Tame the tongue first.
Learning how to speak to others
A wholesome tongue is a tree of life: but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.
Teachers are going to have more trouble, the word will offend the flesh.
Boasting-esteem own self, I got it, I did it, I know it.
17 Do not ye yet understand, that whatsoever entereth in at the mouth goeth into the belly, and is cast out into the draught?
18 But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man.
19 For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies: These are 20 the things which defile a man: but to eat with unwashen hands defileth not a man.
That which is in your heart shall come forth out of your mouth.
Greetings, speak well of people
Good word or advice, peaceable not quarrelsome, refers to the state and conditions of men and women, exhorting, entreating, etc.
Avoid speaking evil.
Falsifying, speaking evil
Speak of bad things, gossip, prosperity, gain, lies, hypocrisy, etc.
Bridle-the portion of gear or harness fitted to the head of a horse by which it is governed or restrained.
Anything that goes out negative which is aimed at a particular person, will affect that person. If you call a person a nasty name it will affect that person instantly; he or she will develop low esteem and in the long run that person which spoke it will suffer what they sowed because what was sowed will come up again and will affect that person. Often times, offences will come in ways we will not accept; it may not be so harsh at the moment, but when we think about it down the line, it hurts. There is an old saying, "sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me." That old saying is a total lie, words do hurt, offend, causes anger, ill-will, hard feelings, or even un forgiveness. We as individuals must be careful with our choice of words lest at any point we may face the consequences of being cursed out, assaulted or even slandered in return. When someone is angry with you and seems to want to assault you, what is the best thing to do in that situation? Show kindness in return to cool that person's anger off, this will result in a more peaceful outcome rather than a direct altercation that is really not necessary. We can't call people ugly, nasty, hurtful names and think we're getting away with it so easily, to be quite frankly, we wouldn't want people to call us those hurtful names either, in any case, offences are offences and we can avoid it using wisdom. Sure enough, the written word will in many cases offend the flesh; why? because the carnality of man isn't ready to hear the truth at the time because the word will hit him where he really don't want to hear it. I found out the hard way that, not everyone will be ready to hear sound doctrine, they will run from it rather than embrace it, and change later on in life for the better. There is a way to speak to our children, our co-workers, our employers, our friends, our families, our husbands and wives without offending them. Many marriages fall apart because the husband never really learned the wife's spirit, or the wife never really learned the husband's spirit. Know what makes your spouse upset and avoid that, and you will have peace with each other. Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without no man shall see the Lord.
But the tongue can no man tame ; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.
Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God.
Are we to curse men who are made in the likeness of God? surely not, but men do it all the more not thinking about what is really taking place here; they are doing it as though they were as to God. So bless me and do not curse them who are in the likeness of God. wouldn't you want to receive a blessing rather than a curse from mankind? Our fore Fathers blessed their seed after them and they were blessed. Likewise, bless your children and speak a blessing into their lives and they will be as you have decreed. Do not even use God's name as a cuss word, and do not use it in vain, for the Lord will not hold that man guiltless who uses his name in vain.