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Surrender vs Giving up
There have been times when I’ve wanted to throw in the towel and just give up. You try so hard to do something, you give it your all, but nothing you do makes any changes. Do you give up? Are you fed up of it all? It can be tough especially when it comes to achieving your dreams. I believe that when it comes to your dreams, giving up isn’t an option. You can surrender but you should never give up.
Giving up is just that. It’s when you’ve had enough. It’s when you can’t go on anymore and things aren’t changing. I’ve given up on a lot of things. Things that just weren’t changing, things that stayed the same no matter how hard I tried. To give up sounds a little bit negative. It says that you no longer have the power to make the change you want to see. It is said that most people give up just before the breakthrough. So many people are not successful today all because the gave up too soon. It is said the darkest hour is just before dawn. Henry Ford went broke five times before he found success. If he had given up, mobility wouldn’t be where it is today. If he had given up, how many of us would be driving today. Giving up not only affects you, it affects the future generations.
It can be hard at times, especially when you’ve put everything into it but I also believe that if you keep at it you will succeed. It is said that fortune favours the bold. How bold are you? Will you keep getting up after you’ve been knocked down? How many times have you tried, 5 times? 10 times? That’s not enough. It is said that Thomas Edison’s teacher said he was too stupid to learn anything. Edison made 1000 unsuccessful attempt at inventing the light bulb. A reporter asked him how it had felt to have failed 1000 times, Edison replied, ‘I didn’t fail 1000 times. The light bulb was an invention with a 1000 steps.’ If you ever feel like giving up, always remind yourself of Thomas Edison. Have you tried 1000? If not keep going and don’t give up until you achieve what you want.
Surrender is totally different to giving up and sometimes I think people confuse the two. When you surrender you let go of the outcome, you let go of how your success is going to happen. Unlike giving up, you don’t give up, you keep working on your goals and dreams but you surrender the results. This will help you to stay focused on your dreams and your goals. I’ll give you an example. July last year I published my first novella, I tweeted it, blogged, advertised it, placed it on kindle boards. I did everything possible to get my book out there. But after all my hard work, I got little or no sales. The novella wasn’t flying off the shelf. I could’ve done one of two things, given up writing because I didn’t believe it worked or I could start writing another book. I did the latter.
When you do something you have an idea in your head how you want it to work out. I wanted the novella to take off from the beginning. When this doesn’t happen we feel great disappointment. The disappointment has come from the idea we created in our minds how it was supposed to happen. When we surrender and let go of how our success should come then we will not be discouraged. So many people give up on their dreams because they had an idea about the outcome. Surrender the idea and keep going with the dream. I’ve told myself unless I’ve written 100 books there is no room for me to say I’ve failed. Failing isn’t an option, failing is only when you give up and stop trying all because you had an idea of how it should’ve turned out.
Don’t give up on your dreams; instead work on them to perfect them and when you fall. Get up, dust yourself off and start all over again. Until you’ve failed a 1000 times like Edison there is no excuse to quit. And even if you get to the 1000th try, try again, and try again. The only time you give up is when there is no longer any breath in your body.