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Six Great Bible Verses for Parents
No matter our readiness when we become parents, we remain parents for the rest of our lives. Whether our children are infants who need constant care, or independent adults who manage their own lives, good parents feel obligated to offer whatever help they can. Parents need continual wisdom and strength.
The following six verses are very helpful. The first establishes the proper approach to parenting; the second offers divine instruction concerning how to instruct the children; the other four point out the characteristics which all good parents develop. The knowledge and application of these Bible verses will empower daily and for the long haul.
(1) Children are a gift from the Lord,
they are a reward from him.
(Psalm 127: 3 NIV)
How would our approach to parenting be different if every time we looked at our children (or thought of those who are away from home), we whispered a prayer of thanks to God? It helps to embrace them as His gifts to us.
- The whole process of parenting helps us develop into the mature persons God intends us to be.
- When we see some of our personality traits in our children, we realize the far-reaching effect of our virtues or flaws.
- When we see in them qualities that we do not have, we learn to love other people who are not exactly like us.
- When they create financial needs, we learn to make sacrifices and to trust in God’s provision.
- While we train them in the direction God wants them to go we learn, we teach and we pray.
The first reward of good parenting is the parents' self-improvement.
(2) Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds . . . Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. (Deuteronomy 11: 18, 19 NIV)
We understand the significance of educating the children. This verse teaches that education is not limited to classroom activities. We instruct our children in teachable moments when we are sitting around the dinner table or around the television; when we are riding together or waiting at the stoplight; while we are in the supermarket or in the dentist’s office; when we retire at the end of the day. We also teach through the paintings on the wall, the logos on their T-shirts and the music we play. We can text or e-mail appropriate Bible verses and scripture principles in answer to questions. We are responsible for our children’s education and we can help them learn in a happy, comfortable, child-friendly atmosphere.
On Provoking the Children
- How Can You Avoid Provoking Your Child to Anger? | United Church of God
The Bible warns parents of the problems of provoking their children to anger or discouraging them. Here are some practical tips for avoiding these parenting pitfalls.
- 25 Ways to Provoke Our Children to Anger | Counseling One Another
This list is from a great parenting book: The Heart of Anger by biblical counselor, Lou Priolo.
(3) Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. (Colossians 3: 21 NKJV)
Primarily addressed to fathers, this verse reminds parents of their nurturing role. We are to encourage, not discourage; empower, not embitter. We provoke the smaller children by ignoring them, and by making promises we do not keep. We provoke the older children by pretending (outside the house) to be different than we truly are (inside the house). For example, we fuss with our spouses about being late, then the children watch us wait graciously for someone who doesn’t live with us; or we comfort strangers in a situation which is similar to that which we tell our own children is not a big deal. Children have a tendency to become upset with the parents’ God when they become upset with the parents.
Good parents are approachable, affectionate, and supportive. They give pleasure not provocation. Their children are happy to follow in their steps.
(4) The Lord is slow to anger and filled with unfailing love, forgiving every kind of sin and rebellion. But he does not excuse the guilty. He lays the sins of the parents upon their children; the entire family is affected—even children in the third and fourth generations. (Numbers 14: 18 NLT)
First, this Bible verse establishes the fact that God loves us. That does not negate the universal law of sowing and reaping. Both good and evil bear fruit, and our tendencies and habits bear fruit in our children and their children. This should be enough to make us think and rethink the decisions we make, the activities we engage in, the relationships we form—in general, how we live our lives. We are powerful influences on our children. Parents with devious pasts who repent can pray like Moses (Number 14: 19): “In keeping with your magnificent, unfailing love, please pardon the sins of this people, just as you have forgiven them ever since . . .” The children also should be taught the importance of surrendering their lives to God.
Mother (and Father), Do Not Fear
(5) So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. (Isaiah 41:10)
Sometimes the responsibility of parenting overwhelms us. At such times, we need to remember that we have supernatural help. We do not always involve God, but we should.
“Nothing is too great for Him to bear . . . Nothing that in any way concerns our peace is too small for Him to notice. There is no chapter in our experience too dark for Him to read; there is no perplexity too difficult for Him to unravel.” (Ellen White in Steps to Christ).
Share your parenting concerns with God and exchange your fear for His peace and courage.
(6) Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love. (1 Corinthians 13: 13)
Children who enjoy the love of their parents are among the most joyful and most productive. We have to love our children, no matter what. Love never fails. If we ever feel incapable of loving them, God the Source of love can help us love them. There are numerous stories about the power of a parent’s love; and no parent ever regrets loving his or her child. There is always hope for a child who has a loving and praying parent. Let's keep on loving them.
The Bible verses quoted in this article are from the New Living Translation unless noted otherwise.
© 2013 Dora Isaac Weithers