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The first steps

Updated on December 3, 2019
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So. You will love it! So excited! So please bare with me! :)

Newer give up!

10 years ago... I remember when I felt like no one believed in me. Not even the ones who meant the most to me. I remember a couple of months before I left my home I was discouraged by many friends and family members. It wasn't that they weren't happy for me, but they were afraid of what would happen once I left. I remember at one point in time when people used to tell me I was too "shy" and too "insecure" about myself to go away. I guess they felt like I would let my peers take advantage of me. I had to prove them wrong. I had to be that tough person that I knew was in me so that I would make the worried ones, relieved....but it's not that easy as it appears to be when you haven't experienced BIG PROBLEMS IN YOUR LIFE.

I need to be thankful:
Going off to college really helped me to become more realistic about things. It wasn't any more praising or people being happy for me. It was all about competition. I asked myself, is this what college is all about? No honey, that's LIFE. I also had to realize that I am blessed despite what negative people may think. I had to keep telling myself, I am smart even though I don't have a 4.0 GPA... I have to continue to work hard so that my dreams will come true. I just had to learn to be thankful, and appreciative of making it this far. I have to be patient. Patience indeed is the key to success!

Being a woman:
Does having sex with a boy/man, and the boy/man telling you he "loves you" make you a woman? Or maybe having a child, that you can't take care of and wearing sexy clothes? No. That's not even the beginning of womanhood. I've learned something very important: You have to learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else, and what I mean by that is relationships. I can't even tell you how many guys I've "talked" too since I've been in college....but that's beside the point... What I'm saying is if I had the type of respect I have for myself now, I wouldn't have talked to 3/4 of the guys who've come my way. My definition of a woman is not just a female, but A STRONG, confident, young lady who knows what she wants, and doesn't need anyone else but herself and (God) to make her happy. Real women attract Real Men, and Girls attract Boys... Becoming a REAL woman doesn't happen overnight. It takes time.

It's time for change:
I remember at one point in time I was going through a downfall. I thought I was going to give up because nothing was working out for me. I doubted myself because I let people discourage me and tell me that's not real instead of keeping my goals. I let so much negativity discourage me at one point of time. I start noticing I wasn't that happy, cheerful person I used to be before I left for school. Two years had passed by and I felt like I was still in the same place I was when I first started college. I knew something had to change, so I finally woke up. I told myself even though I can't do something here it doesn't mean I can't do it somewhere else. That's when the blessing occurred.

I didn't give up hope because I knew for a fact things would work out for myself. Sometimes you have to go through bad times to have GREAT successes. Just think, at one point in time it was so many people doubting on me because of my extremely shy personality. Now I conduct training for strong women. I will share with you the secrets of success, health, and independence! Ain't that something? You know it makes me feel good to know I have young ladies that look up to me.I never thought in a million years I would know young ladies that look up to me as their inspiration. Being strong isn't easy, and I overcame a lot to get where I am now, and this is just the beginning for me.
Word of advice: never give up on your dreams, and believe in yourself. I never said the road to success would always be smooth, you have to learn to be strong through the bumpy paths. All of your experiences in life you learn from them, I know I have, and I'm still learning. Just remember to keep God first, and anything is possible!


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