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The Parable of the Little Debbies

Updated on May 2, 2010

Judge Not

Copyright © G. Wasdin All rights reserved.

“I can’t believe that’s all she brought,” Dee spewed in indignation. “She signed on to make her homemade sausage balls and then shows up with store-bought snack cakes and all she did was slice them! Why Angela’s a pastor’s wife,” she continued in disdain.

My own struggles of the last few months and the countenance of the woman whose bridal shower food contribution was causing Dee’s stew led me to a surprising, for me, reply.

“Well, Dee, we don’t know what she might have going on in her life right now.” I was speaking from my own experience. “Maybe something more pressing came up.” I knew for me, the “more pressing” thing was my lack of energy which I learned some months later was due to fibromyalgia and a sleep disorder.

I didn’t know the accused personally, only that she was a local pastor’s wife. I did know the look I saw in her eyes, the way she smiled wistfully and that something or more likely Someone had communicated to me that all was not well in Angela’s world.

Usually I would not have been so forgiving. I might have even jumped on the condemnatory bandwagon with Dee. After all, I had really pushed my frazzled self to make my special mushroom squares and had arrived early in order to bake them up fresh for the shower.

“Well, don’t you think I should call her up and tell her that as a pastor’s wife she should set a better example?” Dee was demanding my reply.

“No,” I somewhat timidly but with full conviction countered.

Dee was not satisfied, but let the subject drop.

Did Dee call Angela and upbraid her for her slipshod performance? I don’t know and I won’t ever ask as just a few short months later the community was shocked to learn that Angela had terminal cancer.

My ailments pale in comparison to Angela’s, but they constantly remind me to grant compassion to those whose energies, for whatever reason, do not allow them to live up to the expectations of others.

I am so glad that Jesus demands of me only what he gives to me to give.

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    • U Neek profile imageAUTHOR

      U Neek 

      8 years ago from Georgia, USA

      You are so right, mquee. There are more people than we realize who are hurting because of unjust judgements. Thanks for reading.

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      8 years ago from Columbia, SC

      This is great, because there are more examples of this than many of us realize.

      Several years ago, a fellow worked for the same company I work for. He started missing a lot of work. When he was there, he worked hard, in spite of this he earned the reputation of being lazy.

      As it turns out, he was very sick, having some form of herpes, and I am not sure this was what he had. At any rate whatever he had was life threatening and at the same time his wife left him. As it turns out, he killed himself.

      He had been judged and labelled by co-workers not knowing his situation. As usual, after such an event, he was suddenly judged as popular and hard working.

      We never know what our sisters and brothers are going through. This hub can be a blessing to others, if they read with an open mind.

    • U Neek profile imageAUTHOR

      U Neek 

      8 years ago from Georgia, USA

      Yep, Gus, it's easy to be high and mightly until I have to walk in another's shoes. Thanks for reading!

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      Gustave Kilthau 

      8 years ago from USA

      U Neek - As the saying goes, "You have to walk in the other's mocassins..."

      Gus :-)

    • U Neek profile imageAUTHOR

      U Neek 

      8 years ago from Georgia, USA

      Thank you, lxxy. I appreciate your compliments.

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      8 years ago from Beneath, Between, Beyond

      Rather inspirational, thank you.

      And I think that your comment about this lady who dare not set a "better example" is well crafted.

      Time flies when you're spinning around.

    • U Neek profile imageAUTHOR

      U Neek 

      8 years ago from Georgia, USA

      Dolores and Seakay, thank you for your kind remarks. I hope I remember to heed this lesson!

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      8 years ago from Florida

      Compassion can be an incredible ally. Unfortunately, sometimes our tempers forsake us. Great write!

    • Dolores Monet profile image

      Dolores Monet 

      8 years ago from East Coast, United States

      U Neek - love the humor, common sense, and compassion in your parable. A lesson for us all.

    • U Neek profile imageAUTHOR

      U Neek 

      8 years ago from Georgia, USA

      Maggs, I think we are kindred spirits! I'll be reading your hubs regularly!

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      8 years ago from Sunny Spain

      I loved this hub and I love it when I meet people, who extend a little grace to others, so I am glad to have met you through this hub. You have won yourself a fan.

    • U Neek profile imageAUTHOR

      U Neek 

      8 years ago from Georgia, USA

      A "well said" from a writer such as yourself is very encouraging to me. Thank you, Georgina_writes!

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      Georgina Crawford 

      8 years ago from Dartmoor

      Well said! We should all be more tolerant.

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      U Neek 

      8 years ago

      Thank you for the affirmation, Pollyannalana, and the welcome!

    • Pollyannalana profile image


      8 years ago from US

      Great hub..and lesson. Welcome


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