving you this command in keeping with the prophecies once made about you, so that by recalling them you may fight the battle well, holding on to faith and a good conscience, which some have rejected and so have suffered shipwreck with regard to the faith. Among them are Hymenaeus and Alexander, whom I have handed over to Satan to be taught not to blaspheme.> 1 Timothy 1:18-20
Appeal for Loyalty to Paul and the Gospel
For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands. For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline. So do not be ashamed of the testimony about our Lord or of me his prisoner. Rather, join with me in suffering for the gospel, by the power of God. He has saved us and called us to a holy life—not because of anything we have done but because of his own purpose and grace. This grace was given us in Christ Jesus before the beginning of time, but it has now been revealed through the appearing of our Savior, Christ Jesus, who has destroyed death and has brought life and immortality to light through the gospel. And of this gospel I was appointed a herald and an apostle and a teacher.
That is why I am suffering as I am. Yet this is no cause for shame, because I know whom I have believed, and am convinced that he is able to guard what I have entrusted to him until that day.
What you heard from me, keep as the pattern of sound teaching, with faith and love in Christ Jesus. Guard the good deposit that was entrusted to you—guard it with the help of the Holy Spirit who lives in us.> 2 Tim 1:6-14
These all continued with one accord in prayer and supplication, with the
women, and Mary the mother of Jesus, and with his brethren.> Acts 1:14
Matthew Henry's Concise Commentary: Acts 1:14
God can find hiding-places for his people. They made supplication. All
God's people are praying people. It was now a time of trouble and danger
with the disciples of Christ; but if any is afflicted, let him pray;
that will silence cares and fears. They had now a great work to do, and
before they entered upon it, they were earnest in prayer to God for his
presence. They were waiting for the descent of the Spirit, and abounded
in prayer. Those are in the best frame to receive spiritual blessings,
who are in a praying frame. Christ had promised shortly to send the Holy
Ghost; that promise was not to do away prayer, but to quicken and
encourage it. A little company united in love, exemplary in their
conduct, fervent in prayer, and wisely zealous to promote the cause of
Christ, are likely to increase rapidly. Remember fasting without prayer is just going hungry. When we fast we will end up stronger and it will be easier to do God's will and to be humble.
So praying and fasting for my husband is so important. When I pray over my husband he has more peace, he's able to hear God's voice, he has a better ability to be a Godly man. I must support my husband behind the scenes by praying over him, praying that he raises our children correctly, I have to pray over his health. I must stay in spiritual warfare for my husband, he is the head of the house, this is the wisdom of God that builds a house and mine. Only survival for any marriage is for it to be placed on the rock. THE ROCK OF OUR SALVATION! A house and family can only withstand a storm if it has the right foundation. For me and my house we will serve the Lord!
"Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into
practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock.> Matt 7:24
And I say also unto thee, That thou art Peter, and upon this rock I will
build my church; and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.> Matt 16:18
It gets hard to stay in love and be patient at times. Yes that is true! I can not forget where God has brought me from. I can not and will not forget to stand and fight for the victory, and the success of my family!
A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.> Proverbs 12:4
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.> Proverbs 14:1
He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.> Proverbs 18:22
A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.> Proverbs 31:10
Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.> Proverbs 31:11
Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your sons will be like olive shoots around your table.> Psalm 128:3
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.> Proverbs 31:12
Behind every good Godly successful husband is a wife with wisdom and the strength of God. Trusting God, praying for her husband, loving him, encouraging him, a heart that cries out to God for His will to be done. A wife helps to lay the path and foundation of faith in God through prayer, fasting, and seeking God. Yes it is a sacrifice to give up your own will and agenda for God's, for the sake of others. This is the very example Jesus has given us to give your whole self to God no matter the price it costs. It's never in vain, Jesus didn't come and suffer die and raise from the dead for nothing. It is for our victory here over sin to overcome the enemy through His blood and our faith. Always testifying to the world of the wonderful works of God towards us!
"That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their
husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home,
good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not
"Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if
any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the
conversation of the wives; while they behold your chaste conversation
coupled with fear."
1 Peter 3:1-2
There is beyond any doubt hope for my marriage and yours! We just have to repent to God in Jesus name and turn from doing things the wrong way, and do what is right! God honors obedience not rebellion. We all need a spiritual tune-up from time to time to make sure we are not letting the dead sins from the past creep back up into our lives.
5 Those who plant in tears
will harvest with shouts of joy.
6 They weep as they go to plant their seed,
but they sing as they return with the harvest.
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.> Gal 6:9
Instead of their shame my people will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace they will rejoice in their inheritance; and so they will inherit a double portion in their land, and everlasting joy will be theirs.> IS 61:7
The righteous cry out, and the LORD hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles.> Ps 34:17
- A righteous man may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all;> Ps 34:19
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. > Mark 10:9
God has joined PIETY AND PRACTICE or Faith is dead without works. The psalmist writes, "I have hid God's word in my heart, that I might not sin against him." James writes, "Be doers of the word and not hearers only, lest you deceive yourselves." These two truths are complementary and must always be kept joined together.
God has joined MIND AND HEART. The mind apprehends truth, the truth of God, the truth about ourselves. The heart is where we live, what we experience, meeting someone in an encounter so profound and so intimate as to leave us altered ever after.
God has joined CHURCH AND INDIVIDUAL
6 But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ 7 ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, 8 and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. 9 What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”> Matt 10
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
For the foolishness of God is wiser than man's wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than man's strength.> 1 Cor 1:25
The man without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him, and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually discerned.> 1 Cor 1 2:14
We are fools for Christ, but you are so wise in Christ! We are weak, but you are strong! You are honored, we are dishonored!> 1 Cor 4:10
For we are to God the aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing.> 2 Cor 2:15
From whom the whole body fitly joined together and compacted by that which every joint supplieth, according to the effectual working in the measure of every part, maketh increase of the body unto the edifying of itself in love.> EPH 4:16
For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love> EPH 1:4
He has lost connection with the Head, from whom the whole body, supported and held together by its ligaments and sinews, grows as God causes it to grow.> COL 2:19
Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.> 1 COR 11:3
May we not forsake our husbands they are a vital member of the body of Christ and each individual family. Let us repent and turn from all bitterness, wrath and unforgiveness and stand and see the full salvation of the Lord as we answer the call He has on our lives. Each family has a ministry to fulfill and only by God's grace, mercy, power and strength will we complete it! And all you wives out there wanting a good Godly man requires that you take a step of faith and pray and fight for your families. God lays on the heart of the individual that he wants intercession from. So if God is causing you to feel the lack in your marriage, then you are responsible to seek God for restoration of it.
I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, [that] I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live:> Duet 30:19
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