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Tongues and Swords

Updated on April 3, 2012

Sharp as any double edged sword



They sharpen their tongues like swords and aim cruel words like deadly arrows. Psalm 64:3 (NIV)

Too many times have I seen or have heard, one person belittle another just to give their point of view. It seems an all out assault must be launched, in an effort to decide a victor in the battle over who is more correct. The manners of those engaged have been less than civil to put it mildly, at some point during these dialogues, we must carefully consider how we reply and with what content or whether we should even reply at all.

When two or more feel so passionate about an idea, lifestyle etc., we must decide, tactfully, how to proceed. If we offend, we never can persuade each other to consider the idea we have presented. If we are also seemingly unwilling to listen, we can in turn expect the same indifference towards our thoughts.There is however, no excuse for rudeness, we all have differing ideas, but to treat someone with such attitudes as you would not display to even a pushy telemarketer, is a display of just bad manners for all to see. I have had others contact me via e-mail for the sole purpose of intending harm through a verbal assault. If made through messaging, you may feel better venting your non-approval of other's ideas, but you have shown your apparent lack of self-control.

Pen is mightier...


Can a fig tree, my brethren, bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Thus no spring yields both salt water and fresh. James 3:12 (NKJV)

Do you consider yourself a courteous and decent person, have you lost your patience with others, unable to tolerate ideas that are not your own? If you do and if you have found yourself lately with a shorter fuse, you are not alone. We have all been there. I believe we have a deep want to be right, who hasn't felt this?

With spiritual growth comes patience, in fact through faith we develop endurance and through endurance, we develop character. My own ideas not always being correct, criticism can sometimes feel unbearable, yet through the patience and grace of others I can grow from this kindness from others exponentially. Perhaps if we all share in developing each others ideas in an ever increasing basis, we may become not only a kinder generation, but perhaps a more productive one.

I once heard a description of how we should deal with those who have been unable to escape the death grip of addictions. It was explained to me that we need to keep our emotions completely detached in addressing those with whom we have relations. This, unless perhaps you are very self-controlling, would be rendered fairly inadequate information. Through emotions, our feelings are expressed and not repressed, the more repression we endure the more likely we are to have outbursts of unchecked emotion, these often result in offending all others we may be having dialogue with.

You can add words, but you can't take away

Is there hope?

How might we apply, what we expect to receive as a courtesy, in dialogue? A tendency of writing "off the cuff" remarks will only further isolate an individual who does not agree with your thoughts.

I recall Paul saying in 1st Corinthians 1:18 (KJV) For the preaching of the cross is to them that perish foolishness; but unto us which are saved it is the power of God.

We may use this scripture in a way never intended, it was not intended for the believer on the basis that we should feel superior, only that we should be thankful and even more that we should be hopeful another way is found for the message to be understood. We must also consider, that not all will believe the message.

The arrogant individual will never admit any theory or evidence contrary to their beliefs should be given merit. As far as religion may be concerned, this is a matter of faith, of hope, we already have material blessings, yet even in those blessings, many have sought more than what those blessings offer and now consider the gospel to be truth. The same can be said for science; man has sought understanding of why or how and set forth in theory and experimentation, to do their best to prove them right, some succeed and others fail. But I do listen with as open a mind as I can have, to each suggestion and try hard, very hard not to close the door until admitting enough fresh air as to keep my brain from being challenged.

A great deal of people, from many persuasions, consider all ideas subject to contest. I mean this in such a manner as in a debate, unfortunately and not so unlike the current political banter we have and will continue to hear, too many times the rebuttal becomes offensive.

I'm not sure how that makes you feel, referring to the negativity, but I am usually to be found avoiding such confrontations, I would rather encourage we allow each to air their beliefs first and then consider what we deem useful and what we should believe discarded.

My mother always said, as has so many mothers said "If you don't have anything good to say, say nothing."

Common bond

So where does this leave us? When everything that we disagree on is stripped away, a common cause may be at least our family and the concern we hold for their well being.

Too many people have lost sight of the fact we are all going to perish. I would rather be remembered, if for nothing else, as a considerate and caring individual and not as a brash and apathetic individual. To be like Jesus, that is my hope, his behaviors, his morals, but more...his understanding of common struggle, a belief in the hope, of the One who sent him. Again, we may disagree on the existence of God or even Jesus for that matter, but to disagree on hope, well that may as well be the end of all humanity.

Unless we be willing to keep our tongues sheathed, we are surely headed to a very dark time. All anyone needs to do is look around them, since the close of the post World War II reparations, we have become a world of people in search of civility and in need of radical change.


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      noturningback 5 years ago from Edgewater, MD. USA

      Thank you Jackie and Michele for your continued support, not only here, but elsewhere and all of it aimed at making this world a little brighter ?

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      Michele Travis 5 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

      This is a very good hub. Didn't Jesus say we should not judge each other? So, what other people say we should respect them. Why do we criticize other people so much? To make ourselves look smarter? That usually does not happen. Anyway, thank you very much for sharing this hub. I hope more people read it. Voted up!