The Way to Achieving Islamic Manners
The Islamic Sharee'ah(Law) is a complete and comprehensive one, which concentrates on building the Islamic personality in all areas, including manners and etiquettes. Islam attaches great importance to this subject, which connects ones faith and their manners.
The Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi was sallam said:"The most perfect believers in their belief are those that are the best in manners."(Ahmad,Abu Dawood & Tirmithi).
Noble manners are the fruit of belief and a reflection of it, because belief with poor manners is fruitless. In fact the Prophet sallalaaahu alayhi wa sallam informed us that one of the greatest objectives of his prophet hood was to complete noble manners, when he said: "I was only sent to complete noble manners." (Ahmad, & Bukhari in the book titled Al-Adab Al-Mufrad).
Indeed you are on an exalted standard of manners
This is why Allah praised His Prophet sallallaah alayhi wa sallam saying what translates as: "Indeed you are on an exalted standard of manners" (Quran-68:4).
How can this be compared with man-made theories and materialistic ideologies which have abandoned the issue of manners, and which were established upon the principles of mere materialistic gain and the oppression of others such as stealing the wealth of other nations and humiliating their citizens?
Islam demonstrates in a marvellous way exactly how the Muslim should be in his relationship with Allah, His Prophet sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, other people and even himself. The more a Muslim adheres to the manners laid out by Islam in his daily practices, the closer he gets to achieving his desired perfectionism, which raises his rank with Allah and bring closer to Him.
On the other hand, when a Muslim is distanced from Islamic manners and etiquettes, he is in drifting away from the very essence of Islam and its basic tents, and has become like a robot which is devoid of a soul or any human feelings.
All acts of workshop in Islam are interconnected with manners, and any act if worship which dose not result in adding to a person's noble manners is valueless. Allah has explained that salaah(prayer) protects a person from evil and great sins, which has great impact on purifying ones soul and elevating it, Allah says what translates as: "Indeed, Salaah prevents from(all) evil and great sins(of all kinds)". (Quran-29:45).
Siyaam(fasting) also leads to piety which is the greatest of the noble manners, as Allah says what translates as: "O you who is believed! Observing Siyaam us prescribed for those before you, that you may become pious". (Quran-2:183). Siyaam results in many other good manners such calmness, tranquility, forgiveness, and turning away from the foolish. The Prophet sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam said: " On the day one of you is fasting, he should avoid obscenity and clamour, and abstain from marital relations with his wife, if anyone insults him is abuses him, he should say: I am fasting" (Bukhari & Muslim).
Zakaah(obligatory charity) also cleanses the hearts and purifies the souls and gets rudof diseases such as miserliness and selfishness, as Allah says what translates as: "Take charity from their wealth in order to purify them and sanctify them with".(Quran-9:103)
The hajj (pilgrimage) is a practical institute for purifying the souls from hatred, as Allah says what translates as, " So whosoever intends to reform Hajj, therein by assuming (Ihram) then he should not have marital relations, nor commit sin, nor dispute unjustly during the Hajj" (Quran-2:197).
The Prophet sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam said: "He who performs Hajj and does not have sexual relationship with his wife (therein), nor commits sin will come out of Hajj just as (sinless as) the day mother gave birth to him" (Bukhari & Muslim)
Essential Islamic manners
- Returning Trusts
- Fulfilling covenants
- Dutifulness to Parents
- Maintaining ties of Kinship
- Kindness to Neighbours
- Generosity to Guests
- Generosity to General
- Patience and Tolerance
- Reconciling between People
No person could ever complain about any of these manners, because they are manners which coincide with human nature and if Muslims adhere to these great manners, people would come to them all direction and would enter into the religion of Allah in crowds, just as people did as a result of the manners of the early generation of Muslims.