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Signs From My Aunt

Updated on December 8, 2012

My Favourite Aunt

Back in August of 2007 my favourite aunt, Aunt Mary, passed away after spending a week in hospital, following a fall outside her apartment. My sister and mother were just arriving to pick her up to go grocery shopping, when they rounded the corner and saw an ambulance at her apartment, only to find out that she had collapsed as soon as she walked outside the door.

I got a phone call, after which my husband and I hurried immediately to emergency. When I got there I thought it odd that she didn't greet me, but almost immediately said she had to get up for the bathroom. I thought she was acting odd and told the nurse so. Upon being asked by the nurse if she knew who I was, she turned her head, looked at me and said "Lynda" and that was the last thing she said.

My concern sparked an immediate CTscan, the results of which showed that she had bleeding on the brain. Within minutes a doctor spoke to both my sister and I (my aunt had no children of her own) and asked us if we knew what her wishes were. He explained a few things to us, which I didn't understand completely, but when I asked the simple question and got the simple answer I immediately said that she did not want to be on any kind of life support. It is unbelievable how quickly this happened. It is not known whether she had a stroke, fell and then banged her head, or if she simply fell and banged her head causing the bleeding on the brain. In the end it doesn't matter, because the outcome would be the same.

The entire family was back and forth at her bedside for the week that she was in hospital. All we could do was hold her hand and talk to her, getting no response at all, but you always want to talk in case they do take it in. This was particularly hard for her two sisters, one younger at age 85 and one older at age 93. They just couldn't understand why she was not being fed and why they were now disconnecting the IV's. After all she was grasping their hand. We couldn't make them understand that this was reflex and that they would not want her to revive, because she would not be the same; she would not be who she was. She passed away on August 4 - 10 minutes before midnight and 10 minutes before my birthday. My mother worried that she would indeed pass on my birthday and I told her that it would not have mattered, I could celebrate her life along with my birthday.

The Aftermath

In the weeks following my aunt's death, I was as usual going back and forth to my mother's to take her meals and visit as I had been doing since she was diagnosed with a neuro-muscular disease. I knew she was hurting at losing her sister, because she was particularly close to this one.

One day she looked at me and asked "Lynda, do you think Auntie Mary can see us"? I responded "I don't know Mom, but if it makes you feel good to think so, then there is nothing wrong with that". How damn smug was that answer!

I look back at this conversation now and remind myself of how I feel when people look at me as though I am crazy when I tell them that my husband Craig, who passed away in 2010 is still with me. Indeed, I tell them that I get all kinds of signs and messages, all the while looking hopefully at them desperately wanting them to believe me and not think me mad.


Looking Back At The Signs

Not long after I realized that Craig was still with me and that I was being given the gift of so many signs and messages, I often wondered why I had not had any signs from my Auntie Mary. She was like a second mother to me and I missed her terribly in those months and years after her passing. She was the one who took both my sister Nanci and I on our first trip to Italy, and along with Uncle Nick spent each and every Christmas with our family, as well as other holidays. And after my uncle passed away, she and mom would still come to be with us Christmas Day. She was part of our family.

And then all of a sudden thinking back, I remembered waking up in the middle of the night in the weeks following her death, and smelling food cooking. I couldn't figure out what this was. Was I still smelling that night's dinner that I had cooked. But it didn't seem so. On and off this would happen, I would wake up and smell food. Now I look back and relate it to the fact that she loved to cook, and she in the last years of her life often had just Craig and I down for dinner. It was one of the things she loved doing. Or the three of us would go out to a restaurant, each of us enjoying a good meal out.

And when I looked back, to before Craig passed away, I remembered a special incident that I can only relate to my Auntie Mary. I was coming back from an afternoon of visiting my mom. I was driving up the escarpment on the highway toward the town we lived in. It is a fairly gentle incline going up from the lower city to the upper city where one can enjoy the views of the city below.

I was traveling in the shoulder lane because I would be exiting to the right further up the hill. All of a sudden something caught my eye and I looked to the right to see a dove flying at window level keeping pace with my car, and virtually just outside my window. There it is, wings flapping, framed perfectly in my passenger window, not moving forward, not dropping back. I glanced to the left lanes to see if anyone else noticed this dove but no one was paying attention. When I looked back it was still there. I had been expecting it to take off any minute, but instead it stayed with me right up to my exit.

As I reached the top of the escarpment the dove made a move and now flew to the front of my car, point blank middle and not a foot ahead of me, quite like a hood ornament. And it continued flying along almost as though it was guiding me. I was both dumbstruck and spellbound. It continued this way for the rest of the way to my exit. When I exited, it veered off to the left and that was the last I saw of it. I believe that was a sign for me from my Auntie Mary letting me know that she was well and that she was at peace. What a wonderful sign that was!


Helping My Mom To Understand

Now I decided that I had to start talking to my mother, and wondered how to go about it. It was a sad thing for her because in Craig's last weeks she had not seen him, it being too difficult to move her around in the car. So she was hurting from his death too and was of course concerned for me.

Little by little I started to share some things with her. I did not want to frighten her, but at the same time I thought it would give her a measure of comfort to know that we do not just die, we go on to another life in spirit, and we are very much aware. Over the days and weeks she woudl take all of this in and she was always eager to hear more, then reminding me about the time she saw her cat who had died. She had actually bent down to pet it and then it was gone.

I felt shame because she had told me this story way back when it happened; I listened but I didn't take it seriously. And then I had told her, when she asked that question about her sister, my aunt, that if she wanted to believe Auntie Mary could see us, then there was nothing wrong with that. Now she was hearing me saying the same things.

And then one day she told me a story. She said there was a spider coming down from upstairs. A big spider. Now, she lives in a condo; so of course I am saying to myself there is no way a spider can come down from upstairs. She's confused for sure! She kept mentioning this spider and then I realized she was referring to outside her window straight ahead from the way her wing back chair was facing, and where she would sit every day to look out at Lake Ontario and all the sailboats.

She continued talking about this spider. It would come down and then go back up. Then one day she said "I think that spider has something to do with Auntie Mary, remember how terrified she was of spiders". And then she says "remember the time I told you I was driving along in the car and Auntie Mary was in the passenger seat? Remember there was a spider on the visor in front of her and she was almost jumping out of the car, before I picked up the spider and threw it out of the window"!!

I have to be honest with you here. I thought mom was maybe seeing things, possibly some debris that had blown against her window. But then the day came where I saw this spider too and I couldn't believe it. Mom is on the 19th floor of her condo. I was left wondering what in the heck this big black spider was doing up that high, and how it was managing to stay in that space for days on end no matter the weather. Then one day she announced that the spider was gone, she thinks probably killed by the people upstairs. Nevertheless, we never saw it again.

Was this my mother's very special sign from her sister, whom she missed so very much? This is what I am told, and what I have read in my research. If a situation speaks to you and feels good, if it resonates with you at a time when you need it, then it is a message for you. No coincidences. I think my mom got her sign from her sister, in a way that mom would understand and relate to it. And isn't that wonderful!


Lynda Matthews

Author - A Breath Away


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    • craiglyn profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Yes, one of the ways that spirit visits us is in dreams. Strangely enough Ihave not had a dream about my aunt - and she was a favourite of mine. I have lots of signs and messages from my husband, and know he is with me all the time.

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 

      7 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      I have no doubts and believe in what your stories. I have aunts who've gone to a life that I think is giving their spirits now happiness. Them showing up in my past dreams do not mean that I was very close to these aunts of mine since we live in different cities. I guess it is because I am the eldest amongst all cousins (right and left). I've seen my aunts gleaming with happy stares and smiles,one in bright white and one in a spring coloured bold floral dresses looking straight at me. They both appeared to be happy and contented in separate dreams and I know that they are okay.

    • craiglyn profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Thank you so much for your interest and for your comments. : )

    • yoginijoy profile image


      7 years ago from Mid-Atlantic, USA

      Congratulations on the book! That is wonderful. I look forward to reading it! Great job!

    • craiglyn profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Thanks once again Angela. I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your son. I think that there can be nothing worse. It is hard enough to lose a loving spouse, but a son or daughter - it's just not right. I would love to read about your son. I will be checking out your hub page too in the meantime.

    • Angela Blair profile image

      Angela Blair 

      7 years ago from Central Texas

      Craiglyn -- add me to the believer group as I had a most unusual experience when my son died in Florida and I was in Texas. I've written about it. I loved this Hub and yes, one can choose to "receive" or not -- be sure and let us know when you're book's available! Best/Sis

    • craiglyn profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Hi yoginjoy - yes I totally believe as you do. In fact I know my husband is with me and I have learned to communicate telepathically with him as per my Hub "Speaking With Spirit". In fact I have written a book about my experiences over the past two years and it is about to be published - just waiting on the final details. It was a labour of love. When it is available I may create a Hub based on a chapter - or different exerpts. Thanks for dropping by and commenting.

    • yoginijoy profile image


      7 years ago from Mid-Atlantic, USA

      I believe that when we die we don't disappear but rather our energy shifts and we manifest in a different shape or form, sometimes it takes time for that process to occur, but it is possible to stay in touch with those who are emotionally connected to us. Just because we can't see them or they aren't in their previous form, doesn't mean they aren't there! Signs are everywhere--it is whether we choose to "see" them or not that is the question. Glad to hear that you are open to interpreting those signs as what they are: messages of love from your family!

    • craiglyn profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Yes, and thank you whonu. I have learned that like us here on earth, they have free on the other side too. I have really learned so much in the last two years.

    • whonunuwho profile image


      7 years ago from United States

      Craiglyn, I know, as you, we are with our loved ones for as long as they want to be with us and perhaps at some time they may go to visit another loved one. This has happened many times in my family's lives and it has to be a real phenomena. Nice story and enjoyed it as usual.

    • craiglyn profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Thank you Anne - and yes I do believe Craig led me to you. This would not be the first time. Whenever I am feeling unsure, or any little bit of doubt creeps in, it seems I am led to the computer to search something and up pops another connection. You certainly can link my hub to yours. I have to figure out to that with yours to mine. I'll do some checking and try to figure it out.

    • bac2basics profile image


      7 years ago from Spain

      Hi Lynda. There is no doubt in my mind that our loved ones do stay with us in spirit. That signs are sent from them to us, signs with so much significance..even going back to things from years ago that held special importance and such a strong memory that will tell us, and only us, that this is from the person we have loved and lost. Sort of like a personalised gift. Our Loved one´s will also be helping to guide well you know. Remember your first email to me ? I do , because you said Craig had led you to me. I am going to link this hub to some of mine Lynda, as we are on the same page with this. Hope that´s OK. Voted you up, awesome, beautiful and interesting. :)


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