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The 12 Universal Laws: The Law of Allowing
What is the Law of Allowing?
The Law of Allowing is one of the lesser known among the universal laws, which is unfortunate, since it's incredibly powerful! When used properly, the Law of Allowing is essential to a proper understanding of the Law of Attraction. The cornerstone of the Law of Allowing is releasing your resistance and attachment to things, people and ideas and allowing the universe to operate for your highest good. Sounds simple, right?
Resistance and the Law of Allowing
Resistance is easier to explain in terms of what it does than what it is. Resistance leads to energetic blockages that prevent energy from flowing freely through your life. When you understand that everything is energy and all of the Universal Laws are essentially explanations of the natural patterns and rules energy follows naturally, you understand why this is such a big deal.
Blocked energy means that the things you are trying to attract--abundance, love, money, more free time, good health, happiness, etc.--are unable to move freely into your life. The Law of Allowing is all about letting go of that resistance so the universe can keep working for your highest good.
Emotion and the Law of Allowing
The Law of Allowing requires you to manage your emotions--note, I said manage, not suppress or dismiss!--in a way many people are not accustomed to doing on a conscious level. Resistance isn't something you can simply undo. It's a habit and like all habits, the most effective way to break it is to replace it with a positive habit! Recognize the negative emotions that make up your resistance in any given situation. Doubt, fear, criticism, cynicism, skepticism, irritation, reluctance. These can all be appropriate feelings depending on the situation, but if you find them cropping up when it comes to manifesting your desires, it's time to let the Law of Allowing do its thing!
If you try to overcome your resistance by force, you'll simply lead to a cycle of failure or emotional suppression, guilt, regret and self-blame, which leads to more of the negative emotions that create resistance in the first place! Instead, you need to begin overcoming resistance by learning to recognize it. When you feel those unproductive emotions coming to the surface, don't push them away or chastise yourself for feeling them to no avail. Instead, acknowledge them and work through them. Ask yourself why you're feeling doubt or anger or confusion regarding this thing you want to manifest and get to the bottom of it. So much of shadow work is about being your own emotional detective!
Learning to Allow
We live in a world where the ability to self-censor and deny your emotions is seen as a virtue. It takes a lot of conscious effort to overcome these inborn beliefs. Even if you were raised with parents who encouraged your creative and emotional expression, you were likely educated by a school that required you to sit down and fall in line with the status quo! Putting the Law of Allowing to work requires patience, first and foremost. Patience with yourself, patience with your circumstances, and patience with the energy in your life as it rearranges itself for your highest good. You have to retrain your brain to let energy flow freely, and that includes your own emotions. Rather than always censoring and blocking, try allowing your feelings to play themselves out. Let yourself feel the good and the bad without judgment, and pay attention to what that state of allowing feels like.
Allowing Without Judgment
Judgment is the greatest enemy of spiritual progress. While there is a time and a place for judgment, it's not when it comes to putting the Law of Allowing into action. The Law of Allowing is objectivity in its purest form. This isn't to say that you just accept bad things passively, and certainly not bad behavior that is directed at you! The Law of Allowing doesn't require you to check your self-esteem at the door. Quite the opposite. It simply allows you to let go of the illusion of control over things that you realistically have no control over. You can't control whether your boss chooses to yell at you, but when the Law of Attraction is at play, you can choose not to become complicit in his bad behavior. In many cases, we partner with the mistakes of others in an attempt to maintain control. This is the opposite of allowing! Someone in resistance may make justifications for this inappropriate workplace behavior, or become complicit by responding in an equally inappropriate way.
What does the Law of Allowing at work look like in our theoretical scenario? You recognize that your boss has the right to choose his own behavior, but your boundaries remain unchanged. In assertiveness and love, you respond by calmly reinforcing your right to be treated with respect and dignity in the workplace. The Law of Allowing is about accepting what you cannot change and remaining assertive--neither enforcing your will on others nor allowing them to enforce theirs on you--in the cases where you do have control.
A huge part of the Law of Allowing is letting go. When things happen that you wish wouldn't happen, you still have control over how you respond. While the phrase "no one can make you feel anything you don't allow" may sting, there's a grain of truth to it. When we take things personally or hang onto grudges, we are taking a justified reaction (anger, hurt, confusion, etc.) and allowing it to become something toxic. The problem is that it is toxic to ourselves and changes nothing for the better! The other person is not affected in any way, shape or form by you holding onto a grudge. You're not only giving them more energy but allowing them to take up residence in your head and heart that could be used for much better things. How does this happen? It always begins with resistance. Grudges form when we don't allow ourselves to work through our negative (and justified) emotions regarding a specific situation. Over time, the emotions congeal and become something else, seeping out into the rest of our emotional range. Because those emotions no longer pertain to anything in particular and they have never been resolved, they become toxic and difficult to uproot.
The Law of Allowing in its purest form means letting go of your resistance, letting go of grudges, letting go of attachment to things and emotions that no longer serve you, and recognizing that it is all for your benefit. Consider the Law of Allowing the necessary pruning of a garden. You are pulling up the weeds that would choke out the flowers (the things in life you want to manifest). The process is thorny and tiresome, but it is necessary in order to achieve the results in life that you desire.