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Speaking With Spirit

Updated on December 7, 2012

Together In Love

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The Start of My Journey

In the days, weeks and months following the crossing over of my husband Craig I experienced many things to tell me that he was still near, that he was still looking over me, and as I began to realize - was trying very hard to connect with me.

These were days of absolute heartache, but somehow in the midst of all of this pain and loss there seemed to be a promise of a new beginning. I could feel it, but I just could not totally imagine it, nor could I put a name to it. I carried on day after day trying to find solace in my memories, while at the same time daring to imagine that we could in fact "still be together".

The gifts I was receiving were all wonderful but somehow or other I could not get over this void - this feeling of not ever seeing my love again, feeling his arms around me and most of all never hearing his voice again. I remember one day a conversation that I hadwith him. It was in those final weeks of his life where he was lying in bed with me sitting on the edge of the bed beside him. He had called out to me as he needed to be shifted around a bit and when I sat down next to him he said "you must get so tired of hearing me calling you". To which I immediately replied "no Craig, I do not get tired of hearing you call me, because one day I will not hear your voice or hear you call my name". Immediately I regretted saying that because at that precise moment we both burst into tears. But it was an honest statement, said with honest emotion and I could not take it back.

Whispering In My Ear

I can well imagine Craig looking just like this - whispering in my ear!
I can well imagine Craig looking just like this - whispering in my ear! | Source

What Are Those Thoughts That Keep Going Through My Head

The days, weeks and months moved forward and we were approaching Christmas. One morning when I was in that state of half sleep/half wakefulness - I stirred, and as I was opening my eyes the precise thought went through my head "Just you and I". I rolled over to my back and immediately replied out loud "Know true love ways". And then on the heels of that, thought "where the heck did that come from". Nevertheless, in the following days I was reminded of the Buddy Holly tune "True Love Ways" and I smiled.

Another day, I forget what it was that happened, but the thought went through my head "That was delightful". This was not a term that I ever used, nor the word "delightful" to express my pleasure at something. This was something that Craig would say. However, at the time I thought to myself "Now I am starting to speak and think like Craig". And off I went to do whatever it was that I was doing.

Shortly after Christmas - as a matter of fact it was two days after New Years Day I woke up in the morning, once again in that "just waking up" mode and heard "Lynnie, loving you from the other side is easy". Again, this was not a voice - but very definitely was a thought that ran through my head. Would I say that to myself?? No - but I immediately replied "I love you too Craigie". I have to tell you that this was one of the most wonderful feelings I'd had since his passing. I got up with a big smile on my face and was ready to face the day. And what a day it was. There was a huge gift waiting for me, but I do not want to tell it here, because it is part of my book "A Breath Away".

Then I started remembering how sometimes in the middle of the night I would wake up and say out loud "yes Craigie" or "no Craigie". What was I saying yes or no to? I do not know, but it is obvious that I was conversing with Craig, somehow, and in my sleep. Was he whispering in my ear? I do not doubt it at all!


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The Pendulum

Through these months of grief, and my activity on different message boards I met a gal from Kentucky. We had much in common since she had lost her husband two years before. We shared our stories and experiences with the various signs and messages we were receiving. Then one day she suggested that she thought Craig would like to connect with me on the Pendulum. Indeed she had asked me a while back before this if I would be willing to put together a list of about 10 questions that she could ask for Craig to answer, through her husband.

I put together 10 questions, the answers to which she would have no way of knowing. She came back on email a couple of days later and gave me the answers - all of them correct. Then one day she encouraged me to try the pendulum telling me that she felt very strongly that Craig was trying to connect to me in a much stronger way. I said I would think about it, and immediately put it out of my mind for a couple of weeks. Quite truthfully I was afraid to do this. Then one day I decided to give it a try. I searched on Google and got information as to the proper way to go about this - i.e. saying the proper protection prayer beforehand. What did I need to say a prayer for? Is there a suggestion of bad spirits that could intrude? It seemed so.

Eventually I started, and by looping a gold twine through a birthday ring that Craig had bought me I felt I had the perfect pendulum. I started off with deciding what way the pendulum would swing for yes and no. Then I asked if I could please speak to the spirit of my husband Craig and to my shock the ring started to swing yes. I don't need to go into all of the details here, just to say that this was very exciting. I could not believe how high and fast that ring would swing on certain questions - "yes, yes, yes". I could feel the energy and I was thrilled. Then I graduated to the alphabet where I could get actual messages. I did this on and off for about two weeks and then I started getting scared. To be perfectly blunt here I believe I misunderstood a message at some point and I got nervous, and the more scared I got, the worse it got. Had I encountered a bad spirit?

I actually went to a candle shop one day to buy the appropriate stuff with which to "cleanse my house" . When I told the girl in the candle shop what I wanted it for, she immediately said "you don't have any bad energy around you, if you did I would know because I am a medium". That was a relief, but I still went through with the cleansing and now I can envision Craig grinning all along as I went from room to room with this smoking white cedar and sage. The end result of this though is that I decided that I did not want to go on the pendulum any longer. But what I did learn in this period of time of using the pendulum is that more and more I was already knowing what the message was going to be before it was spelled out. I was learning telepathy! And ultimately I thought "surely there has to be a better way to do this".

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Telepathy

One night and just shortly after I went to bed I was trying to think of a way that I could still get messages from Craig, without using the pendulum. This may sound bizarre to some, but please know that I am neither crazy nor delusional. This is very real. Recognizing that we are all energy, and that when we die, we simply shed our physical bodies but our spirit lives on in the form of energy, I decided to ask this question. "Craig, is there a way that if I ask you a question you can somehow use your energy to slightly move my body muscles (at the time I was laying in bed so I said my lower body) back and forth, up and down -whatever "twice for yes" and "once for no" and immediately my muscles contracted twice. I was kind of shocked, but then again not much, because of course I had felt his energy around me many times in this last year - either by a touch on the head or a movement on my bed. We were off and this was the start.

It was gradual but over this last year I have learned to have telepathic communication with Craig where I hear his thoughts go through my head, recognizing totally that they are not "my thoughts". I eventually realized that I was not just relying on "yes and no" ; I was having conversation, because indeed I had already heard thoughts earlier on, but didn't necessarily tune in to it. Sometimes I can hear his message with no difficulty at all, but when I can't get the message, and don't freak out at this, he can move my body slightly to and fro - upper body if I am sitting, so slight that no one would notice - and I can get every word he is saying.

Why is this? I don't really know, I can only guess at a number of things; we have a very very close bond - everyone who knew us says that; I remain very open and imagine I always have been . Apparently we all have a psychic ability; we just have to learn to hone it. Our spirit inside each and every one of us is energy, and maybe my energy has learned to vibrate at the same level as his energy, in other words I have raised my energy consciousness. If I am taking a walk around my neighbourhood, quite often I can have a reasonable conversation, in thoughts with him, and it is very clear. Is it because I am walking and using more energy? That then would explain why a simple movement of my body by his energy helps me get the message. All of this ! It has not always been easy, sometimes still I got scared and/or angry, but it has been months and months now and we are in such a perfectly beautiful spiritual relationship that I can no longer deny it. He has tried very hard to connect with me and of course I love it! Love never dies, just as energy never dies.

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Hello Lynda. Wow, what a fantastic hub and I am so happy Craig is coming through loud and clear. It wasn´t until you said about thoughts not being your own that I realised some of mine aren´t either. Not only that, but I have a friend who often say´s exactly what my husband would have said, in certain scenarios..this is so stunning when it happens that I am sure they are not his words, but have been passed through him from my Hearty. I also didn´t realise that I too communicated telepathically with my love, I know I hear his voice all the time in my head, but never thought of it as a telepathic communication until you put it into that format. I speak to him out loud all the time, and he speaks to me in my head. I must try and hone my skills as you have done. What ever, I know he comes and drops in in spirit, and I feel his love wrapped around me like a snuggly blanket always. Sometimes like you I find things happening..little signs that make me smile and when this happens I know it´s heartys way of telling me he loves me...so I just dsay outloud..I love you too Hearty. Voted this right across the board except for funny. A truly great hub and dedication to Craig. Thank you for sharing this Lynda, it´s beautiful.

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      Lynda 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Thankyou Anne. I do believe that's all it is, the ability to hone into it more. Also remember they are energy. I started by trying to feel his energy with my hand. A lady I know suggested that I hold out my hand and ask him to take it and I may feel tingles on my fingers. Maybe I wasn't patient enough, because it didn't seem to work for me. But what I did one night was while I was laying in bed, I propped my left arm on the bedsheet on the elbow - palm facing out and just lay there. In a few seconds I started to feel my fingers close down one by one - not in the way I would have closed my hand - very slowly -it didn't close all the way - but half way down and then I felt a thickness in the palm of my hand and slight tingles. I started to feel energy. I believe it is all about the energy. Try it.

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Hi Lynda. I have been trying for years to get hearty to hold my hand, but it never worked either. I will try a different tac now though after reading this.. The closest I came was when I felt heat on top of my hand and then across my shoulders when I was breaking my heart crying for him. It was such a powerful feeling that I knew he first had his hand on top of mine and then was giving me a hug.

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      Lynda 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      I can actually feel my upper body moving forward in bed when Craig wants to give me a hug, mostly when I am on my side. We converse (telepathically) first about that. I actually heard him say to me one night "I want to try to give you a hug, will you be scared?" Amazing!

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Wow that is truly amazing...how wonderful.

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      lyn...This is such a lovely story, especially of your close bond with Craig, your soul mate. I am anxiously awaiting the availability of your book.

      This is such a comforting concept, I find myself wanting to embrace it as very real....something I can genuinely believe. It' obvious this brings you joy and comfort.

      I simply have a strong tendency to appreciate that some people believe this so incredibly strongly that they literally CAUSE these things to occur. Honestly, it would have to happen to me, out of the blue and clearly, for me to think that these things happen.

      I am happy for you that you have this means to feel his presence. I would give anything to have felt this after losing the love of my life.

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      whonunuwho 4 years ago from United States

      A great share and I enjoyed and understand your feelings. My parents went through much of the same and when my pop died in an accident , my mom shared much of similar accounts that you have done in this work today. I have been married 37 years and I'm sure if one of us passes before the other that we will have many similar experiences since my wife is quite psychic and often has premonitions. Thanks for your wonderful message of hope that all can understand.

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      Lynda 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Oh you are so welcome! I think the more we get the word out the more people will start to think about it and believe. From your wonderful poems I can tell that you and your wife have a great love and respect for each other. You don't lose that just because one has to leave! : )

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      Lynda 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      fpherj - thank yo so much for your kind note once again. I understand totally what you are saying and believe me I never really expected this to happen. I am about to write a story with regards to a message regarding my favourite aunt who passed away in 2007. You will see that I did not get it at the time - but when I went back and thought about things after Craig passed away, I recognized the very strong sign that I had indeed received. You are not alone in being skeptical about this - not at all - and I appreciate wholeheartedly where you are coming from . I never dreamed this would happen to me and indeed in the beginning I doubted , but it got to a point where I could no longer deny. It just is. Could it be possible that after your love passed away you may have had some signs, but ignored them? If you are a "pragmatic" type of person as one of my friends says she is - then you would explain things away. There is a saying. " Whatever you focus your attention on increases". If we do not pay attention then eventually they give up. Could you try to connect now? Just some thoughts.

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      Gail Sobotkin 4 years ago from South Carolina

      Welcome to HubPages, Craiglyn,

      Sorry about the loss of your beloved husband.

      I, too, believe that love never dies and that we can sense the spirit of our deceased love ones in ways which you have discussed in this article.

      My mom passed away a few months ago and a few hours after her death I had certain thoughts that seemed to be coming from her and my head "automatically" started nodding and turned as if I were looking toward her. In that moment I strongly sensed her presence telling me she had passed to the other side and was with my father and brother and a peaceful feeling came over me.

      Thank you for sharing your own experiences. I believe many more people have similar ones but are afraid to say so to others.

      Voted up, awesome, beautiful and interesting.

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      Lynda 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Hi "Happy" Thanks for your wonderful comments, and for the welcome I am sorry for your loss of your mom too. My mom is in a nursing home and not that well and so I am facing the impending loss of her next - These last two years have been very hard indeed. But knowing that our loved ones can still be around us surely helps. Thanks you also for voting me up in the 3 categories.

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      flacoinohio 4 years ago from Ohio

      Hmmm..... Are you sure your husband crossed over? Nah, your trying to sell a book. Beautiful story though.

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      Lynda 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Ah -OK. I can understand where you are coming from - but no I had no idea about selling or even writing a book until earlier this March after many people on spiritual groups suggested I had lots to tell. The only thing I had done up to that point is blog about my genealogy searches. So, yes I believe he is crossed over, but what I have found out is that the hereafter is merely another dimension right next to us and they can be both places. My opinion and my experience of course - and until it happens to you, I guess it won't make sense. Thanks for stopping by and giving it a read, leaving your comment.

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Lyn...Maybe one day, we can exchange private email addresses and time willing, we can discuss this phenomenon a bit more in detail. Thank you dear lady. One of us can perhaps connect with the other via our hubpages contact availability...........Peace.

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      Lynda 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      I would certainly like that. No problem here. I have lots to share and am always more than willing to make a new friend. Can we not connect through these pages on email. I know another gal emails me. Will try in the morning. Bed time now - I just finished another hub - I so wanted to get 10 on. Now maybe I can take a break, but I am enjoying, so maybe not : )

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      Susan Haze 4 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Beautiful. Thank you for sharing your experiences. I truly believe that those we love never completely leave us.

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      Lynda 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Thanks for visiting koffeeklatch and leaving such a positive comment. It is so validating to know there are others around of like mind. : )

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      Hillary 4 years ago from Atlanta, GA

      You are indeed fortunate to have this communication with your dear departed husband. I enjoyed reading your story. The clairvoyant people I know can do this so easily, and they always say that if you practice, you can too.

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      Lynda 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Yes, I hear over and over again that we are all psychic, we just have to learn how to hone that ability. Somehow I have been able to do this. I owe a lot of it to my husband's persistance in trying to connect with me. Thank you for dropping by and leaving a comment. : )

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      Renee Abbott 4 years ago from Arizona

      Hi craglyn

      What a wonderful Hub. I too have lost my husband, and understand the pain you went through. Being a psychic-medium, I did have understanding of what was occurring after his death. One interesting point was I had dreams of events that would happen, which included him as spirit, prior to his death. Those all came through, and gave me a smile, and rememberance of discussing them with him, while he was still in physical body.

      Thanks again for this Hub.

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      Lynda 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Thank you so much Renee. While it was easy for you to understand what the process would be after your husband crossed over, I know how hard it still would have been. It is never easy to lose those that we love. I am in a different spot in my journey now - 2 1/2 years later, but I still miss him every day. Thanks once again for stopping by and commenting. Lynda

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      Renee Abbott 4 years ago from Arizona

      Lynda, next month marks 8 yrs, and I still miss him. Loss is Loss period. I remember a friend asked me to counsel a woman, who was considered, an elder and medicene woman by her tribe. When I gave her permission to mourn, she just melted in my arms. We might know the other side, but we lost the one we walked side by side here. It is hard, beyond hard, but the pain does melt away, though the sorrow of the loss remains.

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      MysticMoonlight 4 years ago

      Wow, this is really amazing. It is truly amazing when, after losing a loved one, we discover, in whatever way that it happens, that they never really ever leave us. What a special bond that you guys had while he was in his physical presence and now too that he is in his spiritual presence. It's proof that love never dies, no matter what, it's always there.

      I, too, have had things happen after losing a loved one. It was an extraordinary experience that I'm so very thankful for. It gave me such peace and comfort that I will carry with me always.

      This is a great Hub, thank you for sharing this beautiful story.

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      Lynda 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Thank you Mystic for stopping by and commenting. I continue to have this great relationship with my husband, and I am so thankful. It is not the same as having him with me physically, of course, but it is such a great comfort. I am hoping that by sharing my experiences, others will open up to the same things, and/or recognize what they are seeing and hearing. Hugs. Lynda

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