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Some times one path just is not the right one. Don't punish yourself, don't blame yourself, move on in love.

Updated on October 18, 2012

Those are trees that are 70-90 feet tall. This perspective makes them look small. Can you imagine a rim that is over a mile high?

So I got up this far and then .....
So I got up this far and then ..... | Source

By golly I have not finished the climb on several climbs, but the worst just happened, I did not try.

An update on this. I just failed to try on a huge hike. Reasons abound, but I did not and could not make this last hike. It is a milestone failure. I take solice my son and friends made it. Nankoweap is the name. And I will see it again.

Sometimes I fall down.

I suppose most everyone would like to reach and exceed their goals most all the time. I would and I think I could but sometimes it just does not happen. As I look back I can see these failings. Sometimes I have fixed them or rectified them. Sometimes just shake my head and the dirt from my shoes and move on.

But as I review I find that the reasons I have not succeeded are a jumble and inconsequential. The only fact that remains cognizant is that I failed, and even that not like a bad failure but simply noting that it occurred. You might be wondering what I am getting at – so am I!. Just kidding. The point is that somewhere some time ago, I stopped beating myself up about not being perfect. And somewhere in that time I also noted that reasons for failure are not very important. Now that might strike some as odd, and apparently not likely for me to learn from my mistakes. But the kicker is life changing

Learn to fall, be free of fear

Back a few I was coaching these wonderfully emotionally handicapped children to ski. They in fact acted great for me when we got them away from their parents,,, not unusual. Anyhow they were learning to race. As you would imagine racing requires some speed. Speed on skiis can be scary, especially for somewhat insecure children. So I took a page from an old football coach that would make all ball carriers practice running straight into 3 defensive linemen. You see the coach knew we were all a little afraid getting hit real hard, so he just made us do it until it was common and ordinary and no big deal. So what I did with the skiers was have them go real fast on easy terrain and then either stop fast or fall to the side. In no time at all falling was fun, and the lack of fear of falling opened up all possibilities with new found confidence. Fear of something, no matter how silly or real is like handicapping yourself from the starting gate.

Sometimes the Chimney climb seems right but is wrong

It was not the rock that preventing achieving this ascent -- It was an eagles nest -- which is taboo to disturb.
It was not the rock that preventing achieving this ascent -- It was an eagles nest -- which is taboo to disturb. | Source

And so what I most feared was the only way to succeed. So we overcome.

If I stop blaming myself for mistakes I have no need to justify myself. If I stop needing to justify my failure I have no reason to blame anyone or anything else for life’s struggles. If you stop and think about it, the only reason to lay blame on someone is to escape the blame ourselves, no self blaming, no reason to blame another.

Now bad stuff will keep on happening and bad people will do bad things and even good people are still going to make mistakes. But if we are carrying around a ledger board keeping track we are going to just keep on struggling along. If we no longer need to keep score in order to justify ourselves, we can let go of the blame game and enjoy the winning game.

As I started out saying, “sometimes I fall down”, I still do but quite often I find the view down here just fine and a little more peaceful.


Yes those are large Juniper trees. Right about here is where Jesus told me that it was disrespectul to have fear.

You see, how this ended up is irrelevant.
You see, how this ended up is irrelevant. | Source

Try to think this way: you would not do it. Try to think this way, nobody would do it.

Make sure the path you pick is your own.

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      Niteriter 4 years ago from Canada

      I make many mistakes. If I'm fortunate enough to be alone when I fail, I simply reset the goal, call it a victory, and everyone thinks I'm a hero!

      Okay, does it really matter that it's my dog who thinks I'm a hero?

      Good stuff. Keep writing.

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      Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Actually I would trust your dog,, you must be a hero

      Thanks for writing that note because humor and humility start out the same.

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      Dolores02 4 years ago from earth

      this is an amazing post. i love it :)

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      Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Very fun how it dovetails with your recent post. I think we need to keep it up.

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      Stacy Harris 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      I think for me, I have a tendency to live in the past. I think that is kind of the same thing. I fear change and I fear success. This was very eye-opening. It maybe hard but sometimes you just have to do it!

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      Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks for dropping by. I am with you. Fear.

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