3 Excuses for Wearing Immodest Clothing (More Than Just What We Wear)
Let me share a little honest testimony, especially to my sisters in Christ, that I pray will be a blessing. It may be in a form of encouragement to keep going, a gentle reminder, a loving admonition; or an invitation to pray for one another in persevering against certain struggles.
I really can’t accurately point out as when it started or how it did but I’m pretty sure it began escalating when I entered high school. I’m talking about my obsession with clothes, and pretty much anything girly. From a walking Christmas tree to an explosion of colors and patterns, and to being a shopaholic mess. I wanted to wear everything, to be everything the society wants me to be. Sure I did it for my own self-satisfaction but deep down (maybe not that deep), I wanted to be accepted, to fit in, to be admired.
So years went ablaze and I found myself in the arms of Jesus! (John3:16/Ephesians2:8-9) I was in my second year in College when I got saved and it was the best thing that can ever happen to me, period. And as I progressed and grew as a Christian, the Lord taught me the battle against sin and how He has completely won the victory over it (Read Romans 6); but I was ought to be willing to trust and obey His every word. Right now one of my poignant struggles is M-O-D-E-S-T-Y.
Yep, the obsessed-sassy fashionista is now a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17-19). Will she be needing a new wardrobe? Just by looking at it already makes the answer crystal clear. Not all of it but the majority of it needed to say its goodbyes. Level of difficulty? Beyond the roof. Especially at the beginning, right now it’s getting much better. Still, no time for lapses and complacency.
Motivation? Honoring God. And that my brethren, should be our top desire in everything. For we live in a world where skirts are getting shorter, tops are hanging higher and higher, jeans getting tighter, and bikinis becoming a casual look; surely these things are not what every Christian lady should even consider wearing. We will indeed be tempted and that intensely, especially if you share a similar background like mine, but we must resist and look to Jesus for strength to turn from it. Remember, to live is Christ (Philippians 1:21), and that everything we do should be done for His glory! Jesus, only Jesus!
By that I want to list and try to explain some excuses we often latch on that only makes it more difficult to dress for the glory of God. Believe me I have more than once used these excuses. That’s why I’m writing about it now. And I really do pray that God will use this in wonderful ways for the edification of the saints. I would also love for you to pray for me in overcoming these. It will be really great for all of us to grow in our commitment in praying for one another! (John 13:35)
1. It's not my fault
Oh yes, the great defender. Seriously, we definitely have the makings of a great lawyer (not). You see, every time we put on sexy, suggestive, immodest clothing we always try to argue on how it’s not our fault if people (men) look (with lust). Come on! We look good! Thus, better selfies! More likes! What if they are just merely appreciating the view? You know, the view of boobies, too much legs and overly emphasized silhouettes.
- To justify something that we know (and claim to believe) is wrong (sin) yet act as if it can be relative and argued to be considered right is SIN! What God says is wrong is wrong, what He says is right is right.
- Of course they will look. They have eyes and that’s what eyes do. If we really do care about them, we should make sure they see Jesus in us and not an overexposed body.
- Stop blaming. Sure they are responsible for how they look at us but we need to constantly remind ourselves that we have a responsibility, too. And that is to do all that we can do to not give them any reason to lust over us. Agree?
2. Just one more time
Tonight is very special! I just have to look my best! A “little” cleavage
Oh, I can’t let Macy look better than me. My long skirts won’t do.
I guess I can wear this tiny dress…just one more time.
- It’s often when we have achieved immense progress that we suddenly catch the “just one more time” syndrome. A temptation so seemingly harmless, besides it will only be just this one last time. How bad can it be? Well, as bad as it has always been. You see temptations are very good at bargaining with us. It can give us the most appealing and sound looking offers. And it’s only going to be irresistible if we are resisting the conviction of the Holy Spirit.
- When Christ says that sin is no longer our master, it is indeed no longer our master! It’s when we forget or fail to completely trust the words of our Lord that we will certainly succumb to such temptations.
- Every time we yield to that “just one more time” syndrome, it will only turn into an unrelenting excuse that will never see its “last time.”
3. I promote modesty
- It’s great to be an advocate of modesty but what good will it really be if our life is completely disconnected from what we speak to believe? It is possible to know modesty and feel strongly for it yet fail to actually embody it.
- What makes it worse is when we use it as a platform to demoralize other people. I’m not saying we are to sugar coat modesty, what I’m saying is, to always speak the truth in love.
- And as we speak of it let us not forget to live it. Because if we only do the former then that will not be obedience, it will be hypocrisy. And that is something that will greatly dishonors our Sovereign and Holy God.
More Than Just What We Wear
Modesty does not focus solely on what we wear but on how we desire to honor God. Modesty is not just a command to cover ourselves up nor should it be a pathway to legalism. Rather, it is all about testing our faith and genuine devotion to the One who has given us everything (Read Ephesians 1). Sure it will be hard but Jesus promised that we can through Him. But if we really don’t want to obey Him then we will find millions of reasons and excuses to justify ourselves. For if we truly want to obey and honor our God then it will not only be a command to burden us but a privilege; a humbling invitation to glorify our Lord and Savior. What a privilege it is indeed to honor God, not just by our clothing, but with the overall way we carry ourselves and that in a manner worthy of our Lord. (Philippians 1:27)
"Christians create a similar kind of deception when they fail to maintain a physical appearance that reflects true Christian values. What is seen on the outside should be a reflection of what is on the inside. Every outward expression of a believer—whether it is their dress, their manner of speech, or their actions—should reflect the reality of Christ in the heart. That is true for everyone, not just women to whom this passage was originally addressed."-Modesty: a matter of the heart, published by; http://erlc.com/
“...likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control…”-1 Timothy 2:9
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Modesty in all aspects of life, whether in clothing or speech or actions, really is a matter of the heart. Unlike the geode whose beauty is trapped inside until
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