The Relative Aspects Of Situations And Existence
I wrote this many years ago:
You sit and wonder why people do the things they do. You see people messing things up so bad and yet, some of those people end up doing ok. Others try their hardest and end up on the bottom. Why is this? Things are relative and yet, there does seem to be a force and a dark side.
Why is it wrong to be unforgiving? Although I want to forgive all evil deeds, I simply cannot. If I forgive, will that be a license for the evil doer to continue with their evil deeds----will they see my forgiveness as weakness and seek to exploit it? If I forgive, will that relieve the evil doer of guilt? If I do forgive, I am not so sure I will feel better. It is easy to say I'm sorry but true forgiveness comes from within; paying lip service is futile. Is forgiveness supposed to make me friends with the person who caused me the pain?
Is revenge justified or does an eye for an eye philosophy leave everyone blind? Does time heal all wounds or does it simply make them less painful? We would like to think there is justice on the human level and sometimes there is. We want to believe that somehow, someone somewhere will right wrongs that have been done but in many instances, it does not appear to happen. Justice often comes via karma but many times we do not get to witness it. Other times it seems there is no justice.
Buddhism states that limiting or eradicating your desires is the way to go and yet is not wanting this state a desire? Most things are relative and if you disagree then you have just made your disbelief an example of it.
Nothing lasts except the phenomenon of impermanence. Because of this, nothing good lasts and because of that I am sad. The good news however is that nothing bad lasts either and for that I am pleased.
Some say there is no good and bad; that there are only things people do but I disagree. There is good and bad but sometimes judgement gets clouded and one becomes confused. Through clear thinking, this cloudiness lifts and what is left is focused insight. This is what helps one along the path when it comes to thinking about good and bad. Most situations however do seem to be relative...via the differing perspectives of those involved.
We all make mistakes but one can limit mistakes or turn a failure into a success if one learns from it. Some are dealt a good hand and do poorly while others play a poor hand well. The situation, the timing, the time, the setting and the actors involved has a great deal to do with our experiences and perceptions. Because of this, what succeeds in one situation is doomed to fail in another. You must judge accordingly to get a feel for what will happen.